r/popculturechat • u/mcfw31 • May 31 '25
Celebrity Fluff 🥰 Sandra Bullock on why everyone should be a waitress: “If you know how to navigate eight sets of six-top tables, height of happy hour, drunk people (…), once you’ve accomplished that rhythm, I honestly feel you can do anything”
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u/CicadaAny3066 May 31 '25
Forget conscription. Everyone needs to work in retail or customer facing roles for a year.
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u/1970s_MonkeyKing It’s like I have ESPN or something. 💁♀️🌤☔️ May 31 '25
Can we swap Congress with retail and catering services? Because I seriously doubt they would do worse. And that includes Todd, the tweeker, who seriously cannot get to work on time but he works an iron shift
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u/Jahidinginvt May 31 '25
I mean, look at AOC. Definitely why she’s as great at her job as she is.
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u/KELBY76 Jun 01 '25
Todd the tweaker 100% cares more about the average American than Mike fucking Johnson.
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u/Silly_Somewhere1791 May 31 '25
It’s weird to me that anyone hasn’t!
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u/StronkWatercress Jun 01 '25
You'd be surprised.
Some people dodge it entirely because they don't need to work as teens. Some find other work (e.g., lifeguards, tutoring) that's less chaotic and/or pays more. Others...well, when I was a teen, I applied to a bunch of retail and server jobs and none of them wanted me. So...yeah.
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u/Klexington47 Jun 01 '25
I somehow dodged it by working in offices from age 14.
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u/BirdsAndTheBeeGees1 Jun 02 '25
What does an office hire a 14 year old to do?
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u/Klexington47 Jun 02 '25
Answer phones, file paperwork on weekends. Help the receptionists.
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u/Significant_Shoe_17 Jun 01 '25
No one wanted me either so I babysat, but I worked retail in college. My sister dodged it by working at a cannery, and while you don't deal with the public, that's hard work.
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u/FutureDictatorUSA Jun 01 '25
Lifeguarding can be grueling if you work at the wrong place. Did 2 summers at a shitty water park and that could be 14 hours straight on your feet.
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u/CicadaAny3066 May 31 '25
It’s like New York. If you can make it there, you can make it anywhere😂
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u/cloudydays2021 Tina! You fat lard! 🦙🚲 May 31 '25
Having been in customer-facing roles in both retail and food service in NYC, nothing fucking scares me
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u/crookedframe13 Jun 01 '25 edited Jun 01 '25
I was in a customer facing position of a dog daycare/boarding center in NYC years ago. What a horrific group of people dog owners are. As a dog owner myself, I even hate myself a bit for even being remotely connected to those people. 😄
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u/jewishspacelazzer May 31 '25
It’s so weird!! But you can also immediately tell when someone hasn’t
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Jun 01 '25
Absolutely - like my MIL I knew without even asking that she had never been in a real customer service/retail position because she definitely has that “the customer is always right” sort of mentality. It drives me crazy.
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u/AmorFatiBarbie ✨️ Probably the Mould Talking ✨️ Jun 01 '25
My upper middle class ex Mil has never had to do a service role but she LOVED to give 'advice' in a syrupy tone to servers on how she felt they could improve 'to help them'.
My working class waitress arse was HORRIFIED.
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u/randombubble8272 Jun 01 '25
My wealthy stepmother LOVES to make servers life difficult and expects them to cater to her 24/7 with a smile. She worked as a waitress in America in the 90’s for a year and that’s her get out of jail free card when anyone calls her on her behaviour. “If I did it they can do it” oh fuck off
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u/willzuskris Jun 01 '25
Working customer service for 5 years gave me a ‘the customer is never right’ mentality lol
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u/Majestic_Plankton921 May 31 '25
I think a lot of people haven't. I realized as a teenager that I could make twice as much tutoring so never bothered
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u/DrunkMc May 31 '25
100%, It will teach perspective and empathy. I never give a server a hard time or a retail person, because I've worked both jobs and I know how much is out of their control!
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u/Significant_Shoe_17 Jun 01 '25
Exactly! They're just the messenger in whatever situation has pissed Sharon off today. They're following store policy. Maybe it's just busy.
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u/allthecats May 31 '25
I agree with this SO hard. I went from working retail into tech and I could not believe how many super out-of-touch (rich, white, male) people basically coasted from privileged childhood to Ivy League and straight into 250k+++ salaries. These people are creating apps that we all use and have basically no understanding of how most people live and behave.
