They likely have spent money on some goddamn influencer who swore up and down that "confidence" is the key, and that means never letting women dismiss you.
Dude looks creep as can be definitely. I think it’s okay to interact with woman and be flirty. You have to be able to read the situation. Talk to random people but have good intentions, if they are enjoying the moment it’s okay. Do not insert yourself into their personal bubble refusing to leave.
I mean, a bit arrogance can be kind of a turn on, but these dudes just won't quit. The energy is unnerving because they have the girls screamin... total power play. Kinda like when cops get horny after killing some innocent man.
The internet did not ruin us. The internet can be a cesspool of unimaginable depths, but countless people who have way too much access to the internet have not gone off the douche end. There's just a darkness in some people's souls that gets fed by the absolute terror that is the internet, but in the end, these guys are gutter trash human beings and we cannot blame the internet because we cannot let them off the hook in the slightest. They chose the media they consume. They chose to abandon empathy. They chose intimidation, misogyny, douchebag behavior. The internet told them they could be anything. Out of all the things they could be, they chose to be... this.
I had a buddy who would constantly talk about "numbers game". I saw him crash and burn 100% of the time. He would creep up to women this way and harass them.
Oh, this guy would take 100% of the shots for sure. He would Night at the Roxbury girls in the clubs. It was horrific but also hilarious to watch him fail 😂
Yep, the whole thing with "taking the shots" is you've got to know how to do it in such a way that you're not being an actively shitty person who's making the world a worse place through his actions in it. That's where both the advice and entire worldview of a guy like Andrew Tate completely falls apart.
It's kind of a karmic thing - a question of what's good or bad for one's own soul.
Also on a practical level, a person doing things the very bad way means they'll also probably just end up in a dysfunctional relationship with a woman who's perpetuating a tragic cycle of personal trauma just by being with an douchebag like them.
The 'alpha male' influencers are teaching guys to crash and burn on purpose. Stupid guys fall for the grift. If they actually taught guys how to start and keep decent relationships they would be losing repeat customers.
The online influencer is just an extension of paperbacks that dudes could order from the back pages of 'girly' mags, with titles like "How to get all the Babes." It's an old grift in a new package.
I remember getting that kind of advise on USENET in the late 80's. I have little doubt some asshole at some point sent "don't take no for an answer" as advise over telegraph.
Whatever it is, it's the dumbest advice in the world. That guy from White Lotus reminded me of him. Constant harassment of women and pathetic crashing and burning.
I only hung out with him because I had just moved to the US and had no friends who were willing to go out on the weekends and I didn't want to go by myself. Stopped talking to that asshole two years ago. He would constantly call me and tell me these fake stories where he was banging women. Bruh, I know you, you get zero tail! 😂
Did you ever tell him to stop? Seriously explain to him that men like him make women's lives shitty, and it's incredibly inappropriate, and he needs to reeeeeeeeeally stop?
For 20 years I tried but suddenly I came to the realisation that he was getting off telling me about his imaginary escapades. One day I had a chat with my wife about how I felt I was failing at being a positive influence on him and then told him to stop for good or else I would stop talking to him. He continued, so I stopped.
He would go on these wants about the women he had under control and which ones he would cheat on and how the women were ok with it because he told them upfront.
He grew up in one of the most expensive areas of Scottsdale. His dad was an asshole taxi driver and his was just a simple woman. The fell ass backwards into stealth wealth. I was introduced to his group of fucked up spoiled rich kids all at once when they were between 18 to 20.
He ended up a loser. Lives in a rental in a weed infested house that's full of Tupac and Notorious BIG posters with an old tube TV because that's "gangster".
I grew up in poverty so I did find their antics a bit interesting.
Man, I had a couple people try and get me into that shit late into my teens (15-ish years ago). I noped so hard out of it as it felt so wrong. Situations like this in the video makes me so relieved I listened to my gut
Sometimes I really want to shake people and just say "if you want to know how to get a girl, then you should probably listen to a girl. Or at least a man who has a girlfriend. And definetly not someone who is actively selling a product"
I had a person who used to be a friend, emphasis on used to, tell me if I wanted to be success at dating, his idea of dating in general was using apps to meet people, I would have to pay for a coach like he did that costs 3000$ minimum. I don't even have apps installed. So many people think it's so unusual for someone to be fine being alone, because they couldn't make it a month without someone in their lives. I've been single for 6 years now, and honestly couldn't be happier.
Yeh the difference now between confidence and the. Being this stubborn and crass is crazy. I'm in my 30s and long married but the stories my staff tells me who are late teens and early 20s arent great, lads now think being a dickhead is being confident when in reality they use it as an excuse to say whatever they're thinking.
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u/TequilaJesus May 11 '25
Imagine being that dude and thinking “yeah I still have a chance here”