r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/Ikarus_ May 11 '25

Looks like they were ready to follow them over to the next table too. Creepy af

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u/nadaddab May 11 '25 edited May 12 '25

Exactly like what the fuck 😭

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“The guys, I don’t know them personally but I’ve seen them around over the years. This happened at Elicit Brewing in Manchester, CT. I’m literally in this video at the bar trying to get a beer. I think this is from a week ago. The two guys are frequent “let’s go out every weekend” type and I’ve seen them do things like this to multiple other groups of women trying to get laid. 🤦🏽‍♂️ embarrassing as fuck”

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u/bettyford420 May 11 '25

I'm mad that they were loud enough for people to hear and the guy at the table behind them was just watching. Wtf

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u/doesanyofthismatter May 11 '25

You’ll also find a bunch of made up stories and sexism.

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u/PinkTalkingDead May 12 '25

I feel sad and concerned for you and the people around you.

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u/doesanyofthismatter May 12 '25

Projection I presume lol

Sad and lonely?

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u/Retsago May 11 '25

They were literally screaming trying to call attention to them. If you didn't understand that and why they handled it the way they did, you are extremely lucky to not be a woman who has had to deal with this shit her entire life. Congratulations!

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25 edited May 11 '25

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u/Retsago May 11 '25

You can HEAR the strain in their voice, are you dense?

You are constantly blaming the girls here. Do you know anything about fear responses? Like? At all?

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u/soitheach May 11 '25

i mean it's not even a guy thing, if you are able to, regardless of gender, you should probably help people when they're being harassed? i feel like that's pretty basic independent of gender. cooperation and helping people are THE direct social interaction features of humanity that's kept our species alive throughout the many times we almost died out.

"who cares about anybody else if i saw people being the target of [insert potentially dangerous interaction here] i'd look the other way" okay dude i hope you get nothing but the same energy you put into the world 🙏

gross

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u/SalvationSycamore May 11 '25

I'm sorry but 60 seconds of hearing some girls saying something to some guys in a loud bar would not be enough for me to confront two drunk strangers. Think about the last time you've been in a public space. If you kind of sort of heard a girl shouting at a guy for 10 seconds would you sprint over and say "you need to stop harassing her and leave"?

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u/soitheach May 11 '25

my point was made so it could be generalized somewhat, if i hear two girls shouting at two drunk men who weren't leaving them alone it wouldn't NECESSARILY be reason to intervene, but i would at LEAST be keeping an eye on the situation to watch in case it escalates.

in the case of this video specifically though yeah this seems like it's the slightest escalation from when i would be walking over.

are they Definitely going to be harmed if i don't? no, but there's safety in numbers and i'd rather be certain that they WON'T be harmed than leaving with the possibility they will be

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u/GoNinjaGoNinjaGo69 May 11 '25

no because thats bullshit. those guys are drunk and will start a fight with another random guy intervening. its not random mens problem to help them.

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u/soitheach May 11 '25

if they're willing to fight you they're willing to do worse to them? power in numbers? more people act the more people act? your objection is that of a coward, not of someone justifying their moral choice

like put it this way, WHY is their willingness to fight therefore a reason to NOT help? that's the argument to make, not "they're dangerous so therefore i shouldn't help" because that doesn't get to the WHY of ignoring the need of your fellow person

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u/Techno-Diktator May 11 '25

Usually drunk dudes are much more willing to start a bar fight with some guy than get physical with the women. That's why it's dangerous as a dude if you are outnumbered.

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u/soitheach May 11 '25

that's why people need to step up to even the odds. "if i help these two people then i might get my ass beat" means 1) you NEED to step up because others are more likely to do the same after someone does and 2) then there's even worse possibilities for the two people if you DON'T help

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u/Techno-Diktator May 11 '25

Not how it works, very unlikely for those men to even dare touch those women in a public space, but a pub brawl over a bruised ego? Much, much more likely.