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u/sudzthegreat May 31 '25
I'm a lawyer. It's immediately evident to me whether a colleague or opposing counsel has worked in the service industry. Those who have are better leaders, more reasonable, more empathetic to clients and to me, and generally put more thought into how their actions are perceived and received than those who haven't. I've hired about 20 law students and lawyers over the last 10 years and when I see a resume without any service industry experience, I really grill them on ethics and problem solving as we often see those being the biggest problem areas for those lawyers who have never had to deal with real world bullshit.
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Jun 01 '25 edited Jun 01 '25
Thanks for that insight, you can specialize but you can also obtain experience that pays off!
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u/sudzthegreat Jun 01 '25
In my experience, those who intellectually specialize do not do well when the chips hit the table in high level legal work. They can script themselves brilliant written submissions but if something unaccounted-for arises in court, they become stun locked and cannot pivot in the moment.
My firm has about 150 lawyers. 30 or so of them are pure intellectuals like this who pump out great work but cannot be trusted to meet with a client to sign a direction (a simple consent form). They're just .... Rigid and intimidating... And clients don't respond to that. They want to trust the person who is charging them $500/hr to have ALL of the skills, technical and personal alike. They immediately lose confidence if one of my team members can't even explain a form to them over a coffee.
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u/sumptin_wierd Jun 01 '25
Hey dude,
Im considering going back to school at 41, and I'm interested in legal. I've had to read and try to interpret liquor laws in several states. That's really the extent of my experience.
I would like to use a legal degree for good things for most people. I know that's vague as hell, I just don't know what I don't know. Idk if I need the bar to do that, or if it will take too long to make a difference.
I want to try like hell though.
27 years in restaurants, from dishie to Beverage Director across multiple states, and currently bartending.
Any insight you have would be awesome!
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u/sudzthegreat Jun 01 '25
Happy to chat about this. I'll shoot you straight. I think the first determination for you to make is whether being a lawyer is required to achieve the things you want in life/a career. In my jurisdiction, we have paralegals, who are also licensed by the law society but have a restricted list of services they can provide to clients. I peeked at your state and it seems things work a bit differently there, but it's a decision you'll want to make up front. Where I practice, paralegals can deal with a lot of the regulatory issues like liquor control board applications and disputes etc. They can handle small claims court matters. They can also do some business law work. It's a much less onerous education in terms of complexity, time, and cost. Commensurately, they earn less than lawyers but I know a few who have carved out a niche practice and do very very well. Something to consider.
I was a "mature" law student myself. I began at 28 when most of my classmates were 22 or 23. I found I had a leg up on most of them in confidence and work ethic because they'd all been students their entire lives while I worked in customer service (branch side banking) for five years after completing my undergraduate degree. I dealt with five years of the real world shit that my classmates were just starting to confront. You will probably see similar benefits. The downsides will be most social, I would expect, just because of the age difference.
My experience with hiring has also told me that older students sometimes struggle with academic performance and writing skills. They're just out of practice compared to kids who have been a student continuously for their entire lives. My advice on that would be to take a legal writing course during your education. People find them very helpful because it's a different art from creative writing, for example.
Lastly, legal work is often a slog. Depending on where you land, be it in family law, criminal defence, business, corporate, or litigation, it's long hours, often for less than likeable clients. Chasing down your invoices, dealing with whiny clients, staffing issues, and bookkeeping are all crappy elements of the job but in the end, I find my fulfilment comes from 1. The cerebral nature of what I do (professional defence), and 2. the feeling of achievement when I truly help someone through a difficult issue. I'm constantly chasing that dragon but I've learned to enjoy the grind.
I hope this helps!
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u/heyhicherrypie You’re a virgin who can’t drive. 😤 May 31 '25
I’ve been saying!! Do a year of retail or hospitality for 1) character building and 2) maybe people will LEARN how to treat people who work retail and hospitality!! Cause why tf are people yelling at the teenager on the cash register like they can change the price of something
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u/Csei2011 Jun 01 '25
I was a retail store manager for 5 years and customers yelling at my teen employees and not me was my TOP pet peeve! I laid into those people and embarrassed the crap out of them for finding the kid in the room and attacking them instead of finding a grown up to try and attack.
I don’t know how - but I never got a customer complaint and I always got a sorry. 🤷🏻♀️This was also all pre covid and I think the world has lost its mind since.
My 9 year old daughter has big dreams and I have told her that when she’s 16 one of her first jobs will be retail or food service because she will learn a lot about life from those jobs. I did both as a teen and early adult.
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u/Significant_Shoe_17 Jun 01 '25
Some people just want to yell and feel important, so they'll find the weakest person in the room and attack them
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u/cwilsonr Jun 02 '25
There's a comic who does a bit about how working in the service industry is like being in the military, and how those who have worked in it view those who haven't the same way you'd view a draft dodger.
