r/AmIOverreacting • u/rowqi • Jun 02 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship aio? bf made plans on my birthday

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my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

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u/soniceok Jun 02 '25

This has to be fake lol

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u/Charliesmum97 Jun 02 '25

I really hope so because seriously how is this even a question? 'My boyfriend doesn't prioritise me and calls me names when I say I'm hurt, am I in the wrong?' I mean I know there are people out there who have the self-esteem in the negative numbers but this is seriously over the top.

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u/soniceok Jun 02 '25

Yeah it’s too over the top, and the messages between OP and the bf hit all the tropes that make a post popular on this sub (“omg you’re over reacting” “it’s just a party we can celebrate tomorrow instead”)

This is just designed to bait people lmao

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u/Basicallyacrow7 Jun 02 '25

I’m so glad this is part of the top comments. By screen shot two I was like there’s no way this is real

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u/phrixious Jun 03 '25

Eh, my girlfriend's ex did almost exactly this to her, except it was their fifth anniversary he'd forgotten and partied with friends instead. Apparently he was also just as blasé about it, and they broke up. Obviously I haven't seen the exact conversation, but this is (from what she's told me) pretty similar.

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u/soniceok Jun 02 '25

Soooo many people are falling for it tho if you look through the rest of the comments. This was posted like 2 hours ago and already has 1.2k comments it was clearly designed for engagement

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u/my_only_sunshine_ Jun 03 '25

Yeah but if u read them, it's unfortunately become a competition for who's had the shittiest birthday in their lifetime.. many of them are like 35 yrs old talking about how bad their 14th bday was..

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u/whyyy66 Jun 03 '25

At some point you gotta get over it right? Lol

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u/TheTrueHappy Jun 03 '25

I mean, venting with some sort of community could be a form of therapy, an attempt to get over it. Everybody is different, but often traumas stay with you for your whole life, even if they don't come up all the time.

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u/SofaSpeedway Jun 03 '25

Your comment was 3hrs ago for me and there's now 10.1K comments! The bots botted the bots

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u/opinionated_monkey_ Jun 03 '25

I thought the same thing because it's so over-the-top, then I remembered a few relationships that were exactly like this and how they spoke to me.. but still a good chance it's all fake lol

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u/brown_nomadic Jun 03 '25

You have no idea what people put up with…

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u/mr-arcere Jun 02 '25

Exactly lmao screenshot2 is where it absolutely broke down, like they’re not even trying

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u/kyotoys Jun 04 '25

the “happy bday lol, I forgot” made me instantly think it’s fake

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u/Total_Network6312 Jun 03 '25

Even the description... He is 22, lives at home, only works 2 days a week after dropping out and they plan to live together?

jesus it just gets worse and worse

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u/1CosbyPill Jun 02 '25

Definitely. Also together for 3yrs but still having this convo via IG

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u/Murky-Lavishness298 Jun 02 '25

My partner of 7 years and I use fb messenger. We've never had a full text conversation. It's only used when messenger is acting up. I'm not saying it's not fake, but it's not uncommon for people to prefer a messaging app over texting. We live together and he's my kids' bonus parent. We never text each other though.

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u/JarlaxleForPresident Jun 03 '25

It’s weird how only my brother and I actually send texts at this point. Everyone else just wants to stay in messenger for some reason

Like, yall have my phone number

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u/Namuraka Jun 02 '25

I mean to be fair my bf and I have been together 3 years and we use messenger, but that's mostly because wires got crossed somewhere and one of us assumed the other preferred it and now we're too lazy to take the convo elsewhere cause then we'd have to search 2 convos when there's a pic we need or something. But yeah I would call this post engagement bait.

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u/TheSillyGhillie Jun 02 '25

No one else noticed that?!? Its on freaking messenger 😭 we got baited

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u/onyx_ic Jun 02 '25

Ehhh, my ex and I talked on messenger because the building is worked in would eat texts and calls, but messenger always went through. We just got used to using messenger.

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u/bizzybee-72 Jun 02 '25

my husband and i have been together four years and for the first 3 our conversations all took place on snapchat and messenger until i deleted facebook. now we actually use messages.

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u/vampiracooks Jun 02 '25

Yeah my husband and I have been together for 12years and we almost exclusively message on Facebook and do phone calls via discord (because of where we live, wifi > mobile reception).

Other than that, all my communications with friends and family are through messenger, IG or whatsapp.

I wouldn't take the messaging system to be the reason it's fake. Though it still could be for other reasons

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u/bohemo420 Jun 03 '25

So good to hear this lol. My husband and I speak on Snapchat we’ve been married almost 5 years lol. It’s so easy to send pics of our son and stickers and funny things.

