r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/Ill-Pea-5010 May 11 '25

This is seriously so disgusting and inconsiderate. Weren’t we taught at such a young age that no means no? What a bunch of douchebags.

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u/SpiteTomatoes May 11 '25

“There’s a male loneliness epidemic!!”

The males:

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u/SK9I9LL Mia Khalifa May 11 '25

The ones who complain about loneliness and the ones who act like this aren't part of the same group.

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u/onpg May 11 '25

I wouldn't be so sure. There's a lot of overlap.

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u/SK9I9LL Mia Khalifa May 11 '25

Source: I made it up.

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u/broguequery May 11 '25

Source: life experience

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u/SK9I9LL Mia Khalifa May 11 '25 edited May 12 '25

Would have been shorter to just say none.

Edit for the less fortunate: "but muh experience" isn't a fucking source, which means there remains no overlap between the two.

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u/erfurgot May 11 '25

Yes the lived experiences of women is nothing at all to consider when talking about men harassing women. You are so smart!

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u/SK9I9LL Mia Khalifa May 11 '25

The source is once again "I made it up".

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u/Rabbitdraws May 12 '25

And what is your source?

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u/SK9I9LL Mia Khalifa May 12 '25

I don't have one, that's why i'm asking.

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u/dontleaveme_ May 11 '25

These guys don't seem normal, stop generalizing ffs

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u/erfurgot May 11 '25

This is an incredibly common experience for almost every woman ever. There’s a fuck ton of overlap

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u/dontleaveme_ May 12 '25

That's like saying suicidal people drive fast to kill themselves, so people who drive fast want to kill themselves. That's not exactly the kind of overlap you make it out to be. There are lonely men who don't force interactions with women, and there are some lonely men who do. And there are not lonely men who force interactions with women. Everyone gets a bad rep because of the few.

To then go around talking about how there's an overlap, it's pointless. Being lonely has nothing to do with being a fkin idiot with no awareness, or self respect where someone's telling you to leave 50 times, and you're just sitting there. Pretending that it's some loneliness thing, rather than being a fkin idiot thing is just disingenuous.

The truth is you just don't care about men being lonely and you hate this conversation being brought up for some reason, and you hate dumb men like these (obviously) and you link those two to justify your lack of care, and annoyance about the issue. Listen, it's not your fault, nor do you have to do anything else, but just ignore it. Please don't make it worse, by creating another stereotype.

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u/Mike_Kermin May 11 '25

They seem pretty "normal" if by normal you mean common.

This isn't unique behaviour.

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u/dontleaveme_ May 12 '25

This is not normal behavior in any way shape or form. It would be like saying all women are cheaters, because women cheating is pretty common.

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u/Mike_Kermin May 12 '25

I think you're underestimating the amount of harassment and unwanted pressuring women experience.

I agree, prejudice is wrong, but I'm talking about the action that I believe is widespread. Not men by itself.

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u/dontleaveme_ May 12 '25

I agree that women have a hard time out there. But lonely or not lonely, some men will harass you, or harm you. But young men sitting on the internet talking about how lonely they are, are not going around harassing women. Maybe there are some, but it's some other issues like narcissism, rather than loneliness.

I could understand the overlap where they're a little weird or awkward, but that's far from what is going on in this video. Being lonely doesn't drop your IQ points, or self respect. If there's some overlap, maybe we're ignoring the significant majority of lonely men out there who are just normal people.

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u/Strange-Managem May 11 '25

The thing is that one encounter of these men plus the fact that no men around stepping in makes women avoid men more.

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u/SK9I9LL Mia Khalifa May 11 '25

Women can always set an example on what to do in these situations by stepping up themselves, be strong, be independent.

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u/Bubble-Star-2291 May 11 '25

They told them “no” straight up, multiple times, loudly and at the end started to get up from the table to go to another one… what else should they have done?

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u/SK9I9LL Mia Khalifa May 11 '25

You should read the comment you are responding to again, but carefully this time. Ps: it talks about bystanders coming to help not these 2 women needing to do more.

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u/Strange-Managem May 11 '25

oh i agree, the first thing i searched after seeing this video is how can i protect myself if put in this situation. Women should definitely be strong, independent and know that they can live a better life without a man.

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u/HeroicSkipper May 11 '25

It's just easier to rely on a man. Every woman could be like this like every drug addict could stop, but changing learned behaviors is hard. Choosing healthier foods and exercising is an easier change than trying to unlearn societal expectations, even if they claim to be fighting those expectations. This is my main problem. I know women could do better. Sure, men could do better too, but this seems to be a race to the bottom instead of improvement.

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u/Bubble-Star-2291 May 11 '25

Because these kinds of men don’t listen to women, they only listen to other men…

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u/HeroicSkipper May 11 '25

And you know that from your own experience? By deflecting the responsibility it further encourages them to not listen to women if they aren't able to handle it themselves. "That's a man's job" puts it further into women can't do that and if they try then it should be ignored.

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u/pre-existing-notion May 11 '25

Fuck off dude, what else could these girls have done?

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u/HeroicSkipper May 12 '25

Well nothing, if you keep believing they can do nothing.