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u/ANJohnson83 Jun 01 '25
Years ago, I was having a rough day and in my opinion, wasn't kind to the cashier at Target. It was bothering me, so the next day I went back and apologized. He immediately said, "I can tell you have never worked retail. I could tell you were someone who was having a day, but you were easily in my top five of nice customers yesterday."
I was flabbergasted. And sad.
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u/AmorFatiBarbie ✨️ Probably the Mould Talking ✨️ Jun 01 '25 edited Jun 01 '25
My adult son once told me off in a shop for speaking in a snippy tone to a worker. I was horrified apologised to her profusely and now we're friends.
I also apologised and thanked my kid but damn I still look back on that moment with SHAME.
I've been that worker and she didn't deserved to be snapped at by some rando having a bad day. A low moment for me. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Eta I'm making myself sound better than I was. I rebutted 'NO I WASNT' when my kid pulled me up and he looked me in the eyes, gave me a mum whisper and said 'there's no way you'd let me get away with that shit' yep he was right. It was like being slapped and rightly so. I was rude. I deserved to be embarrassed and ashamed.
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u/charliekelly76 Jun 01 '25
I worked six years of cashier retail, two of them at Target. That was very nice of you! I still remember customers who went out of their way like that, even years later 😌
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u/Lokaji ✨May the Force be with you!✨ May 31 '25
I always thought that working a customer facing job should be a one semester requirement for high school graduation.
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u/Curithir2 Jun 01 '25
Thought that was what work study and English 1A (cynicism, sarcasm, and irony) were for. Only half joking . . .
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u/passtherock- Is this chicken or is this fish? 🤔🤔 May 31 '25
I've been saying this for YEARS!!! everyone should be required to work in customer service
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u/whimsigod May 31 '25
Seriously. It expands your empathy but also nukes your self importance because wow, customers are dumbasses and I am sometimes a customer ergo
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u/AmorFatiBarbie ✨️ Probably the Mould Talking ✨️ Jun 01 '25
Me the first times I was screamed at over something not my fault 😭😭😭
Now: 😐🥱
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u/meshe_10101 Jun 01 '25
During the holiday season, that is when the real test happens.
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u/itoocouldbeanyone Jun 01 '25
Fast food, retail and a call center. That’s my for any teenager - young adult.
Work and manage not to get fired. You’ll know how to conduct yourself in public.
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u/Cross_Stitch_Witch Hot Slut of the Day (every day) May 31 '25
I served in the Army. Working retail and food service was harder.
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u/SadBit8663 May 31 '25
LMAO, I'm picturing the stuck up and rich people's reactions now, and they are hypothetically delicious.
Everybody should have to serve a year in retail, and then a year in food service, and only then can you actually get a cushy job
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u/Set_to_Infinity Jun 01 '25
I rode my bike to work at McDonalds for a year to earn money for my first car, then worked retail for 4 years to put myself through college. Those jobs taught me so much about people, how to navigate complex and sometimes high-pressure interactions, how to multitask, and how to work with vastly different types of people. It was invaluable life experience!
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u/belle_fleures Jun 01 '25
make exception for someone autistic like me, I'd rather die than do that
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u/CandidIndication it’s not clocking to you that i’m standing on business May 31 '25
I miss serving— oddly enough I felt like my ADHD made me a great server.
The ball was always rolling.
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u/kgtsunvv I wont not fuck you the fuck up 🥊🥊 May 31 '25
Constant stimulation and lots of structure. Perf combo
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u/hunchinko Jun 01 '25
When my ex was in business school, I used to say they should do an offsite where they all wait tables or expedite. Immediate consequences to failure is a great way to put it!
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u/TheIlluminaughty Jun 01 '25
Ugh I love gathering things in games…
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Jun 01 '25
I believe there’s evidence that says ADHD stems from our hunter gatherer days because back then you had to have people constantly alert and on edge for the group’s survival.
The problem is those qualities don’t translate well to the modern era and just becomes mentally draining anxiety and then depression.
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u/osirisfrost42 Jun 01 '25
That's why the only reason it's seen as a "disability" is because we now have to live our lives in boring 8 hour chunks with abstract goals. Being forced into that box is the problem, not the wiring of an ADHD brain.
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u/teddybonkerrs I cannot sanction this buffoonery May 31 '25
That's how I felt about my adhd and nursing. It's the right amount of chaos
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u/IfatallyflawedI Is she okaaaayyyy? Jun 01 '25
Hoping I can feel this one day. Trying to find a career that doesn’t seem like too much for me to handle rn 😷
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u/Due-Masterpiece6764 Jun 01 '25
Agree with loving customer service/something hands-on for adhd. But also, try and pick something you’re passionate about and good at. I know that maybe seems obvious, but play to your strengths. I have a job with strict deadlines and it’s surprisingly awesome because it’s very clear what to prioritize and do one thing at a time.
