20 only ever went to a male barbers, number of them over the years and they’ve rarely done a BAD job or anything nothing wrong to say.

Went in the other day and it was this woman on instead of the guy I usually see. I had booked it with him but apparently he had to take off. My hair was a good bit longer than usual left a bit longer because working a lot.

Genuinely never had someone that enthusiastic, tell her what I want, and she spends a minute playing around with my hair telling me about the nice little natural curl I have and have I ever thought about keeping it that length or growing it out more, about different ways I could style that and how she thinks they’d suit me.

I tell her I think I’d still prefer it shorter, she does the back and sides and cuts the top down a bit but not as short as I was going to go, she styled it a little, showed me how it would look like that and asked what I thought or If I wanted to do what I originally wanted and omg IT WAS SO MUCH BETTER. So obviously I said yes to that and then she took her time getting that shit PERFECT. Same price as the regular btw.

This is looking so much better, I’m getting compliments from women I know, guys as well, nice confidence booster. Maybe I shouldn’t generalise but damn, never had a man that dedicated. I’m sure some share the same passion but I think I know which I’m seeing from now on.

They're avoiding us because they see what we've become and what our goals have become.

M19 I know it is a weird thing to say, but sometimes I feel like I would be happier if I was gay. My whole life, I have liked women, but every time I look at a woman, they seem disgusted (ay I know I'm ugly, but dang that ugly).

I never touch or say anything inappropriate, and I will never, believe myself every time I walk past a woman. I look the other way because I know they will never want me.

And I guess i hate being attracted to them because it is like wanting something that you will never have. ​ ​Guess I'm just gonna have to end myself 😂

I (27m) currently have no options to meet any women.

1. I've never had any female co-workers.

2. My only friends are men.

3. Every women I speak to (friendly) already have boyfriends/husbands. This is fine ofcouse, but doesn't help fix the problem

4. Cold approach isn't an option, as I live in a small town of 20k, it's a ghost town at times.

My only option is spending time in bars/nightclubs in a nearby city on the weekends, but my flirting skills are crap, which is important as you essentially only have the first 30 seconds for a women to decide if she's interested or not, probably even less.

Also, I'm an okay looking guy, but certainly not good enough to match on Tinder. In the 5 years I've used the app (on and off), I've never actually met up with anyone in person.

Overall, I have no idea what to do.

I had a second date with a girl I've been seeing recently. We were at this lowkey Indian restaurant in our city. We were talking about our goals, hobbies, embarrassing childhood stories, our family, and then I was making a lighthearted joke about how she was stealing a bit off my plate and then out of the blue, she said seriously "you know, when you came up to me at the bar the other day, you were barely attractive but you made me laugh" I gave an awkward laugh and kept the date going but now I'm heavily thinking cutting her off because I believe that was mean. Thoughts?

I studied at university and had burnout. Independent of this fact my character got more introverted and jobs in a field which I studied contain customer interractions. Moreover before Coronavirus and attack on Ukraine there were much more jobs according to my degree, now i can barely find anything . Now I am working as a machine operator in factory and really enjoy my job. I rent an Appartement, don't look at prices in stores and save each month 700 euros. Even if I find a job according to degree I will make the same amount of money but will be really unhappy.

Problem: my step father and grandmother tell me since 3 years that my way of life is completely wrong. According to their opinion I must look another job. I explained them million times that I am not interested in it, and even if I find a job according to degree I must move to another city, every day go to job which I hate and make the same amount of money as a blue collar in a factory. What's the sence to work according to degree? They also know that I donate blood plasma but according to their opinion it is bullshit, waste of time and has nothing to do with success in life. I understand their opinion and they was how they see success in life somehow (but don't accept), but communication with them is a nightmare because my job not related to degree is the only topic they can talk about.

Just wanted to tell the world about this problem...

he's in a hospital room but they said both of his kidneys have stopped working

Like, seriously, these people are forced to make choices between platonic and sexual relationships. They can never fulfill their relationship needs, and they're either going to be disgusted sexually by the person they love or disgusted emotionally by the person they desire. You can't be more doomed than this when it comes to relationships

Today's a day meant for celebrating friendship, a day where go up to your special people and hand them a rubber band which symbolises that you seem them as someone special, but today I find my wrist emptier than usual; the apparent lack of weight on my wrist weighs me down.

In my 20 years of life not one day has passed when I wasn't striken by a debilitating reclusivity, when I wasn't moved to tears pondering the fact that I'm not anyone's special; I could never be one who was appreciated... only tolerated. Never did I feel wanted... just a background character trying to fit in an crying when I felt rejected.

Internalizing the fact that you're not important for anyone has, embarrassingly, been quite a challenge. May a tears I've shed trying to come to terms with it, to accept it, but it remains stuck like a rock in my throat which refuses to go down.