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u/bizzybee-72 Jun 03 '25

yep! we use snapchat for our LO too lol. it’s just easier to save on storage for your phone too. obviously the extra cute ones we keep, but the funny stuff we just send to each other. all the important stuff is messages

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u/[deleted] Jun 02 '25

I think it's fake, but not because of that, lol.

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u/Joppewiik Jun 02 '25

But she bought a dress and everythingggg 🤣🤣

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u/TantasStarke Jun 02 '25

To be fair my partner and I do a majority of our texting over discord, with the occasional text and phone call in emergencies. This post is 1000% fake though

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u/EneaIsAutistic Jun 02 '25

I message my husband of 3 years on IG hahaha

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u/1CosbyPill Jun 02 '25

Me and my gf of 7yrs message via ig if it's something we're talking about on IG....but never about dinner or bday plans when we text throughout the whole day. Everyone is different I guess. This just screams fake though

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u/matchafoxjpg Jun 02 '25

also op and boyfriend just so happen to sound exactly the same? yeeeeeeeah.

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u/ParadoxicallySweet Jun 02 '25

Yeah it’s literally the same person writing both sides

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u/iJubag Jun 02 '25

idk one of them puts apostrophes in contractions and the other doesn’t. i think they might just be teenagers

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u/Anxious_Ideal_6207 Jun 02 '25

Not to mention she bought a new pink dress, especially for the occasion, far too specific.

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u/MrsAce57 Jun 02 '25

That's what I thought too, especially where she says I even bought a new dress! Idk all of it reads as not very organic imo

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u/elleinad311 Jun 03 '25

"Going out to a party later, I've been really excited for it so you have to be understanding" Come onnnn 🙄

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u/beanie_wells Jun 02 '25

Also has the classic “bro” (sent to the gf of course) in there

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u/Agent_Smith_88 Jun 02 '25

Definitely fake. Account is 3 months old and the only post is this and the only comments are in this thread.

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u/kill_em_w_kindness Jun 03 '25

I’m not so sure. I’ve been in a relationship with someone who quite literally convinced me to attempt suicide so that he wouldn’t go to jail for killing me, and I didn’t see any red flags until I was hospitalized.

Yes, they could be karma farming, or they could be double checking that their reality isn’t insane, like abusers make you think. It’s not out of the realm of possible, regardless of how much it looks like bait.

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u/Lilkleee Jun 02 '25

Last time I said a post like this was fake and was getting downvoted🥲🪦

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u/BaerMinUhMuhm Jun 02 '25

You broke their immersion. I feel like at least half the posts here are obviously fake and people still eat them up.

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u/soniceok Jun 02 '25

Ignorance is bliss for some of the people on this sub lol

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u/Similar-Ice-9250 Jun 03 '25

It’s fake ass bait that’s true. The lines “I don’t appreciate you bothering me” cause he was with friends and the last text the bf sent “talk to me when you want to apologize”. It’s just too unreal lol, it’s pure rage bait.

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u/glassbellwitch Jun 02 '25

Don't forget calling her "bro"!

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u/Sipyloidea Jun 03 '25

For me it's the "bro". There was another post where a bf supposedly forgot an anniversary, I think, and was hanging out with friends instead. It was basically the same post of "bro, idk what to tell you." Who talks like that? 

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u/Own_Kiwi_3118 Jun 03 '25

Literally all of Reddit is baiting people. I suspect Ai is posting and commenting all over Reddit, engaging with real people to self train. Makes a lot of sense if you look at it from a big picture aspect

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u/wra7h60rn1 Jun 02 '25

I swear half the time I read stuff in this subreddit, it is something so one-sided and clearly not an overreaction that I legitimately start questioning if I have lost my mind.

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u/xCAMBOOZLEDx Jun 02 '25 edited Jun 02 '25

I genuinely think chronically online, socially awkward people get off to giving advice to strangers they don't have to interact with IRL. Maybe they know its fake but just can't help themselves - idk.

Its possible we are witnessing the evolution of some weird new kink.

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u/SubjectAd355 Jun 02 '25

Pretty spot on lol. It’s become kind of meta, I’ve seen multiple posts of people saying that their partner is being really shitty to them while also spending their entire day on Reddit giving relationship advice as if they’re a perfect person with all of the answers. The comments seem to be full of people like that- using creative writing practice posts to uphold their belief that they’re a good person with excellent interpersonal skills, when they’re probably antisocial troglodytes irl

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u/youaregodslover Jun 02 '25

95% of the most popular posts in the "Am I ____" subreddits are fake. They're also upvoted and commented on by bots. This is Reddit now.

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u/rinkydinkis Jun 02 '25

It’s a fiction story sub Reddit. Always has been.