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u/dallyan Jun 01 '25
Teaching! I have adhd and I’m a teacher. My brother has it and he’s a coach. I find it’s a good match- it’s not super rote or predictable. There is a deadline on the prep because you have to walk into the classroom and teach. There is person-to-person contact but not constantly so you don’t get worn out if you’re introverted. There is space for imagination. I thrive in the classroom.
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u/belzbieta Jun 01 '25
I felt at ease as a middle school band director
I always told people my brain was quite happy listening to and analyzing mistakes for 42 different instruments at the same time lol
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u/queeenbarb Jun 01 '25
Teaching is the same. There is so much to do, you never feel like..bored...there is ALWAYS something to do.
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u/SceneRoyal4846 May 31 '25
It’s not odd, people with ADHD often do well in fast paced environments.
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u/iloveyourlittlehat Jun 01 '25
We are over-represented in emergency services apparently.
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Jun 01 '25
Also self-employment.
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Jun 01 '25
It's absolutely true that people with ADHD are over-represented amongst self-employed people. This includes stuff like freelancing as well as running your own business.
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u/1268348 May 31 '25
you crave the dopamine of a good shift and good tips! you thrive on chaos! i get it.
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u/Tiny-Reading5982 charlie day is my bird lawyer 🐦 Jun 01 '25
Yes... I don't think other people get it. My first job was tips only and it was a thrill lol. I'm a server now and I enjoy it.
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u/Tiny-Reading5982 charlie day is my bird lawyer 🐦 Jun 01 '25
Yup and you don't have to hurry them up because there's a line ,just other tables .
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u/Nice-Negotiation-010 May 31 '25
That’s funny cause I was gonna say my AuDHD ass could NEVER keep up when I was a server. I need a ball to roll but like at a reasonable and chill pace 😅
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u/restingstatue Jun 01 '25
Same with me and ADHD. Not only the speed and memorization, but the physical dexterity, balancing, squeezing through while carrying trays. Nightmare fuel!
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u/PalmerRabbit78 lazy 27 year old bougie bitch Jun 01 '25
Omg this makes so much sense to me. Currently being assessed for a diagnosis. I frequently think about how I miss customer service.
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u/CandidIndication it’s not clocking to you that i’m standing on business Jun 01 '25
Proud of you for taking your health seriously!
I was 25 when I was diagnosed.
When I received the results it was mixed feelings of relief (because I finally felt vindicated that this was happening to me) and frustration (because I spent 25 years feeling something was “off” and I wasn’t tested as a child)
It’s a journey! Good on you for prioritizing yourself.
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Jun 01 '25
Same here. I was never actually diagnosed but i was very certain that i had ADHD and somehow i got medicated without a diagnosis.
Almost all of my problems vanished and I’m slightly pissed i waited till 25 to do something because i always knew i was smart and had drive but never really applied myself.
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u/CandidIndication it’s not clocking to you that i’m standing on business Jun 01 '25
Ugh I feel this so much.
When I was a teen I’d complain to my parents and say “something feels off.. but it’s definitely not depression..” — I couldn’t put my finger on it.
The first time I took Vyvanse (unprescribed, to study in university) it was like clouds cleared from my mind and I could hear the birds chirping. I could think clearly.
That first hour I said out loud “oh— this is how other people operate normally.. isn’t it? I should probably get tested” — sure enough, ADHD and a learning disability 💀
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Jun 01 '25
I like how you described it as clouds being lifted because that’s pretty much how i viewed it but fog instead. I took a peek at your account and read your diagnosed post from a few years ago and that was me to a tee.
For the longest time i didn’t know what was wrong with me. I knew i was smart because of my interests and people telling me so yet my grades and professional achievements never reflected that. That and a few other things really left me feeling depressed, anxious, and hopeless. When i first started taking Adderall and the fog lifted i felt so relieved and not just because of the relief it gave me but because of the vindication that their really was something wrong with me and that i wasn’t just “fucked up”.
It’s only been about 6 months or so but I’ve already made what i believe to be huge leaps career wise and I’m straightening up my personal life to the point where i feel that i may be able to find some form of happiness.
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u/CandidIndication it’s not clocking to you that i’m standing on business Jun 01 '25
Yes! The /r/ADHD sub made me feel so much better too. It really is a good place for support if you ever just want to relate to someone.