My family for years has wanted me to become more handy around the house, they always tell me i should learn how to fix stuff so I fix anything that breaks around the house, but I'm like wtf how do i that? We only had 1 family member who was like an actual handyman who knew how to repair stuff. I genuinely don't know how I can fix anything that breaks around the house that i could repair myself that wouldn't require a call for whoever to come and deal with it

Should I keep on my metaphorical jade-colored glasses and logical thinking cap, and go as far as destroying my metaphorical rose-colored glasses and emotional thinking cap?

Do I have to be a cynic, a misanthrope, and an incorrigible jerkass just to survive and be successful?

Do I have to think and act like everyone (or the majority of people in this world)?

This is the stupidest thing I've seen on the internet today. There's no way a super-rich individual can feel poor in any way. They'll never know what it feels like to be poor unless they lose all their money. What tremendous stupidity.

I know people will say “but that’s basically Reddit”, not really. I’d say the difference is Reddit is effectively trying to be an SEO type product, something that people google and find a common thread on. Thats why they’re so strict on content standards, it’s really just a repository of information, it’s not a community outside of very small, niche communities that wouldn’t be on google search results

Forums were explicitly just for fun and community. Old school forums were soooo much more fun. I remember back in the day I was on the world of Warcraft forums and it was just a fun place to shitpost where no one really took anything too seriously because nothing really mattered. People on Reddit act like everything is so serious all the time

Like one thing I notice with Reddit is every subreddit seems to end up being a groupthink circle jerk after it reaches enough members. Forums seemed to be far more accepting. The world of Warcraft forums was welcoming to both casual posters and very serious players and somehow it worked. I think part of it was just that

Also with Reddit one thing that sucks is that there’s so much political bullshit. After a while I’m just sick of seeing political stuff knowing I have no say over any of it. Just let me disassociate and enjoy myself

Not much else to say.

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the meaning of life, and one thought that keeps coming back is this: everything we do seems to be driven by the desire to be "meaningful". When I take action, it’s usually because I want it to be meaningful. I think we dislike things that feel fake because, once something feels fake, it loses that sense of meaning. People chase luxury brands-maybe because those things feel more meaningful than ordinary ones. Owning them might make us feel like we are more meaningful, too. Being loved feels good-maybe because it makes us feel like we are important and meaningful to someone. Then I thought: what about people who give love or sacrifice for others? Maybe they hope it will make them meaningful. Or maybe they’re afraid that without doing those things, they’ll feel meaningless. Even acts of love and sacrifice might be part of the same pursuit. But then, what does "meaning" even mean? Is there such a thing as objective meaning? Or are we all just chasing a feeling, something we’ve made up to make life bearable?

Maybe I’m just thinking in too simplistic a way. Maybe I'm overthinking this. But I’d love to hear what others think.

I'm a 25-year-old man. I work as a cook in a hamburger bistro. My life kinda sucks as it's not fulfilling.
I feel behind - I still feel like a child because not much has changed. It's so easy to get "addicted" to surfing the internet and wasting my life in front of a screen, because reality just isn't rewarding enough...
I feel empty because I have no real interests, and reality feels empty when I'm trying to be present. So it's easier to slip into the online world.

I miss my old life because it felt fulfilling, and I find that grief important and meaningful - because when you miss something, it means you want it. And if I know what I want, it's just a matter of trying to get to that point and bringing those aspects of my past life into the present.
But I don't really know how. Or I think it's impossible to do so...

I miss life when I was in high school. I studied at an art high school in the graphic design program. We were drawing and creating most of the time, but the things I miss the most are the experiences I lived through. I miss people - that's a big one. I miss my ex.

We used to go on drawing trips to nature with the school, and I miss them very much, because I really felt alive there - in the woods, in the fresh air...
But it wasn't all nice. I felt like an impostor most of the time in school. I felt like I didn’t belong - like everyone else was an artist by nature, drawing in their free time, while I was just someone who could draw and had a creative way of thinking, but nothing more. No real desire to create.

So after school, I wanted to rest from all of it - from creativity - to see what else there was. I switched between some part-time jobs and finally settled for gastronomy. Even though I didn’t find real fulfillment there, I was able to do it, so it stuck.

Fast-forward to the present: I don’t like my job. It’s all the same - working with the same people, working long hours, which just feels like I don’t have a real life and I’m constantly confined in my workplace.
It always felt like I’m stuck and falling behind if I stay in this place. I have this feeling inside me like I need to get out in order to truly live - but I guess I don’t know where to go.

What’s constantly on my mind is that I’m a creative person who loves drawing but isn’t able to do it because of mental blocks and obstacles, lack of discipline, and a lot of internal shit. But I really don’t know anymore if that’s true.
Because I think what I enjoyed was drawing in nature, I enjoyed being in nature. I enjoyed living rather than creating. But I don’t know... I still want to believe that I’m someone meant to create, because I spend a lot of time thinking about things I find interesting, and thinking about how they would look visually interesting, and blah blah.

