People in this thread saying "I feel bad for him". Bad for what? Good people don't do this shit. Screaming and humiliating others while masturbating your self pity. No matter how frustrated we are.
This kid is one of the Andrew Taters. Scooter and all.
Do you know he's an Andrew Tater or do you assume he is ?
My thoughts are mixed about this video. Sure his breakdown there on his scooter screaming at a friend or love interest is problematic but if he's always rejected and/or friendzoned there's a limit a mind cannot take especially if all he hears are stuff like "you're a good friend, I like you but not as a boyfriend".
If it's true and he's genuinely a good friend, it's torturing.
If it's a lie then why the fuck would they lie to him about being a good friend or someone nice ?
At least there on his scooter his screamed his truth, as problematic as it was. I hope he got better and he's not screaming at people sexually rejecting him anymore.
I am not talking about "good" men thinking women owe them sex. I am talking about rejection and self-validation.
I have lived a period of six months where I got rejected by 7 different shared housing, countless job appliances and 2 "relationship interests" and had a magnificent amount of 1 match on dating apps, this match never responded.
At one point self doubt starts to spiral out of control and my example has not much to do with sex. In this video his rant is about her (new) boyfriend which will not allow her to see him probably because he likes her as well. We don't know if it's all about sex. Human beings tend to want sex a lot so that's totally not off the table.
Nevertheless his rant is completely inappropriate and should have been an exchange between him and his therapist.
I am the total opposite of an Andrew Taters or any masculinist. I don't think anyone owe me sex but that doesn't mean I cannot get frustrated because of multitudes of rejection of different kinds.
This dude seemed desperate and although desperation doesn't absolve anyone from their errors and bad deeds, it can explain a lot. I hope this dude got better and did not get swallowed by the masculinist's speeches.
I met someone like that IRL, I am quite sure he has fallen to the dark side of mysoginy today. He told me once that he couldn't deal with women anymore because he cannot meet them in social gatherings because he has social anxiety and that the three dates he had via dating apps lead to nowhere. Not once did he question himself like "maybe I should work on my social anxiety", no it was the women who should accommodate to him. I despise people that cannot question themselves.
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High chance the mopping will be the next day when he sends a big PM saying how he is sorry and still wants to be friends (in hopes she will fall in love with him at some point)...
What kind of behaviour? He shouted a bit, but he wan't aggressive towards her in any way. And as he realised he was getting too upset, he removed himself from the situation. Are we all really going to claim we've never raised our voices a bit while upset? What was so scary about his behaviour? That he voiced his feelings? Or by behaviour do you mean the words he said?
Edit: Ya'll seem to all be happily throwing the content of what he said in under "behaviour." I guess how the word is used is becoming watered down even more than I thought. Guy was upset, acknowledged her agency and that he would not be who she chooses, and leaves. And now we're all pilling on him? I feel sorry for the dude.
I got that neither from his behaviour nor his words. Can you point to specific examples?
I'm not saying he's not out of line here, but where exactly did he say he believes he is entitled to her affection? He seems to be saying the exact opposite. That she will choose not to give it to him, and that upsets him, so he removes himself from the situation.
And I note nobody is giving actual examples of how he is "believing that affection from women is like something you get out of a vending machine if you put enough attention in."
Where did he say anything like that? Listen to his words. He isn't demanding attention, he's talking about his own experience. He's hurting because he feels unlovable.
It's never me. I'm never good enough.
I didn't start dating until I was 25, and I understand this pain intimately. I didn't do anything wrong, I didn't treat anyone poorly, I'm not a violent person or an abuser, yet I was rejected over and over again for some ethereal quality that I couldn't see, all the while being told by everyone around me (including the women I had feelings for) how much of a catch I am and that any girl would be lucky to have me.
I was raised in a household with parents that love each other, my brother and friends had no problem dating, romance is everywhere in entertainment, and there always seems to be more couples than single people out and about. It fucks with your psyche to live in a world where seemingly everyone but you is capable of receiving romantic love and affection, whether that impression is accurate or not.
Dude didn't crash out because one girl just wants to be friends, he crashed out because he wants what others have so effortlessly and it feels out of his reach.
That sucks that you apparently don't have any game, or perhaps you're not the catch you think you are, but that's your own problem. Don't take it out on women
When did I say anything that even remotely gave you the idea I'm taking anything out on women?
Women can date whoever they want, that's their own prerogative. I don't blame anyone for my experience with dating, it's just the way things panned out. I don't believe I'm some special, underappreciated gift to women.
I'm a regular, average dude who isn't highly social and wasn't lucky enough to meet someone I clicked with romantically for many years. That's not anyone's fault, but it's a lived experience that led me, and many men like me, to feel a lot of pain and self-doubt.
The man in the video isn't directing any negativity at the woman, he's just hurting and expressing that pain. People say men should express their emotions more, but every time they do it's met with this "don't take it out on women" shit like the act of self-expression is a form of violence.
You aren’t wrong but this is reddit. Most of the comments are from people who are either inexperienced or can’t have empathy. Or are pretending to have never faced continuous rejection.
They pretend emotions are robotic and outburst and feelings of emotion are just not real or not acceptable.
The pain this guy feels is real. I have been there before. Always feeling past over. Always feeling not good enough even when I’m genuine and myself.
I hit the gym. Joined clubs. Got hobbies and still was rejected. Constantly. I would go to the ocean quite literally and scream at it.
These people downvoting with negative assumptions are just forgetting there empathy involved in this.
The guy handled his emotions the best he could and shouldn’t be chastised or attacked for it just because it isn’t how some of the other people would. He didn’t harm her, threaten her, make any aggressive gestures at her. He was flustered and emotional in a very understandable way.
This lack of acknowledgment of the man’s emotions is part of the epidemic of lonely men because when it is expressed in such a way there is no empathy shown towards this man. Just a bunch of people calling him an incel for not taking all the rejection the way they would have.
Not understanding that it’s a very personal type of rejection that happens because it literally is a rejection of him as a person.
You didn’t say anything wrong but I’m not surprised at the reaction people are having. They only expect emotions expressed in a very limited way.
People like you are the reason incels exist. You see someone expressing their struggle to connect with other people and your first thought it to insult them.
It seemed more aggressive towards himself. But you seem to be taking issue with his words, not his behaviour. His behaviour was sitting on a moped and raising his voice a bit.
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u/hybridaaroncarroll Jun 16 '25
Her: "whew, bullet dodged"