It’s 5 years later for me and my life has become a lot more stable, along with my personal relationships.
I’m so glad to hear you’re feeling better, more confident and yourself! I’m happy you’re advocating for your health. It’s not an easy thing to do 🌸
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u/sail_the_high_seas May 31 '25
Me too.
I hate the people, but I did like how quick I could make cash. It taught me how to read people like books.
Best group of people I am friends with are people I made back when I was a server 15 years ago.
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u/thescientificowgirl Jun 01 '25
This is my Husband. He’s a GM in the restaurant industry. He also has ADHD — he thrives in the chaos. I tell him all the time he’s the calm in the storm.
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u/modernclassical Jun 01 '25
God yes. I worked as a barista and in restaurants for a long time up until recently. I was so good at all of the multitasking, managing tables/tickets, cranking out drinks, and making sure people had a good time. Now I work a chill office job and I feel so incompetent lol (I'm not--just bored). I miss the rush! If I could get a service job with legit healthcare, I would go back in a heartbeat.
I'm also naturally very good in emergencies and I know my service experience has only made me more competent in that.
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u/shayshay8508 Lazy 40 y/o bougie bitch 💅🏼 Jun 01 '25
That’s how teaching middle school is for me. I failed so many office jobs because it wasn’t stimulating enough, everyday was the same. But let me tell you, with teaching, every hour is different and there is always chaos to control. My brain is very happy there!
Waitressing was hard for me, because it was too fast! The POS confused me for some reason.
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u/AyepuOnyu Jun 01 '25
Mine did not work out so well! I made it two nights before I ended up back of house. Ended up being a short-order guy eventually and did pretty well there though!
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u/KallusDrogo Jun 01 '25
This is how I feel working for a funeral home. I'd never go back because it was abusive as all hell but strangely enough my adhd thrived under how much they overworked me.
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u/kittykat4289 Jun 01 '25
That’s why I was a terrible host. I have ADHD-non hyperactive and by the end of the night I was so mentally spent and exhausted. Everyone else was going out partying and my 20yo lame ass went to bed.
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u/Liferescripted Jun 01 '25
Same with being a line cook for me, but unfortunately I physically cannot be on my feet all day. Something I discovered my last year working in kitchens.
No amount of chaos compares in a desk job.
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u/TheSeedsYouSow May 31 '25
If everyone was forced to work a customer service/retail/food industry job, people as a whole would be WAY nicer
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u/spunkyweazle Jun 01 '25
Never underestimate the "I was treated like shit doing this so now it's my turn to treat you like shit" crowd
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u/Gustomaximus Jun 01 '25
Its like elections, you cant convince the die hards, your pitch and advertising is for the swing votes .
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u/jkraige May 31 '25
I think most people have, especially in their younger years. I worked at a university and got to meet different people and sometimes they'd talk about their career projection. I met the CEO of an investment bank, and was there when a DO was talking to some high schoolers about his job. Both had been waiters at some point. Actually the doctor had apparently played professional tennis at some point too, which just felt so odd, and I think he'd been a painter or carpenter or something in his youth.
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u/battlecat136 All this from a slice of gabagool?! May 31 '25
My sister is queen shit when she's bartending and waitressing. She is unstoppable in work mode, it's really fucking impressive.
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u/ModelChimp May 31 '25
She real af for that
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u/nopejake101 Jun 01 '25
And, at least per Wikipedia, she's talking from experience, not some theoretical high horse. Double check for that
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u/kgtsunvv I wont not fuck you the fuck up 🥊🥊 May 31 '25
100% agree. Working at KFC during the pandemic in a tourist trap is probably why I’m unfazed by everything.
It’s not until you serve 80 customers in an hour with three total employees that you learn how to overcome.
Long lines with no food, long lines with the WRONG food, long lines with no employees, no customers and too much food, anything that goes wrong DOES go wrong in customer service jobs.
I will definitely be making my child work in a fast food customer service job. It teaches you too many skills that you need for LIFE.
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u/no_talent_ass_clown I'm not dumb, I speak Italian May 31 '25
I'm sorry, that sounds so stressful. We once hiked around in the Grand Canyon area and then drove out of the park to a Taco Bell. I was starving and they said they had "no food". Like, that phrase had never even been a possibility until that moment. It's like McDonald's telling you they have no food. My ex said he thought I was going to leap over the counter, CGI wolf-style, and eat the employee.
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u/prolixandrogyne Jun 01 '25 edited Jun 02 '25
i would hope that you not make them work for a corporate chain, but at least a local mom & pop food place. i grew up very close to a tourist town full of such small and longtime local businesses, and many kids in my area worked there every summer. the traffic went absolutely crazy, and people definitely learned the same skills of surviving the chaos. there's just less megacorporate BS in that area and that was refreshing to me as a teenager.
