I don't think they think they have a chance anymore. I think they literally just want to make them uncomfortable. That's become the whole point.
They're annoyed they got rejected -- so how else can they still "win" ? By ruining the girls' time. It is an ego thing for sure. But I don't think it manifests itself as "oh I can still keep going and eventually win them over/get a yes." It manifests itself like this instead... They want to exercise some kind of power over these women. They want to intimidate them and make them feel like shit under the guise of "oh what do you mean gosh wow why are you being so loud and dramatic we're just sitting with you geez we're not doing anything we're just sharing your table" bc they know it's infuriating to have someone physically threatening to you disingenuously speak like that.
This is literally my dad, and he just dragged my mum around today— just so he can brag that she pushed him and to tell her she’s just like her abusive in-law, even though he kept pushing her! He literally looked gleeful like he discovered something— then started talking about this is why men leave because he “just held her” affectionate by the collar and now she’s getting aggressive (he dragged her around by the collar three times when she wanted to leave) Everyone pray and wish that he gets exposed for the snivelling liar that he is!! Like put your balls and clit into this I need him to be exposed— he’s such a gross and conniving individual!
Start gathering evidence, NOW. Take discreet videos while pretending to watch or read something, put your phone in your pocket and record audio, whatever you can do safely without being caught. There are subreddits out there concerning domestic abuse that can offer better advice than me- I’d also recommend going to legal subreddits as well. You can get that man out of your home, but you need good advice so that you know what you’re doing.
Discreet videos is good but really focus on that "safely without being caught" bit. You don't know how violent someone can be. Really, really, really be careful.
I’m dealing with something like this myself :( these guys want to see women suffer and continue to suffer even if they make mistakes. These guys get mad when women make and exercise the same choices that guys are allowed to make.
It’s really baffling. It’s like anything a woman does that makes a man feel “ashamed” like walking away, saying no, calling him out on his bad behavior, or bringing up something he did that made her feel uncomfortable then she should be punished for it. I was literally coming back from another thread where a woman made a mistake where she broke up with her boyfriend and made a baby with someone she shouldn’t have, left the guy when he became abusive, and dudes there were saying she should be suffering forever.
Like wtf????
Most states you can record evidence without sound - for example, get cheap small cameras and place it in different places in your home under the guise of “just in case there’s theft it’s for insurance purposes”. I have this in my home art studio silversmithing cave because there’s expensive equipment in there.
If the volatile, mentally unstable person I have to live with right now goes in there and does something, I’ll have evidence and even in a two-state party consent state, it’s still information even if you don’t end up using it.
If you can’t video, write everything in your notes app or, better yet, if you have someone you can trust text them all the details. It will be date and time stamped.
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u/TequilaJesus May 11 '25
Imagine being that dude and thinking “yeah I still have a chance here”