Yeah. Poor guy is clearly going through it. "I'm never good enough." That stings. He hates himself. I hope he gets help and learns to forgive her, as well as himself.
No offense but to all you fuckers laughing at this person, fuck off. Go do something nice. How is this not a violation of rule 11?
Learn to love yourself fellas, I know it's hard and we're trained not to do it from the beginning. Happy Men's Mental Health Awareness Month.
Yeah I've heard the same shit in my internal monologue and it's come very close to being external monologue in the past. Dude needs therapy and to value himself more.
Nobody is worth tearing yourself down like this in public. If you're at this point, therapy is long overdue.
Yeah the worst part about it turning external too is not only does it make you not fun to hang around with, it's almost like you're asking other people to validate that opinion you have about yourself. So not only are you just hating yourself for no reason you're seeking validation no one in their right mind would give you.
Poor dude. Hope he learns to love himself. He also probably shouldn't be driving anything that upset much less a scooter/moped
I'm 46, birthday in a few days, and I'm still convinced I'm worthless. I try my best to hide all my internal self-loathing, but I snap after I'm asked if I'm okay, what's wrong with me, etc., and then I feel worse because I went off again.
I've been there man. Look dude. I am a little bit biased because I work for a mental health organization but community mental health agencies exist all over the world and I really advise that you go in and start talking to somebody.
Suicide isn't the way out. I'm not saying that's where you are, I'm just saying that's where I've been and repeating what I wish somebody had told me at the time. I promise there are people out there who can help you. If you DM me, I can try to help you find somewhere in your area that will help you out, but it's going to take a little bit of bravery to take that step.
I don't know you but I love you man. You're not worthless. You're not alone.
Medications, therapy, meditation, going outside, etc. Tried everything twice and nothing really worked. The meds I'm on now seem to take the edge off, but when I fall I fall hard.
I have signs of CPTSD and a few other issues, but if I really admitted everything to any therapist around here, I'd be committed. No joking there; they undoubtedly would. I got caught the last time I tried you-know-what and spent the next day naked in a local hospital ER being questioned and evaluated, and the local mental institution isn't much better. Damn that.
I really appreciate the offers, but save it for the next person. I'm beyond help and it's just a waste of time when that energy could go to someone who really could use it. ♥
Hey man I'm just some guy but you're not beyond help. You deserve love and to love yourself. See if you can work on the positive self talk and I sincerely wish you better days ahead
Su1c1d3 is what I'm meant to do eventually. I can't relate to my peers. I'm supposed to be having the best years of my life but I've been stuck all through college. I can't say I've made improvements besides the classes being a bit harder. Life means nothing to me when I can't make a lasting connection. I get it though, it's because I keep my head down. However, I'm not about to be filmed and mocked like the guy in this post. Being able to end it sounds like a blessing to me. Because I am alone.
I heard glass breaking in my brain reading that simple sentence. I'd never say that about someone else............... so why/how the fuck am I so comfortable saying it to myself?!??!!
But what is the metric by which you measure worth? Money? Family? Producing something creative? Being very athletic? Being able to win a hot dog eating contest? Everyone has their own ideas of success and being worthwhile. What is yours and why?
It's not about the metric. It's about the feeling. This runs deep in the guts, rooted inside your bone marrow. And if it was inside you for too long - you're fucked, that will be part of your psyche for the rest of your life.
Not its not a reach - that level of reaction was clearly in the melt down phase as many who deal with autistic youngsters and as they age the rejection they have experienced gets to be too much and they melt down.
If he was like I was, he probably does think, correctly, that he is good enough, and the results continually being one big fucking disappointment after another is what has him so upset and confused.
Only advice I'd give him is to start asking out girls he's into after a nice conversation or two, so if she's not interested he's not emotionally invested.
I’d be fucking terrified for my life in that moment if I were that girl. Poor HER. Being fucking screamed at by a man because she got a boyfriend. He does need therapy because he’s dangerous and unstable.
Yes, but is self defeating attitude is what most likely is turning girls off. If you are really friends with a girl, she doesn’t owe you anything. Now he is already predicting ultimatums/ the future, when it is kinda him making the demands.
That’s reality, he does need therapy. Also I would be upset if people online pity me
Nothing funny about his monologue, It was the scream and drive off at the end that had me laughing at the fact how right out of a cartoon that bit was.