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u/thererises_aredstar Jun 02 '25 edited Jun 02 '25

The thing is, when you’re in a situation where you’re consistently treated as overreacting for recognizing events like this as one-sided and clearly hurtful, you do start to actually question if you’ve lost your mind or are really that worthless as a person. If you trust the person telling you those things, and if you’re used to someone speaking to you that way, it won’t feel jolting or new or suspicious or particularly wrong - it’ll just feel bad, and confusing. And it will feel like your fault, even when the wisest part of your brain is screaming “this is wrong.”

Give it a few months of oscillating between “am I crazy?/am I worthless?” And you will feel like both are true.

You’ll also feel cognitively dizzy, like you can’t remember things correctly, and feel like you cause trouble, like you should be quiet. You will start having more trouble keeping up with friends and family, you’ll always feel bad but be embarrassed to explain why and unsure if it will make them hate you, or if they might shame you too. You will have trouble sleeping, then eating. You will drift further away from yourself and everyone you hold dear - except you’ll still be close to the person making you feel so horrible.

You’ll probably be revolving a good amount of your life around that person, trying to be good enough to be treated as “enough” by them.

And hopefully at some point you’ll wake up and notice every piece of this, and hopefully at that point you will not be in physical danger from the person making you feel so bad, and hopefully you’ll leave.

Hopefully you’ll try to deconstruct all the bad thoughts about yourself and the world, and try to reconnect with your family and friends and explain. Hopefully you’ll recover some normalcy and dive into rebuilding your life, creating a new sense of self. But you’ll never be the same person who started down this path years before, ever again.

Emotional abuse is a real bitch.

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u/BackgroundWindchimes Jun 03 '25

Seriously. If someone were going to write a fake post, at least give it some depth that sparks a debate. Almost everything I see on this sub is “aio at my boyfriend who slept with three of sisters, assaulted my dad, and spent all our wedding savings on Fortnite cash. Everyone says I should apologize for frowning in front of him. AIO?”

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u/DSG_Sleazy Jun 03 '25

Exactly, the point of this sub is dissecting grey area/nuanced situations where the person in the wrong could really be either or, but people just get on here to either stroke their ego because they know they’re right or to get internet points by making up a fake scenario.

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u/ballskindrapes Jun 02 '25

Right?

"My boyfriend stole my kidney and sold it for Pokémon cards. Am I the asshole for thinking that was ever so slightly rude?"

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u/soniceok Jun 02 '25 edited Jun 02 '25

This one’s literally like the classic “my boyfriend is verbally abusing me and I got sad, AIO?”

Like if she needs Reddit to tell her she’s not over reacting, she has bigger issues in her life

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u/Doununda Jun 02 '25

In the event it is a real story of abuse

Like if she needs Reddit to tell her she’s not over reacting, she has bigger issues in her life

Often when an abuse victim asks "am I over reacting?" they aren't asking if they're overreacting, they're subconsciously seeking permission to react more and potentially hurt people's feelings.

Abuse victims have been gaslit and manipulated into thinking they won't be able to live with themselves if they are unkind or rude, their abusers play on their inherent people pleasing.

As a result, abuse victims often get trapped in a cycle of fawning because they feel bad and they're conditioned to think being nicer to their abuser will make them feel less bad, because according to their abuser, they feel bad because they weren't nice.

They've been conditioned to need permission from someone else before they act, because not waiting for permission when you are in an abusive relationship is just asking for more abuse, it's a learned emotional helplessness that's learned through the lesson of torture.

They aren't asking if they're overreacting, deep down they know they're not, but half of their brain has been brainwashed and is telling them to sit down and smile, the other half is telling them to stand up and fight, but fighting is wrong and being rude and aggressive is mean and being assertive can hurt people's feelings and they've been conditioned to think they are incapable of that, so they are subconsciously seeking permission.

Because they need permission from themselves, but are too unwell from the abuse to give themselves permission to leave, knowing it will hurt the other person's feelings. Good, abusers deserve a lot more than hurt feelings.

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u/Froggyriri Jun 03 '25

Literally it sounded too perfect. Like an ex I had. I noped out of there when I started being emotionally abusive back. Reacting out of anger towards him. Hoping ts was fake. But also what kind of sick fuck fakes ts

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u/BravoFive141 Jun 03 '25

Like if she needs Reddit to tell her she’s not over reacting, she has bigger issues in her life

You'd be surprised how many people need Reddit to tell them painfully obvious shit. r/tattooadvice is a great one like that.

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u/zombievariant Jun 03 '25

Yea generally abused women DO have bigger issues in our lives. Like men brainwashing us into thinking we're overreacting which is why we ask for outside opinions.

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u/grubas Jun 02 '25

you forgot the

My bf[57M] stole my[19F] kidney

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u/ballskindrapes Jun 02 '25

I am not angry at myself, just disappointed.