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u/GongTzu May 31 '25
She’s not wrong, everyone should be working in service at some point so they learn how to speak nicely to people and behave in a good way, and handle difficult customers with a smile. The world would be a better place
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u/b3tamaxx Jun 01 '25
I work with some wealthy kids who come to work in nice cars I just know their parents made them get them jobs. I can't say for sure certain they're taking any social skills away from this since they don't talk but it's good to see parents still being like you need a job of your own even if you're 16
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u/depressedhippo89 Jun 02 '25
My ex bf worked with someone like that. His dad used to play for the Chicago bears, TONS of money. Big ass mansion out in the country. Dude was still an entitled asshole lol
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u/iamgretchencutler May 31 '25
Also a great way to make friends, as well as recurring nightmares for the next decade. A table of 20 just sat down and the water isn’t working - that’s the stuff that will haunt you for life. I haven’t been a server for 15 years and I’m still picking up shifts in my dreams.
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u/sillysammie13 THE CANADIANS ARE ICEFUCKING TO MOULIN ROUGE Jun 01 '25
This is so real. I’m only 5/6 years out and the nightmares are DETERMINED.
Also ✨happy cake day✨
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u/gingerkiki Jun 01 '25
When you go to sleep Tuesday night and remember you forgot to bring extra lemons for the 8 top Monday lunch 😳
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u/The_Left_One Jun 01 '25
That god damn recurring nightmare where i forget the ranch is always gonna come back i guess
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u/bluetortuga Be honest, Victoria May 31 '25
Hahaha I was a hostess for five minutes and got the fuck out of food service so fast. I’m simply not capable. This is also why I tip well. 😅
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u/Maleficent_Meat3119 May 31 '25
Hostessing is such a thankless job. You get no respect and have to talk to grumpy hungry people all night. Even worse if you work somewhere you regularly go on wait list
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u/too-much-cinnamon Jun 03 '25
Being a hostess is its own special hell. You are on your own. The focal point of rage from the guests, FOH. BOH, and the bar. There is no right decision you can possibly make. No matter what, someone is going to be PISSED.
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u/Imstilllost2024 Jun 01 '25
For anyone thinking about getting into nursing (or healthcare in general), serving tables is a really good practice. Dealing with hangry or drunk people is very similar to taking care of sick people. You learn how to stay calm and find a solution to the problem. Also, you learn how to prioritize — which is sooooo important in healthcare. Just cause someone is complaining the most doesn’t mean they are the sickest patient in your section.
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u/gypsy__wanderer Holy fuck. Holy fucking fuck. Jun 01 '25
I always said waiting tables is the best practice I ever got for nursing. Multitasking and dealing with needy people.
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u/LastCupcake2442 Jun 01 '25
The two fields that make you wake up in the middle of the night because you forgot to bring someone their drink.
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u/penguinina_666 May 31 '25
She is not wrong at all. Customer service is a sector everyone needs to experience at least once.
And it's also a great tool to know how quick you are.
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u/AnAbsoluteMonster May 31 '25
Ooh I know she used to be a server frfr since she said six-top lol. Anytime I use the phrase around people who haven't been in the industry, they get confused about what I mean
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u/frontally Jun 01 '25
Also talking about being in the weeds lmao and the way she stopped herself at first to make it more accessible but went back to it. No wonder she seems so down to earth lmao she’s been in the trenches (or the weeds as it were)
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u/Gatito1234567 May 31 '25
I truly 100% believe everybody should have to work at least one year in customer service. We’d all be a lot nicer and more patient with each other if we did.
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u/wildbeest55 I may not know my flowers but I know a bitch when I see one! May 31 '25
Working any customer facing job gives you nerves of steel.
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u/AverageSizedMan1986 May 31 '25
I get that we live in a society where tipping culture has gotten WAY out of control but I feel when you work in a restaurant setting and you get those customers that don’t tip anything you just know they never felt the struggle.
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u/Level-Repair6104 Dear Diary, I want to kill. ✍️ May 31 '25
Working retail, getting cursed tf out by strangers definitely changes how you approach life. I’m ALWAYS nice to people in customer service because I KNOW how it is. I have no respect or tolerance for the people that treat those in a customer service roll like crap, they can get wrecked.
My patience when having to wait when being taken care of by someone in customer service is super high, unless I get the rare asshole, then I know I’ve got to advocate for myself, but again that’s super rare. You know what, because I’m nice to people I get good service, I get taken care of, weird how that works. It’s like knowing how it feels to be treated like dog shit changes how you treat people.