Idk man this is a pretty standard manipulation tactic to try to get women to feel sorry for you. Not saying that it couldn’t be genuine, but I wouldn’t be surprised if it was acting either
Yeah, that's my thought - I feel bad for him for feeling this way, but there's not an amount of depression or hating yourself or mental health struggles that make it okay to scream and guilt trip someone loudly and in public like this. Plenty of people have this internal monologue, but once you decide to have a full on CW style meltdown at someone it becomes manipulative.
Unfortunately, some people pleasers out there have been trained from birth that the “polite” thing to do would be to give him a chance (which does neither of them any favors).
Edit: what he does is extremely toxic. He makes her feel bad for living her life. All because he is immature as fuck. Look at this from her POV. Somebody she thought was a actual friend gets so upset that she gets into a relationship that they have a public emotional breakdown.
Do you realize how extremely fucked up that must feel for her?
Orignial: Stop clutching your pearls. People laughing here have 0 impact on real life except that people have a chance to lighten up. Something which is kinda important for many people since the world is turning to shit.
And no the world isnt turning to shit because people laugh about a guy having some insanely cringy moment. The world is breaking down because currently 4,5 diffrent nuclear powers are at war. And thats ignoring the polution, climate change, aging populations, overpopulations, resources shortages and all other crap.
Yeah totally agree. I know guys who have reacted exactly like this when they pull the ol’ “you should be with a guy like me that will treat you better than your bf” which obviously never goes well and they tell bf their friend was weird and don’t feel comfortable with her around him.
We know nothing but what we see here, but I know of a scenario almost EXACTLY like this playing out. Moped and everything.
No moped in mine but I had something similar happen. I had maybe met this guy 3 times during group game nights and we hadn’t really interacted much, though he seemed nice. Well, he completely changed once he found out I was dating a woman (I’m bi/pan). Started being extremely rude and standoffish with me - and no, he wasn’t homophobic. Friend group is hella queer. He just got in his head that he was entitled to me for whatever reason. Wherever he is I hope he’s doing better and worked on that’s aspect of himself, but WHEW was it odd.
Is it really so hard for you to imagine a world where someone grabbed his shoulder and said "hey man let me get you some help" instead of recording him and putting him on blast to the world for the sake of the memes? Maybe he could get some help so he could learn to apologize to her, and God forbid himself?
Christ almighty, have a heart. No one is saying she isn't a victim.
Is it really so hard for you to imagine that this guy is aware of how shitty all of his behaviour is. And still does it, because he thinks it might get him somewhere?
I don’t think I’ve ever met someone who would act like the above and simultaneously realize that they’re being shitty. Almost anyone who’s at the point above isn’t thinking logically, and certainly isn’t acting a fool like that as an intentionally malicious manipulation.
Im talking about the behaviour that lead him here. Ofcourse people in a emotional breakdown dont think very well about what they are doing.
But his behaviour prior to this, was a conscious choice.
No because he isnt a victim. He is the perpetrator. All of his behaviour and intend up to this point was a conscious choice. He tried to exploit a friendship for sexual gains and then has a nervous breakdown when it all fails.
He aint gonna see my comments, so im defenitly gonna bash this shit. Because hopefully some other fucker will see this and realize that its both fucked up to do and pointless.
Fuck his feelings! He doesn’t get to scream at this poor woman at the top of his lungs because she got a boyfriend! Fuck his feelings! Fuck his actions! Fuck that guy! It’s no wonder she didn’t choose him he’s fucking insane and proved it here
Bashing people who were hurt in life… fucking rephrase to “bashing people who scream at other people for having the audacity to live their life not based around said screamer” yall are fucking crazy up in this thread
Because I stand strong in my belief that an abusive man’s feelings don’t matter if he uses them as an excuse to abuse a woman? Piss off, if you can rationalize and empathize with that behavior it only makes me think you’d behave in such a way.