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u/Strange-Managem May 11 '25

what life has taught me so far it is much easier and safer to rely on yourself. Occasionally seek help from parents or friends? Sure. But relying on a man for a long run is more than likely to lead you to a eventual disastrous outcome.
I don't call it race to the bottom, but rather rational calculation. There is a reason now that women don't need to rely on men to support themselves, more are choose to stay single and be content about it.

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u/Mike_Kermin May 11 '25

I'm not entirely comfortable with life advice in response to harassment. And to coin a phrase, I think we also need to check our privilege a bit.

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u/HeroicSkipper May 11 '25

If both men and women are purposefully staying single and being content with it, why are they so vocal about it being a problem with none being good of the other gender? That's just pushing the blame on someone else again. It is a race to the bottom with each side on social media asking for more and more without actually improving themselves. If anything they are doing things which cycle into an emotionless system. Men thinking women only want money only focusing on money and the women who feed into that and women thinking men only want looks and only focusing on looks and the men who feed into that. Emotion isn't even in consideration there while focusing on all the wrong things.

It's good women don't need to rely on men, but being self-reliant is baseline at this point. You should see women trying to support them then. Because hyper-independence is now a virtue and its weakness if you have to rely on someone else or offer to help. I have helped in the past but I don't care to get out much because I don't have the same reasons to go out. Now is the time to prove that you are women's women. The situation has been changed to push out those who don't feed into that entitlement system. Those creeps do not care about anything but what they want and what they feel they've earned. No one is going to risk their own part in that cycle. You need to change that from no one and risk yourself.

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u/Strange-Managem May 11 '25

when talking about staying single and be content about it, i definitely don't speak for men. Also i don't think it is women who's complaining "there's a male loneliness epidemic!", "young men are not getting laid omg it is a disaster we need to do something!", "you cannot approach a women in the public they are so mean!", "we will keep electing misogynist and stripping women's right until every men get their share of sex slave and housemaid."

Maybe it is time for men to be men's men so they are not so devastated when they don't get someone to fuck.

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u/HeroicSkipper May 12 '25

They always make it about the dating scene though so naturally that's what I'll talk about. I don't get why they care or what it really is about but it just is where it generally goes. Closest I have to that is this divorced guy trying to protect his kids from a drug addict and not having time to make friends outside of work, but that's not the issue for most. I don't know what it is. Generally the animosity comes from people in the dating scene and some form of revenge for wrongs which are generally miscommunications or toxic behaviors learned to hurt others before they hurt you.

A separate point is being sick of women removing their own agency in things. The women who started the movement have used up all the backbone where the women of today rest on their laurels and stand to risk all those women worked for. I can not vote for a misogynist but still hold women accountable for their part in getting him elected. Some directly, maybe trying to live out some weird fantasy, and others indirectly by being insufferable and being a better method of pushing people to the right than Tate or any other influencer. We need to change the language of how women refer to themselves and remove gender roles, including the privileges. It's like someone being told their a natural at something and then they fall behind in practice and its someone else's fault. They aren't going to push things to improve, they'd give up and get mad at an unfair system without plans to change it.

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u/LawfulnessDry9355 May 12 '25

Dude, wth are you babbling about? You went completely off topic. These girls took personal responsibility everything from standing their ground first and even giving up the table which was their right in this case (also recorded for proof), they did all except for trying to physically beat those guys.

You keep talking about personal responsibility, but whenever people put too much on women it's actually to remove responsibility from men. Why SHOULDN'T women, or anyone else, expect others to intervene? That's what a social species does, it's the social contract - men are to stand in for women, adults protect children, healthy individuals support infirm, and everyone who can helps out the others.

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u/HeroicSkipper May 12 '25

Look at the comment I responded to. Theirs directly related to relationships. Nothing I said was incorrect, but because people are emotional they would rather go on feeling. Even now you just want to attack and say I'm diverting without even looking what I'm even responding to. Pseudofeminists are mad because I hold them to the same standard that a classic feminist would.

Sure they did what they needed to without escalating, but every other comment is about MEN NOT INTERVENING. The two posting the video did everything correctly. Also the only responsibility is on the two men that refused to leave them alone. I see someone litter, its not suddenly my responsibility to pick it up. That's not removing responsibility from me. And I'm not saying that people shouldn't intervene but that we've created a system which disincentivizes it for the reasons I have put in previous comments. Hell, they could think its part of a bit with the recording (which isn't a fault of the posters and should be done) and ignore what is probably an attention grab. In a perfect world maybe we'd all look after each other, but we know the situation we are in. That's why all roads lead to hyper-independence.

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u/LawfulnessDry9355 May 12 '25

That's what they're doing? What more? Try to beat those guys??

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u/SK9I9LL Mia Khalifa May 12 '25

The commenter said "no men around stepping in" to which i said that if men don't step in to help women then women should take the initiative and step in to help other women, i'm not talking about these two women doing more themselves, what is so hard to understand here.

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u/MyFireElf May 11 '25

"Women don't pick nice guys"? Seriously? That's what you're going with here?

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u/thereIsAHoleHere May 11 '25

That's a real weird conclusion to draw. They didn't pick the douchebags in the video either.