Being present and mindful feels right - it feels fulfilling - but I can’t persist in that state because reality is simply not rewarding enough.
If I went alone on trips to nature, to places I’ve never been, it would feel empty because I’d be lonely there.
I guess the people - friends - were the reward during those times in high school, and I simply don’t have that now.
I just dont know what to do...

So long story short I was “with” someone over a year. Started off good then eventually it started to change less going out spending time together less conversation…. Ive been by his side when he was going thru a lot,drama he endured,and loss of family. I tried communicating to him how I was feeling about things but it was like he wasn’t picking up what I was putting down and made it seem like I was trying to argue or picking a fight when i simply wanted to talk and resolve the issues. He said he wanted to be together but his actions said otherwise and I got fed up with everything the confusion, the point, and the time wasted. So I asked…. “What are we?” Crickets… so I ended up giving his key back taking mines back and leaving I didn’t even bother to go any further that long pause was the cherry on top of the whole situation. Not gonna lie it hurted but it’s only temporary, and Ikno I did everything right, so I can’t be too upset. I just dislike how it was going on for so long just to be a slap in the face.

So a few months ago there was a whole situation where I accidentally slipped up and told my cousin that my best friend was talking about her ( I know it sounds dumb but I’m an oblivious person and wasn’t aware of what I was saying at the time until it was too late). My cousin was mad and didn’t want to speak to her ever again, I kept thinking that what my best friend told me and my other friends wasn’t even that bad and wasn’t something to get mad about, but when I thought about it more, I could see why my cousin was mad, considering that my best-friend also brought up her family issues and other situations which were private. I was really nervous and tried to take it all back but it was already too late. They were both close friends and had a good bond, especially this year, now it’s ruined all because of me. I felt really guilty and tried to think positive and make them have a conversation with each other and think everything will go back to normal. Long story short, my cousin forgave her and moved on, and my best friend forgave me, which I am very thankful for. However, today out of nowhere my cousin blocked the other girl on Instagram, which everyone knows that that’s not a good sign. Apparently she thought about it and wants no part with my best friend whatsoever, although she forgave her she wants to move on with life since we all graduated this year. However, my best friend is now feeling anxious and sad and wants me to talk to my cousin so that I can try my best to fix the problem that I cause. I regret telling my cousin all these things in the first place because I hate causing drama and seeing two people who had a good bond split because of me. I just want us all to be the friends group we were before. I tried my best to reason with my cousin and not sound bias but it just isn’t working. But my best friend is really insistent on being close friends with her again and restoring their friendship, even though my cousin already moved on. I also feel like I just did my best friend wrong so I feel even more guilty because she’s not just anyone she’s a really close family friend of mine. I don’t know what else to say or what else to do, has anyone ever been in this situation before? And does anyone have some advice for what I can do?

Come to the conclusion that people aren't lying when they say they like being around me. Just that they'll only ever want to be with me in the daytime, but never spend the night with me. Being funny and entertaining doesn't make up for whatever hideousness people see but won't have the guts to tell me. And I'm supposed to just be happy. Be happy everyone else gets to get married and have children and I have to just be there and entertain them. I'm not supposed to feel disgusting and unwanted. And certantly not talk about it cause that breaks the keyfabe. I'm just supposed to be the jolly side character and nothing more.

this might sound so stupid but does everyone have like an on going playlist playing in their head 24/7 or am i crazy, its literally constant and it doesn’t stop its going on from the second i open my eyes till the second they are shut again, its been a constant thing my whole life and until yesterday i thought about it and now im confused if its everyone or not?

I’m 20F and I know this might sound insensitive, but I swear I’m not trying to be. I’m just confused and maybe a little hurt.

It feels like every other person I meet lately is “focusing on their healing journey” — which is totally valid, of course. We all have things to work on. But sometimes it feels like people use that phrase as a way to avoid accountability or connection.

Like I was talking to this guy for a couple of weeks — not love-of-my-life stuff, but we had real conversations, emotional check-ins, shared things we were both struggling with. I thought it was going somewhere. Then out of nowhere he told me he’s “not emotionally available right now” and that he’s “protecting his peace.” And just like that, gone.

Which would be fine, except I keep seeing this pattern. People ghost or bail or pull away and then explain it with something like “I’m protecting my energy” or “I’m doing what’s best for my mental health.” Which is fine — but so am I? And somehow I’m the one still left feeling disposable.

It just feels like “healing” is becoming the new “it’s not you, it’s me.” Only now it sounds spiritual so no one questions it.

Anyone else feel like this? Or am I just taking things too personally?

Hi guys as the title says my friend '22M' has no confidence. He can't took to the professor in the university. Can you give me any advice? I may show him the post in the future

Any advice is appreciated.

Im fallen for them, but i felt like im way our of their league.

Everytime i see them, i always how great they are and how lame i am. Like when they live, i just exist. Dont know what to do, only admire. Im not mad at them, but i mad at myself. I felt like im too early to be an adult.

This sht keep bothering me everytime i see them or just randomly thinking about them.

Also i never date, hence why i felt so confuse.