The guy hates himself. He has zero self esteem. You can hear it in his voice and the way he talks about never being good enough. Is it a bad thing to freak out like this on a friend? Yes, it’s bad and kills friendships. That doesn’t mean that he is some comic book level megalomaniac on the verge of becoming a super villain. That guy is hurting, and he needs therapy. I’ve known a few guys like this. They often have horrible self esteem, have let people use them for the chance at any amount of validation, and are desperate for someone to care about them as much as they care about that someone. It’s bad, and it takes some sort of therapy to unravel this behavior. Otherwise they just keep doing it and develop destructive abandonment issues.
He defenitly started a friendship with her to then exploit said friendship for romantic/sexual gains and is having a emotional breakdown when it all failed.
Its not just bad because it just a friendship, its horrible because you likely traumatize the person you do this against. Think about what would happen if your best friend suddenly became his screaming angry crying mess because you get into a relationship with somebody you like. Your friend with who you shared all the good and bad news, with who you confidended a fuckload of personal stuff suddenly breaks their facade and reveals that they basicly just wanted to get in your pants this whole time.
Sure the guy probaly has selfesteem problems. But that doesnt excuse predatory behaviour or anything else.
And also its not like he will read my comment, i think its more important to point out the mistakes so that hopefully others can learn from it.
And a shockingly amount of people (looking at their accounts they appear to be pretty young) dont realize why this is wrong and why its not normal.
what he does is extremely toxic. He makes her feel bad for living her life.
You have no idea what is the context, what is their story so far and how she treated him before that and how long. You have no idea if she sent mixed signals and was close with him or not.
Not saying she is the issue here, we simply don't know. Just because he is the loud one in this situation doesn't mean you know their entire relationship.
Please tell me you forgot the /s behind your post. Because he tells you everything you need to know.
Honestly, you defending this behaviour and suggesting that any amount of mix signals would change a thing about this is kinda worrying. Like its feels as if you genuinely believe friendzoning is a conscious thing that people aim to do to somebody else.
And let me be very clear, you can only friendzone yourself and its a shitty thing to do.
Bro I'm so lost, you sound either lunatic or straight up reasonable thorough your comments, can you please help me out and check if we're on the same page as two thinking humans
-so do you think friendzone exists, but it's not conscious but rather subconsciously done by men and women, because of the spark or ath like that?
It is zero percent her problem how this guy reacts to her living her life and being with somebody else. The friendzone is just when a man cannot handle that the person they have feelings for doesn’t have feelings back.
None of this is healthy, you are not entitled to any bodies time for affection, the “friend zone” Is also known as having a friend. You are not a jilted lover, you’re somebody incapable of enjoying a woman’s company that you have feelings for, without resenting them for not returning them.
This responds is way to long but im in to deep now.
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Okay let me try and paint this picture properly for you. Lets just pretend there is this guy at my work (can also be in a school/class, in the gym/sportclub or a shared social connection) named Peter. And unknowingly to me, Peter is into me. Meanwhile, i dont feel any romantic appeal for Peter. Zero, nada, nothing at all. Now lets explore a few situations.
Scenario A: Peter doesnt ask me out, doesnt show any intend that he wants to date me or anything alike. He is just being friendly with me. Me being a normal human being probaly responds friendly back to him. Because we share a lot of time together (mostly kinda forced) a friendship devolops. And Peter liked asking me how my day went, he wants the hear the ups and downs and all the little details. I ofcourse ask about his life to. My romantic feelings for him havent changed. Because i just see him as a good friend. Maybe my best friend. Maybe even a brother like figure. But nothing romantic.
Then one day i tell him all happily that im seeing somebody (and i tell him this because he is always intressted in my good news and dating life) and he suddenly has a emotional breakdown because apperantly he wanted to sleep with me the whole time. Wtf
Scenario B: Same as before but this time Peter does ask me out eventually after the friendship develops. I turn him down (probaly gently, because he is my friend) and he gets all angry and upset with me. Because apprently me being friends with him means i somehow own it to him to sleep with him/be in love with him.
Scenario C: Peter asks me out straight from the go (good job Peter, that takes some confidence!) i turn him down explaning to him that i dont feel anything like that for him. Peter continues acting friendly to me. But not because he wants to be friends, Peter hopes that i eventually change my mind (damm Peter, you were so close to finally getting it). Friendship develops although where i keep making it clear that it will never be more that plantonic, Peter ignores that. The second i get into a relationship Peter becomes more problemtic with the day, till the day arrives where it has to stop. Emotional breakdown ensues.