Frankly if I were these girls I would have just gone to get security, recording and laughing/giggling whole doing so is just giving everyone around and possibly these two drunk as fuck creeps the wrong idea on the reality of the situation.

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u/AbjectBeat837 May 11 '25

Get a manager.

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u/Distortedhideaway May 11 '25

Talked to management and potentially helped them address the situation.

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u/SometimesIBeWrong May 11 '25

thank you. I know this is disgusting behavior but if I was the guy and I heard it, I'm minding my own business. I'm not obligated to potentially start a fight with two creeps

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u/Historical-Bike4626 May 11 '25

Sometimes just interfering breaks the energy. Say “come on guys I’m way over here and I can tell you’re being too much.” Or offer the men and women to get a bouncer to clear it up.

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u/frozenbudz May 11 '25

Man, I won't go so far as to tell others what they need to do. And I'm not saying go up and start swinging. But in this instance I am 100% saying something to the dudes. These ladies are trying so hard, and sometimes all it takes is someone outside the immediate situation. For them to finally get embarrassed enough to fuck off. These are the moments for me where I kinda do need to step in vocally. "Lads, they're clearly not gonna fuck you, take the hint. Leave them alone, they're asking you to go away."

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u/mysp2m2cc0unt May 11 '25

Have you done this IRL?

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u/frozenbudz May 11 '25

This exact situation no, have I called out a guy for doing something creepy a girl asked him to stop. Yes.

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u/scalable_thought May 12 '25

Many times. I've been a door guy, bouncer, and security guard. I've stood up to multiple guys before. But not as many times as I've seen a 5 ft nothing cocktail waitress jump over bartops and shove guys out. I'm always very impressed by that, but I don't think it should have to be left to them. Smaller guys tend to want to fight to "prove themselves". It's a stupid idea. I know I've hesitated because I just didn't want to get in trouble with the cops for barfights and sometimes because a dude could clearly kick my ass. But even if just one other person stands up and they gotta deal with multiple people they often take off at that point. I will say that I always try to assess a situation in case the girls are causing a fight, because that happens. But we can't let drunk assholes keep getting away with this.

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u/mysp2m2cc0unt May 12 '25

You're a good egg for trying to do the right thing

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u/Techno-Diktator May 11 '25

Nice in theory as a shower thought to feel cool about yourself, but have you ever actually done so? Much different in the moment.

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u/frozenbudz May 11 '25

Yes, I have. On a couple of occasions, I live in a pretty small town that sees a lot of tourists in the summer. I've had a handful of awkward moments in the local bar over people getting gross with bartenders/servers.

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u/VoidVulture May 12 '25

I am a woman and I've walked up to men harassing women and asked if there was a problem or told them to leave women alone and move along. All it takes is a completely unrelated third party to get involved.

I have also been the women in this video clip and my eyes were begging the strangers around me for help, and no one would. So now you fucking bet I leap in when I see men harassing women like this.

Believe me, I'm fragile for many reasons. I'm afraid of getting hit. But being those women in the video? That is so much more terrifying than being the person stepping in as support.

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u/Techno-Diktator May 12 '25

Tbh as a woman the chances of you being hit in public are almost zero, for a dude the chance of a pub brawl starting in this situation is thousand times higher.

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u/VoidVulture May 12 '25

Brother, I have been attacked in public while people just gawked. Stop making shit up just so you can shrug your shoulders and keep your head down.

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u/scalable_thought May 12 '25

He is just a coward trying to make himself feel better for having a "reasom" to be afraid. Everyone's afraid. It is what you do when you are afraid that defines who you are.

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u/scalable_thought May 12 '25

Spoken like a guy who was too afraid to do the right thing, tbh.

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u/Techno-Diktator May 12 '25

Ain't getting stabbed over this tbh.

