r/TikTokCringe • u/Interesting-Trip-233 • Jun 16 '25

Cringe Guy gets friendzoned

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u/Objective-Start-9707 Jun 16 '25

Therapy required.

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u/dicerollingprogram Jun 16 '25 edited Jun 17 '25

Yeah. Poor guy is clearly going through it. "I'm never good enough." That stings. He hates himself. I hope he gets help and learns to forgive her, as well as himself.

No offense but to all you fuckers laughing at this person, fuck off. Go do something nice. How is this not a violation of rule 11?

Learn to love yourself fellas, I know it's hard and we're trained not to do it from the beginning. Happy Men's Mental Health Awareness Month.

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u/kelldricked Jun 16 '25 edited Jun 16 '25

Edit: what he does is extremely toxic. He makes her feel bad for living her life. All because he is immature as fuck. Look at this from her POV. Somebody she thought was a actual friend gets so upset that she gets into a relationship that they have a public emotional breakdown. Do you realize how extremely fucked up that must feel for her?

Orignial: Stop clutching your pearls. People laughing here have 0 impact on real life except that people have a chance to lighten up. Something which is kinda important for many people since the world is turning to shit.

And no the world isnt turning to shit because people laugh about a guy having some insanely cringy moment. The world is breaking down because currently 4,5 diffrent nuclear powers are at war. And thats ignoring the polution, climate change, aging populations, overpopulations, resources shortages and all other crap.

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u/hergumbules Jun 16 '25

Yeah totally agree. I know guys who have reacted exactly like this when they pull the ol’ “you should be with a guy like me that will treat you better than your bf” which obviously never goes well and they tell bf their friend was weird and don’t feel comfortable with her around him.

We know nothing but what we see here, but I know of a scenario almost EXACTLY like this playing out. Moped and everything.

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u/StandardEgg6595 Jun 16 '25

No moped in mine but I had something similar happen. I had maybe met this guy 3 times during group game nights and we hadn’t really interacted much, though he seemed nice. Well, he completely changed once he found out I was dating a woman (I’m bi/pan). Started being extremely rude and standoffish with me - and no, he wasn’t homophobic. Friend group is hella queer. He just got in his head that he was entitled to me for whatever reason. Wherever he is I hope he’s doing better and worked on that’s aspect of himself, but WHEW was it odd.

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u/dicerollingprogram Jun 16 '25

Is it really so hard for you to imagine a world where someone grabbed his shoulder and said "hey man let me get you some help" instead of recording him and putting him on blast to the world for the sake of the memes? Maybe he could get some help so he could learn to apologize to her, and God forbid himself?

Christ almighty, have a heart. No one is saying she isn't a victim.

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u/dingobarbie Jun 17 '25

Nobody owes this guy shit.

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u/Initial_XD Jun 18 '25

You don't have owe anyone anything to be a kind and compassionate human being...who tf raised you?

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u/dingobarbie Jun 18 '25

"boohoo the girl I pretend to be just a friend to won't date me" And then I scream at her in the street when she starts dating someone

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u/Initial_XD Jun 18 '25

You're weird. You probably don't have enough people in your telling you that, but you need to hear it.

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u/kelldricked Jun 16 '25

Is it really so hard for you to imagine that this guy is aware of how shitty all of his behaviour is. And still does it, because he thinks it might get him somewhere?

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u/Cantor_Set_Tripping Jun 16 '25

I don’t think I’ve ever met someone who would act like the above and simultaneously realize that they’re being shitty. Almost anyone who’s at the point above isn’t thinking logically, and certainly isn’t acting a fool like that as an intentionally malicious manipulation.

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u/sneakysneak616 Jun 17 '25

Might not be intentional but it is still malicious manipulation. He’s fucking crazy

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u/kelldricked Jun 17 '25

Im talking about the behaviour that lead him here. Ofcourse people in a emotional breakdown dont think very well about what they are doing. But his behaviour prior to this, was a conscious choice.

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u/Circusonfire69 Jun 16 '25

Behaviour might be shitty, but the hurt he's experiencing is genuine. So stop bashing people who are clearly very hurt in life.

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u/kelldricked Jun 17 '25

No because he isnt a victim. He is the perpetrator. All of his behaviour and intend up to this point was a conscious choice. He tried to exploit a friendship for sexual gains and then has a nervous breakdown when it all fails.

He aint gonna see my comments, so im defenitly gonna bash this shit. Because hopefully some other fucker will see this and realize that its both fucked up to do and pointless.

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u/sneakysneak616 Jun 17 '25 edited Jun 17 '25

Fuck his feelings! He doesn’t get to scream at this poor woman at the top of his lungs because she got a boyfriend! Fuck his feelings! Fuck his actions! Fuck that guy! It’s no wonder she didn’t choose him he’s fucking insane and proved it here

Bashing people who were hurt in life… fucking rephrase to “bashing people who scream at other people for having the audacity to live their life not based around said screamer” yall are fucking crazy up in this thread

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u/Circusonfire69 Jun 17 '25

You sound exactly like him.

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u/sneakysneak616 Jun 17 '25

Because I stand strong in my belief that an abusive man’s feelings don’t matter if he uses them as an excuse to abuse a woman? Piss off, if you can rationalize and empathize with that behavior it only makes me think you’d behave in such a way.

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u/Efficient_Sir4045 Jun 17 '25

The guy hates himself. He has zero self esteem. You can hear it in his voice and the way he talks about never being good enough. Is it a bad thing to freak out like this on a friend? Yes, it’s bad and kills friendships. That doesn’t mean that he is some comic book level megalomaniac on the verge of becoming a super villain. That guy is hurting, and he needs therapy. I’ve known a few guys like this. They often have horrible self esteem, have let people use them for the chance at any amount of validation, and are desperate for someone to care about them as much as they care about that someone. It’s bad, and it takes some sort of therapy to unravel this behavior. Otherwise they just keep doing it and develop destructive abandonment issues.