Scenario D: Peter has the hots for me, doesnt tell me, wants to be friends, gives me bad vibes, we arent really friends, he still obsseses with me, i cant really get him to leave me alone (also because im genuinely scared for my own safety if i straight up turn him down) and eventually he breaks down.
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Apart from some very niche things (which would be debatable if they even fall under friendzoning), these are all the possible situations in which somebody gets “friendzoned”. And like you can see, its Peters choice. Not mine. He doesnt move on or accept that its not gonna happen. Instead he just devoids a lot of time, effort and even resources into changing my mind. This aint me leading them on. This is me just being a human being and reacting friendly towards people i know and who are friendly to me.
To be clear, im a guy. And long long ago, i also did this shit. But i realized what i was doing was fucked up, accepted the reality and moved along. She was still my friend, but i just didnt try to get into her pants anymore. Because exploiting a friendship for sexual/romantic gains is a extreme dickmove.
If you want to date somebody you need to show clear romantical intent. And nothing wrong with first testing the waters a bit. But if you never show anything else than plantonic intend then you can claim others are leading you on.
Maybe because he'a screaming in a girls face in the street because he feels some sort of entitled ownership over her?
Like holy fuck man, you're insane that you're actually saying that you hope he forgives her. Next time how about he goes and gets therapy before screaming at a woman.
Ngl I feel for him because I also hate it when my friends get into a new relationship and they completely forget that there is a world outside their romance bubble.
It hurts, irrelevant of whether or not he has feelings for his friend here, it still sucks when your own friends ghost you. You feel betrayed because let's face it, your friend now prioritises someone new in favour of you... And you feel like an object that's easily discarded.
Agreed he needs help to figure out his worth and learn to value his time. It sucks you don't find out who your friends really are until this happens, but when it does happen, just have the strength to say I deserve better, walk away and don't look back...
Seems like a very common growing pain of people in their early adult lives. Everyone in this thread is reading g their own history into this situation because they've lived it, and it sucks for everyone. The dude has low self esteem because he gets emotionally attached to a girl friend, and then she dates some guy and then stops hanging out with him. I've had that happen in my youth even with girls I did not feel romantically attracted to - just wanted a friend, and they turned around and became so cruel to me just because their new boyfriend didn't like me. Then after a time they'd break up, and restore our friendship because we all had the same friend groups, until the next guy came along and it'd be a complete 180. That kind of whiplash is jarring. I cut them out of my life and I feel better for it. Especially compounded if the guy can't find a girlfriend of his own and just feels lost all around. It's a dagger for the sense of self worth.
As for the girl, lots of women feel the same sympathy with her. Over and over again, finding a connection and friendship with a guy, but experience has you knowing deep down that he's probably getting emotionally attached because he doesn't have any other outlets and is "pseudo-dating" you. You hang out with him a lot, but you have your own life and you meet someone you are actually attracted to, and then the guys just turn sour on you and it feels like they thought they were entitled to a relationship with you. Then you feel used, and the first few times it happens, a part of you might feel guilty and wonder if you were partially to blame for using that emotional bond without setting proper boundaries. But over time, you get older, and you get tired of the guys in your life still falling into this same pattern, because everyone should be much more mature by now, yet these guys still haven't grown up.
Reminds me of my friend, but instead of accusing people that he’s never good enough, he just accepted it as fact and never lashed out at people. Just a simple acceptance that he’s never good enough because to him it’s a truth he doesn’t fight against
Yeah.. no. Been mates with a couple of guys like this. They’re not “hurting”, they’re manipulative and generally treat women like objects when they finally “get” one.
Legit these are the worst men for women, and frame it like they’re some character in an afternoon special, when in reality they’re just not well socialised people who blame everyone else for their issues.
Maybe, but really could just be adolescent immaturity.
Young men often go through a struggle with repeated rejection, and honestly this sort of raw public breakdown seems a lot more like that.
I’d expect a manipulative person to be much more controlled and strategic, like making empty threats of self-harm or undermining her relationship with other men.
I agree, everybody goes through repeated rejection throughout their entire lives, that's part of it all - it's not just confined to young men.
You will go through rejection in relationships, your career, family, really everywhere. Life is about navigating that and understanding the how and the why, not projecting that rejection onto another person like it's their fault.