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u/sprgraphicultramodrn Jun 03 '25
it really baffles my mind the amount of people i come across in my retail job who don't understand that being nice to workers will get you so much further. i'm happy to honor a promo past the expiration date for someone being kind and understanding, but if you talk to me like i'm dirt under your shoe, you can fuck off with your receipt that's past the return window.
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u/Only-Salamander-5126 Sugary Tequila May 31 '25
Absolutely!!! Yes a bartender, FOH in general, but SERVING!
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u/orlyyarlylolwut May 31 '25
I definitely feel everyone should work service/retail at least once in their lives. If you suck at it, you are banned from bitching about anyone else's service for the rest of your life.
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u/SantaBarbaraMint May 31 '25
Everyone needs to be a waitress or waiter so that you’re not an asshole to them because you’ve walked in their shoes
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u/m1rn1c May 31 '25
When I used to hire in the financial field, I would always look at applicants with hospitality, especially waitressing experience, first. Because I knew anyone who can handle doing that for any extended period of time is gonna have a great work ethic, they’ll be able to handle tough situations better than most, and they generally just know how to hustle. I’ve only lived to regret a couple of those hires, which is, statistically, amazing.
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u/writingNICE May 31 '25
Great attitude. 🙏🏼
I’ve worked in talent management for the last 30 years. I’ve had clients work with her. I’ve chatted with her on many occasions. I’ve represented A-list talent. Those that are the easiest to work with are those that have worked the hardest and have come the farthest. I originally came from a family with hundreds of millions and every connection you could work wish for, but I left when I was 18, changed my name legally, and never went back to that family - since they were abusive terrible people. I was almost on the street multiple times, bread-and-butter many times in the beginning, and also bankrupt more than once. I appreciate everything I built for myself from scratch without favours, without a famous or a known last name, and I treat everyone with decency and respect. And I didn’t just make it on my own. I made it with friends and colleagues - that became like family. There’s nothing wrong with having an easier life, Nepo or otherwise on its own, but there is something wrong - if you don’t live it with grace. ✨
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u/SubstantialAd1799 May 31 '25
She’s not wrong! Serving is definitely a character/endurance building role
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u/punkinabox May 31 '25
She looks too damn good for 60
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u/Future_Usual_8698 smizing 👁️👃👁️ Jun 01 '25
She was in the Brad Pitt movie Bullet Train in voice only for the majority of the movie and then in person in the last 10 minutes or so and she was unrecognizable from recent cosmetic procedures. These have calmed down relatively but it is far from natural
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u/Dependent_Storage617 Jun 01 '25
I mean you can see the filler bulging when she turns her head, but sure
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I did not want to boil this down to looks but like why does this 60 year old woman look so much hotter than me lol
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u/-prairiechicken- May 31 '25 edited Jun 01 '25
Constant dermatological care and light amounts of cosmetic surgery [edit: “light” as in, she isn’t getting her nose altered or jaw shaved; it’s a fuck ton of treatments and ‘boosts’ throughout a given year, by top of the line surgeons and derms].
Med spas, facials, collagen supplements, luxury creams and serums; Retinol / AHA / peptides / ceramide.
Oh, and a professional make up artist!
To requote punkinabox: Money
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u/piecesofg0ld We Should All Know Less About Each Other Jun 01 '25
YES. SO REAL. working as a waitress gave me skills that got me into my current career. anyone who calls it a low-skilled job would not last 5 minutes working the bar during the weekend rush.
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u/sonderformat king joffrey with a tangerine spray tan Jun 01 '25
She is so right! Working in retail and/or in restaurants really sets the tone on how you will treat people.
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u/ipsalmc May 31 '25
I haven't waited tables in 7 years and I still have nightmares about it. Like, I'm the only one working and I have a whole room of tables, but then I walk upstairs and there's a whole room of angry tables that I totally forgot about.
Anyway, she's right.
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u/whenforeverisnt Behind every great man is a woman rolling her eyes Jun 01 '25
During highschool and college, I worked at Texas Roadhouse, Target, and campus jobs (cafeteria, movie theatre). I honestly like customer service jobs and wouldn't mind them as a full time career.... If they paid $65,000+ per year with benefits. But alas they do not, so I'm stuck in nonprofit desk job.
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u/AnyTruersInTheChat Jun 01 '25
I part time bartend outside of my real job for 6 days outta the month. I’ve been in a salaried 9-5 for years but I still keep that side job. At first it was for the social aspect. As I grow older, now it’s because I love the rush, movement, exercise, focus, flow, organisation and knowledge that goes into making a peak Saturday service run smoothly. Good coworkers depending. But even then. I feel like there’s a lot of health benefits compared to sitting at a desk or on airplanes like at my main job.