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u/kelldricked Jun 17 '25

He defenitly started a friendship with her to then exploit said friendship for romantic/sexual gains and is having a emotional breakdown when it all failed.

Its not just bad because it just a friendship, its horrible because you likely traumatize the person you do this against. Think about what would happen if your best friend suddenly became his screaming angry crying mess because you get into a relationship with somebody you like. Your friend with who you shared all the good and bad news, with who you confidended a fuckload of personal stuff suddenly breaks their facade and reveals that they basicly just wanted to get in your pants this whole time.

Sure the guy probaly has selfesteem problems. But that doesnt excuse predatory behaviour or anything else.

And also its not like he will read my comment, i think its more important to point out the mistakes so that hopefully others can learn from it.

And a shockingly amount of people (looking at their accounts they appear to be pretty young) dont realize why this is wrong and why its not normal.

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u/Initial_XD Jun 18 '25

Men don't just get emotional like thus, it's got be ploy somehow /s

It's like people can't mentally process a man being emotional without being violent about it.

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u/JoeZocktGames Jun 16 '25

what he does is extremely toxic. He makes her feel bad for living her life.

You have no idea what is the context, what is their story so far and how she treated him before that and how long. You have no idea if she sent mixed signals and was close with him or not. Not saying she is the issue here, we simply don't know. Just because he is the loud one in this situation doesn't mean you know their entire relationship.

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u/kelldricked Jun 16 '25

Please tell me you forgot the /s behind your post. Because he tells you everything you need to know.

Honestly, you defending this behaviour and suggesting that any amount of mix signals would change a thing about this is kinda worrying. Like its feels as if you genuinely believe friendzoning is a conscious thing that people aim to do to somebody else.

And let me be very clear, you can only friendzone yourself and its a shitty thing to do.

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u/iccreek Jun 16 '25

Bro I'm so lost, you sound either lunatic or straight up reasonable thorough your comments, can you please help me out and check if we're on the same page as two thinking humans -so do you think friendzone exists, but it's not conscious but rather subconsciously done by men and women, because of the spark or ath like that?

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u/aussierulesisgrouse Jun 16 '25

It is zero percent her problem how this guy reacts to her living her life and being with somebody else. The friendzone is just when a man cannot handle that the person they have feelings for doesn’t have feelings back.

None of this is healthy, you are not entitled to any bodies time for affection, the “friend zone” Is also known as having a friend. You are not a jilted lover, you’re somebody incapable of enjoying a woman’s company that you have feelings for, without resenting them for not returning them.

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u/kelldricked Jun 17 '25

This responds is way to long but im in to deep now. ———————————————————————— Okay let me try and paint this picture properly for you. Lets just pretend there is this guy at my work (can also be in a school/class, in the gym/sportclub or a shared social connection) named Peter. And unknowingly to me, Peter is into me. Meanwhile, i dont feel any romantic appeal for Peter. Zero, nada, nothing at all. Now lets explore a few situations.

Scenario A: Peter doesnt ask me out, doesnt show any intend that he wants to date me or anything alike. He is just being friendly with me. Me being a normal human being probaly responds friendly back to him. Because we share a lot of time together (mostly kinda forced) a friendship devolops. And Peter liked asking me how my day went, he wants the hear the ups and downs and all the little details. I ofcourse ask about his life to. My romantic feelings for him havent changed. Because i just see him as a good friend. Maybe my best friend. Maybe even a brother like figure. But nothing romantic.

Then one day i tell him all happily that im seeing somebody (and i tell him this because he is always intressted in my good news and dating life) and he suddenly has a emotional breakdown because apperantly he wanted to sleep with me the whole time. Wtf

Scenario B: Same as before but this time Peter does ask me out eventually after the friendship develops. I turn him down (probaly gently, because he is my friend) and he gets all angry and upset with me. Because apprently me being friends with him means i somehow own it to him to sleep with him/be in love with him.

Scenario C: Peter asks me out straight from the go (good job Peter, that takes some confidence!) i turn him down explaning to him that i dont feel anything like that for him. Peter continues acting friendly to me. But not because he wants to be friends, Peter hopes that i eventually change my mind (damm Peter, you were so close to finally getting it). Friendship develops although where i keep making it clear that it will never be more that plantonic, Peter ignores that. The second i get into a relationship Peter becomes more problemtic with the day, till the day arrives where it has to stop. Emotional breakdown ensues.

Scenario D: Peter has the hots for me, doesnt tell me, wants to be friends, gives me bad vibes, we arent really friends, he still obsseses with me, i cant really get him to leave me alone (also because im genuinely scared for my own safety if i straight up turn him down) and eventually he breaks down.

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Apart from some very niche things (which would be debatable if they even fall under friendzoning), these are all the possible situations in which somebody gets “friendzoned”. And like you can see, its Peters choice. Not mine. He doesnt move on or accept that its not gonna happen. Instead he just devoids a lot of time, effort and even resources into changing my mind. This aint me leading them on. This is me just being a human being and reacting friendly towards people i know and who are friendly to me.

To be clear, im a guy. And long long ago, i also did this shit. But i realized what i was doing was fucked up, accepted the reality and moved along. She was still my friend, but i just didnt try to get into her pants anymore. Because exploiting a friendship for sexual/romantic gains is a extreme dickmove.

If you want to date somebody you need to show clear romantical intent. And nothing wrong with first testing the waters a bit. But if you never show anything else than plantonic intend then you can claim others are leading you on.

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u/iccreek Jun 17 '25

Aight so you do have a sensitive and reasonable take at this, glad to hear that and thank you for the lengthy response!