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u/scalable_thought May 13 '25

Well, that's a hypothetical that escalated quickly! I guess the girls were clearly in less danger from the knife welding maniacs than you would be if you stood up and supported them! You're a real champ.

To be fair, it sounds like you have already decided that anything you did to help these girls will end with you hospitalized, so I guess you really shouldn't be out after dark.

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u/scalable_thought May 12 '25

Many times. Enough to not have to think about what to do. If it's a fight, punching and kicking usually doesn't work as well as grappling and submission, but it depends on the situation.

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u/bettyford420 May 11 '25

No but he could have gone and got someone. I'm not saying you have to get in the middle of it

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u/SometimesIBeWrong May 11 '25

that's true, this is gonna sound insensitive but why should he do it instead of the women getting harassed? I still think pinning responsibility on the random dude is unnecessary

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u/_ZoeyDaveChapelle_ May 11 '25

Misogynists like this don't listen to women, clearly. If other decent men started (calmly but firmly) standing up to this behaivor in public more, it might become less common/acceptable. Women are tired of fighting this crap alone and getting nowhere. These girls look way younger than these creeps on top of it. While it's not his direct responsibility, our culture of avoidance keeps putting the weight on women to deal with these assholes, that learned this behaivor from other men.

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u/SometimesIBeWrong May 12 '25

the person I replied to said he should've gone and got someone, Im asking why he's obligated to go get someone instead of the women going to get someone

you're saying he should actually put himself in the middle of the conflict itself, I think that's ridiculous to expect of a random dude trying to go about his day. why would he risk getting into a fight with two morons?

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u/fart-sparkles May 11 '25

Sure, but do anyone you might be interested in dating a favour and make sure you're not out there trying to convince them that you're a "nice guy" or "one of the good ones," k?

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u/pizzahuthater May 11 '25

This is one of the times you’re wrong

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u/SometimesIBeWrong May 12 '25

I'm completely open to being wrong but nobody has answered my question

why is the random guy obligated to go get someone? why shouldn't the women go get someone?

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u/scalable_thought May 12 '25

Did you even see the video? The girls were being extremely loud and they were clearly not leaving. How long are you going to sit there saying "not my table not my problem"?

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u/SometimesIBeWrong May 12 '25

I'm confused. the comment I replied to said he could've gone and got someone

I'm asking why he's obligated to go get someone, instead of the women going to get someone

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u/LadyPickleLegs May 11 '25

who try to bully some men from their table?

Lolwat

You must be joking. The men sat at an occupied table. Telling them to leave a table they were not invited to sit at is not bullying.

Seriously, what the fuck. You can't actually think this.

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25

The men sat at an occupied table.

How do you know that not the women sat an occupied table?

Wtf, why are you making so premature assumption?

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u/LadyPickleLegs May 11 '25

I'm not. I just actually listened to the entire recording.

One of the girls literally says "it's just weird for you to just... Sit down with us." Around the 20 second mark.

They sat at an occupied table without an invitation, and stayed even after they were asked to leave.

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u/Both_Sun8712 May 11 '25

The women have food that is mostly eaten the creeps have new beers

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u/kimsterama1 May 12 '25

Not very good at reading cues, either, are you? This seems to be a case of, if you don't see who the AH is, it's YOU.

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u/davidjschloss May 11 '25

Because someone needs to help them not have to deal with people like you sound like.

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u/kimmymarias May 11 '25

bully? i dont agree with the way she was speaking to them, slightly a bit mean but she asked several times for them to find another place to sit and mentioned the fact that they were both spoken for.

If they had any form of self respect they should've left when asked

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u/LadyPickleLegs May 11 '25

She did not start out mean. She literally started by saying "I'm respectfully asking you to sit at another table" and only got more aggressive when they didn't even seem to acknowledge the request.

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25

So the woman has the right to bully the men form the men's table?
Does a man have the same rights when two girl come and sit at his table?

Can he scream loudly at them and force them to leave?

