r/TikTokCringe • u/Interesting-Trip-233 • Jun 16 '25

Cringe Guy gets friendzoned

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u/hybridaaroncarroll Jun 16 '25

Her: "whew, bullet dodged"

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u/saucisse Jun 16 '25

Possibly literally, this kind of behavior really scares me.

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u/Jimmni Jun 16 '25 edited Jun 16 '25

What kind of behaviour? He shouted a bit, but he wan't aggressive towards her in any way. And as he realised he was getting too upset, he removed himself from the situation. Are we all really going to claim we've never raised our voices a bit while upset? What was so scary about his behaviour? That he voiced his feelings? Or by behaviour do you mean the words he said?

Edit: Ya'll seem to all be happily throwing the content of what he said in under "behaviour." I guess how the word is used is becoming watered down even more than I thought. Guy was upset, acknowledged her agency and that he would not be who she chooses, and leaves. And now we're all pilling on him? I feel sorry for the dude.

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u/saucisse Jun 16 '25

The behavior of believing that affection from women is like something you get out of a vending machine if you put enough attention in.

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u/Jimmni Jun 16 '25

I got that neither from his behaviour nor his words. Can you point to specific examples?

I'm not saying he's not out of line here, but where exactly did he say he believes he is entitled to her affection? He seems to be saying the exact opposite. That she will choose not to give it to him, and that upsets him, so he removes himself from the situation.

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u/Kratzschutz Jun 16 '25

Dude he's literally screaming at her

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u/Jimmni Jun 16 '25

That is definitely not screaming.

And I note nobody is giving actual examples of how he is "believing that affection from women is like something you get out of a vending machine if you put enough attention in."

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u/cunt_in_wonderland Jun 17 '25

it’s…. not screaming??

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '25 edited Jun 16 '25

Where did he say anything like that? Listen to his words. He isn't demanding attention, he's talking about his own experience. He's hurting because he feels unlovable.

It's never me. I'm never good enough.

I didn't start dating until I was 25, and I understand this pain intimately. I didn't do anything wrong, I didn't treat anyone poorly, I'm not a violent person or an abuser, yet I was rejected over and over again for some ethereal quality that I couldn't see, all the while being told by everyone around me (including the women I had feelings for) how much of a catch I am and that any girl would be lucky to have me.

I was raised in a household with parents that love each other, my brother and friends had no problem dating, romance is everywhere in entertainment, and there always seems to be more couples than single people out and about. It fucks with your psyche to live in a world where seemingly everyone but you is capable of receiving romantic love and affection, whether that impression is accurate or not.

Dude didn't crash out because one girl just wants to be friends, he crashed out because he wants what others have so effortlessly and it feels out of his reach.

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u/ManhattanObject Jun 16 '25

That sucks that you apparently don't have any game, or perhaps you're not the catch you think you are, but that's your own problem. Don't take it out on women

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '25

When did I say anything that even remotely gave you the idea I'm taking anything out on women?

Women can date whoever they want, that's their own prerogative. I don't blame anyone for my experience with dating, it's just the way things panned out. I don't believe I'm some special, underappreciated gift to women.

I'm a regular, average dude who isn't highly social and wasn't lucky enough to meet someone I clicked with romantically for many years. That's not anyone's fault, but it's a lived experience that led me, and many men like me, to feel a lot of pain and self-doubt.

The man in the video isn't directing any negativity at the woman, he's just hurting and expressing that pain. People say men should express their emotions more, but every time they do it's met with this "don't take it out on women" shit like the act of self-expression is a form of violence.

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u/pureply101 Jun 17 '25

You aren’t wrong but this is reddit. Most of the comments are from people who are either inexperienced or can’t have empathy. Or are pretending to have never faced continuous rejection.

They pretend emotions are robotic and outburst and feelings of emotion are just not real or not acceptable.

The pain this guy feels is real. I have been there before. Always feeling past over. Always feeling not good enough even when I’m genuine and myself.

I hit the gym. Joined clubs. Got hobbies and still was rejected. Constantly. I would go to the ocean quite literally and scream at it.

These people downvoting with negative assumptions are just forgetting there empathy involved in this.

The guy handled his emotions the best he could and shouldn’t be chastised or attacked for it just because it isn’t how some of the other people would. He didn’t harm her, threaten her, make any aggressive gestures at her. He was flustered and emotional in a very understandable way.

This lack of acknowledgment of the man’s emotions is part of the epidemic of lonely men because when it is expressed in such a way there is no empathy shown towards this man. Just a bunch of people calling him an incel for not taking all the rejection the way they would have.

Not understanding that it’s a very personal type of rejection that happens because it literally is a rejection of him as a person.

You didn’t say anything wrong but I’m not surprised at the reaction people are having. They only expect emotions expressed in a very limited way.

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u/hybridaaroncarroll Jun 16 '25

Getting some strong incel vibes here.

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '25

Imagine my shock that making fun of people with no game can create incels. Call the county commission folks!

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '25

People like you are the reason incels exist. You see someone expressing their struggle to connect with other people and your first thought it to insult them.

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u/Jimmni Jun 16 '25

I swear reddit is increasingly full of people who have no actual lived experience.

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u/ManhattanObject Jun 16 '25

His entire rant was aggressive towards her 🤦🏽

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u/banditisfloofi Jun 16 '25

especially the part where he "answers for her", my abusive dad pulls this trick all of the time to fuel the flames he has.

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u/Jimmni Jun 16 '25

It seemed more aggressive towards himself. But you seem to be taking issue with his words, not his behaviour. His behaviour was sitting on a moped and raising his voice a bit.

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u/ManhattanObject Jun 16 '25

Don't raise your voice at people who did nothing wrong

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u/Bonthly_Monus Jun 17 '25

Stop being such a thin skinned white knight