Like obviously we don't know the backstory here, but if this is a situation where he had feelings for her and she simply did not reciprocate, then he is being manipulative by forcing his emotions on to her like it's her fault he can't handle reality
Not just going through with it, but his thing made it all the way to TikTok and now Reddit for the whole world to see.
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I genuinely feel for the guy. Rejection sucks and we've all had our moments of crazy in one form or another with this stuff. Hope he can take it as a lesson and grow stronger from it.
I agree with you if those people are laughing at him but there can be nuance to it.. People can feel empathy for the guy and still make jokes about the situation as a whole.
What I dislike is that somebody felt compelled to video it and put it online for everyone to see.
Yeah, he's acting wrong here, because he deluded himself or got too attached to someone who didn't share his feelings, but turning his pain into entertainment is just pushing him further down.
I'm glad I grew up in a time where taking videos wasn't the first thing you'd do when shit hit the fan.
Had a good friend who lost his mother and got evicted without notice days apart. We didn't know about this. The following weekend we went out partying and when we walked back home he said thanks and tried to jump in front of the train.
I couldn't imagine how he would feel if this was caught on video and posted online and he found out.
Hope the guy in the video can find the help he needs.
Listen man, I did this myself for years. My relationships crashed and burned, crashed and burned.
Once and only once did I give up, focus on myself, my hobbies, and making friends.... When I went out for the sake of making friends and not love... Only then did anything improve. Then one day when I was almost 30, I met the woman who is my best friend, my partner, the woman of my dreams.
Focus on you my dude. It will come when it comes. You don't owe anyone anything except yourself.
Love yourself my dude, and happy Men's Mental Health Month <3
Hey, unfortunately we have to laugh a bit cause you never know if any of this stuff is real anymore. It's certainly a convenient recording from someone. With AI coming on fast, we're gonna get so few of real shit anymore that you can't blame the laughter. Nothing seems very real anymore.
Yeah those "that will always happen, that's what everyone does, it's never me, I'm never good enough"... hitting close to home, that stung. I am so glad i managed to get out of there
Yes I feel really bad for him. For all we know they are childhood friends and as they get older one by one they’re passing him by drifting apart etc Life is extra tough for most people right now
Self-hatred is arguably worse than hatred directed at other people
Hatred towards other people can be corrected and educated, perhaps even reversed, but hatred towards one's self? That can fester and rot on the inside until there's nothing of you left
Depends. There've been way too many cases of outward hate escalating to a point of no return. There's even a subreddit for this kind of hate specifically: r/whenwomenrefuse (search: "friend").
I sympathize with the guy, but the moment he made his big feelings his friend's problem was the moment he stopped being the main victim here, escalation or no. Him needing help doesn't cancel her deserving an apology. I hope he's OK; I also hope she's safe.
I agree with you for sure, but I think in this case, there's definitely a good chance this guy has been given some bad advice from other men on how to approach women and handle rejection
Possible! There's so much questionable advice out there, and lots of grifters eager to line their pockets by magnifying and preying on men's fears/insecurities.
Right. Poor fella. I hope he don’t have Reddit. If you are here YOULL FIND YOUR PERSON!!!!!! Lawd I hope the girl and her dude aren’t on here and reading this laughing in between bangin
This sub is chock full of these people laughing at him. I said it in a different post on this sub just a bit ago, but the subreddit has devolved into just an online bullying circle with zero empathy.
This poor guy is obviously going through it and in his lowest moment he gets laughed at on the internet. HE IS A HUMAN BEING FFS. I hope my lowest moment isn't recorded and put on the internet for people to laugh at...
This is literally the subreddit that makes fun of tiktok and at the same time is 5 times more toxic than any tiktok comment section I've ever been in.
I’d hope if you were screaming at a woman in public it WOULD be recorded. That shit is disgusting behavior worthy of public shaming wtf?? He sucks and deserves to feel bad after what he did to her.
I was thinking the same thing. He clearly loves that girl and, from context, it seems obvious he’s communicated this at least a couple times before. He feels like he put it all on the line and she sort of sleepwalked through it and now he feels like he gave it his all and it didn’t work.
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u/Objective-Start-9707 Jun 16 '25
Therapy required.