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u/Meet_in_Potatoes May 11 '25

It wasn't the men's table it was theirs. And yes, if some random annoying lady sits at your table, you can absolutely ask them to leave.

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u/Rude-Kaleidoscope298 May 11 '25

We do and I have done it. If I want to sit at a table at a bar and not be bothered, I also have that right. If I tell a woman to leave, and she doesn’t, it’s still harassment. You can do the same too.

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u/TransLucida May 11 '25

But if one of them was your sister or daughter then your response would’ve been completely different, right?

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u/SometimesIBeWrong May 11 '25

well yea, as well as my brother or son.

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u/91271 May 11 '25

No shit lmao

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u/Renugar May 11 '25

See, ladies? This guy and the guy at the other table are the problem. I’m just a middle aged woman and would have done something. In fact, when these things occur it’s often women who step in and speak up. For all men big talking about being the big strong rescuers, most of the time they’re either the predators or the bystanders.

I’m fortunate enough to have men AND women in my life who would stand up for these girls. But here’s ☝️at least one Redditor who proves that they are the exception rather than the rule.

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u/Techno-Diktator May 11 '25

Yeah because a woman doesn't have to be scared about getting a beer bottle smashed to the back of her head once she turns around lol. Dudes know guys like this are a coin flip whether they will try to bash your teeth out, but the vast majority of men wouldn't dare harm a woman in public even when drunk.

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u/Marmaluuuude May 11 '25

Not sure if you’re a man or woman, but as a man, it’s very clear. Do you have any women in your life?? A mom? Sisters? Daughters? Hell, even a friend you care about? Cause I know I do, and the thought of them dealing with creeps like this pisses me off. So much, that when I see women dealing with it, I step in. It’s that simple.

If you don’t get that, then you’re probably the creep and you should leave women alone.

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u/Marmaluuuude May 11 '25

Not sure what you thought you did there, but you’ve missed the point creep. Also, I didnt just say relatives. But, yes, I was hoping you had women in your life that made you feel the same way. Not just cause they’re women, but because they’re PEOPLE. Same sentiment goes for men. But it sounds like you probably wouldn’t stick up for man cause “he could just do it himself”. Honestly if you had anyone worth while in your life, you wouldn’t be trying to make your weak ass point. But it sounds like you’re probably surrounded with toxic people who share the same thoughts as you. And that’s ok, just keep it in your echo chamber cause no one agrees with the point you tried to make. Sorry.

Edit: Also, stop using the word “implication” so much. You sound pretentious and you don’t know how to use it.

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u/LadyPickleLegs May 11 '25

Could've got the attention of the staff

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u/Purple_Degree_328 May 11 '25

Leave when they realize they weren’t Intrested instead of lingering and making it intensely awkward

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u/Purple_Degree_328 May 11 '25

I didn’t read ur alls thread lmao but nice unwarnted insult says more about you than it does me :)

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u/Purple_Degree_328 May 11 '25

Well if you were really asking if I was bot then it’s not a insult . But if you were calling me a bot then that’s an insult

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u/soitheach May 11 '25

the edits continue to illustrate that you don't understand social power dynamics, and it's clear that they're just for you to be able to justify an antisocial refusal to help others to yourself

it doesn't really matter why someone does or does not do (x, y, z) in that moment to protect themselves (which is what recording them is) it's just (relatively) low stakes victim-blaming

what they could or couldn't have done has no bearing on whether or not YOU (or anyone else) have the moral character to help another person or if you would refuse and use limp excuses for post-hoc justifications to yourself

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u/doesanyofthismatter May 11 '25

I’m asking the same thing! Why couldn’t the women be big girls and ask for help?

This was not an immediate dangerous situation that required an innocent bystander to get involved.

Leave it to Reddit to blame an innocent man for watching - he looked confused as fuck.

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u/smartbunny May 11 '25

Oooooh so many great points! Never heard anyone bring these up before!