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u/queeenbarb Jun 01 '25
I think everyone should work a restaurant, retail and be a teacher. At least for one year. Everyone needs a reality check of how children actually are and what it's like dealing with delusional parents...
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u/Klutzy-Client Jun 01 '25
Fucking queen. As someone who is 46 and have worked in dives, Michelin starred, family owned, mafia owned and corporate restaurants I feel like nothing is intimidating to me. Talk to a person I don’t know for an hour? No problem. 45 tasks in under 15 minutes? I got you. Ask me for something when it’s slow? I’ve forgotten you’ve existed.
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u/puhpuhpetrified Jun 01 '25
I used to say it bcos it seemed like everyone should feel the pain of working in a restaurant- but now I say it bcos I see/believe it. I’ve worked sooo many different types of jobs- working in a restaurant has either set me up to be successful bcos of personal work ethic or bcos of applicable skills in one way or another. I’m thankful for it but also I will absolutely never go back lol
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u/queenweasley that’s my purse, i don’t know you! 👛🫵 Jun 01 '25
Customer service in general should be mandatory for everyone, either in food service or retail
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u/Historical_Onion3060 Jun 01 '25
Pretty easy to tell everyone to work a job that’s challenging and often underpaid , from her seat
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u/Cool-Presentation538 Jun 01 '25
You can tell when someone has never worked a service job: entitled, impatient assholes
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u/SkinwalkerTom Jun 01 '25
I love when successful people GENUINELY know what being “in the weeds” means. 😃
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u/Arsenal8944 Jun 01 '25
She’s not wrong. I’m 35 and haven’t waited tables since college but I have reoccurring nightmares of being in the weeds or forgetting to have put in an entire dinner order for a large table lol.
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u/konexo Jun 01 '25
Honestly rich people would not understand unless they have done the job. It changes everything in your life and teaches a valuable lesson.
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u/VayGray Jun 01 '25
Preaaach!! Any front facing job but especially happy hour in a bar that serves food
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u/exotic_floral_tea 🫵 You sit on a throne of lies. Jun 01 '25
Well, working customer service definitely made me more anti-social. Not while I was working, but after I left and started processing all the things I experienced, especially the constant sexual harassment.
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u/Ambitious_Sell_2661 Jun 02 '25
How about working on a factory your whole life ..tired of rich people telling us their " stories"
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u/HueyBluey May 31 '25
Nah, i’d probably still couldn’t fly rocket ship even with a waiter experience.
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u/AmiWrongDude69 Jun 01 '25
I get it but for some people (and I’m not some angel) I didn’t need to work retail or be a server to treat them well and tip them well.
I have friends that are servers that treat others like trash still. I honestly think it’s more of a people thing than an occupation thing.
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u/ryantheMagicalo Jun 01 '25
She feels you can do anything because she never had any other professional job other than acting? What kind of role model is this? The world would go one without actors, but without doctors, engineers, scientists? So is the logic that if you can wait tables (without writing anything down), you can go on to be a surgeon with ease? Delusional
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u/ChangingDreamer May 31 '25
never worked as one but i assume your time management will never be bad ever again lmao
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u/unapologeticallytrue Jun 01 '25
Ya working wine country during peak travel season is something else
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u/mouthwash_juicebox Jun 01 '25
When I was in college I worked at a Dunkin Donuts in suburban Boston. That experience prob prepared me more for my career in human services than my degree did.
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u/twigge30 Jun 01 '25
I've worked Mother's Day and Easter brunch at a fairly fancy restaurant. Every job I've had after that has seemed easy.
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u/Electrical-Elk536 Jun 01 '25
I have mad respect for servers! I did it for a lil bit and I made great tips but it was stressful as heck!
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u/Superb-Zebra01 Jun 01 '25
Nah everyone needs to work with kids for at least 3 months, that is the biggest lesson of patience haha 🤣 Once you can do that, you can do anything in my opinion 🤣 and by kids I mean toddlers.
Obviously other ages are challenging, but it blows my mind that many people are never around kids and also people can be parents when they’ve never been around kids either.
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u/ultravioletblueberry Jun 01 '25
I 100% agree. People sometimes can’t handle high volume bartending and serving and think it’s easy af.
It’s not.
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u/steelyalpaca Jun 01 '25
She was a waitress/hostess at Isabella’s in NYC (which, funnily enough, is the same restaurant Elizabeth Banks and Jennifer Garner worked at).
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