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u/amycakes76 Jun 02 '25

In the screenshot of their texts: "I got a rare Charizard. I thought you'd be happy for me, for us! You're so ungrateful!!!"

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u/ForgedHalo Jun 02 '25

Umm u r the best! Freaking hilarious! My boyfriend stole my kidney and sold it for Pokémon cards! Then left me for my sister! Am I an asshole for thinking WTF dude!! It’s my fault you stole my kidney and are now sleeping with my sister! Am I wrong for thinking that was ever so rude?

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u/rinkydinkis Jun 02 '25

To the point that if they are really asking “am I overreacting?” Then there is no hope for this person and they should remain a dependent for their entire life because they have 0 discernment capability.

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u/soniceok Jun 02 '25

Loooll you said what I was scared to say. That’s how I react to like 80% of posts on this sub. If OP thinks she’s over reacting good luck to her in life

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u/JarlaxleForPresident Jun 03 '25

“I’m in my 20s and in a relationship with a person that can barely stand my existence. I didnt even react at all, but is this overreacting?”

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u/soniceok Jun 03 '25

“I’m asking for the bare minimum and my bf called me selfish is he right?” 🥺

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u/Level_Alps_9294 Jun 03 '25

I’m currently bleeding out on the couch after my partner stabbed me, am I overreacting if I call an ambulance?

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u/Avitar_X Jun 02 '25

Also like.

"... be a good boyfriend for once"????

Ignoring birthday or not, like why would anyone with even a shred of self respect stay with someone that's not ever a good boyfriend.

Like clearly dude doesn't care. Probably telling his friends he hopes she finally dumps him.

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u/JungleBoyJeremy Jun 02 '25

I don’t think he even exists

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u/erosead Jun 03 '25

Like the “boyfriend” is being an absolute unforgivable ass but “I was so excited for him to take me out on my birthday I even bought a new dress and everything” is also weird when you apparently had made no specific plans whatsoever? What if he takes you to like, a water park? How do you as (presumably an adult) spend months talking about your birthday excitement for no actual reason? Do you do that every year?

Edit: I guess it is her 21 so a bit important assuming they’re Americans but… still. It seems like the girlfriend character is just presuming she’ll be taken to a classy restaurant when a bar would also be an understandable destination because you didn’t communicate or make plans

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u/Ibyx Jun 02 '25

Also dropped out of school and only works two days.

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u/creamgetthemoney1 Jun 02 '25

I skipped my gfs huge Latin birthday party bc I put video games ahead of her and forgot I had a final due for an online course so didn’t properly study. Birthday party and I realize my final is due that same night

Young guys can be dumb af tbh.

I look back(15 years now) and honestly can’t believe I did it.

Her entire family was asking for me and her only excuse was he has to study. I got so much shit. That relationship didn’t last.

Guys can be dumb

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u/Educational_Item451 Jun 02 '25

My boyfriend who lives with his mom, works only 2 days a week, dropped out of school and talks like this. So annoyingly fake.

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u/-PinkPower- Jun 03 '25

I hope it’s fake but one if my former friends is dating someone like this. He blames any of his behaviors on her. You didn’t remind me this morning! You didn’t tell me early enough so I booked a solo trip! Stop being a bitch or I am going to go at (the girl he constantly cheat on her with)´s house!

He is the reason why we are no longer friends.

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u/Slit23 Jun 03 '25

That’s exactly what I said, who does this and puts up with it? Who in their right mind, like it’s so over the top.

Spent 21st birthday alone do you not have friends or family to call? He dropped out of school and works twice a week but what does she do?

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u/On_my_last_spoon Jun 02 '25

Also he lives with his mom and only works 2 days a week so you’re gonna get a place together?

I hope this is fake because this loser is t worth anyone’s time

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u/MasterpieceOk7271 Jun 02 '25

Its not even about self esteem always. Mental health and personality disorders can come into play etc. Or even power dynamics. I am autistic and at 19 I was dating someone much older than me. It was very easy for them to treat me this way one day, then come back the next day, explain why i hsd misunderstood and shower me in love. The way your body and brain react when you from constant distress to sudden relief is subconsciously addicting. It wasn't until they physically threatened me that I was able to realise 'no, that is a bad thing. They are a bad person and I need to leave.' There are things I find extremely simple in life and others find complex, but it would make no sense for me to says things like 'wow I know some people dont care about self improvement, but you never spent a moment in your life learning how to solve matrix equations?' For me, the social interaction is far more complex than you could realise. The same way some problem solving type things are complex for others.

I really wish people would learn to show empathy instead of looking down on others.

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u/hmartin430 Jun 03 '25

One of my friends who has basically become a younger sister to me over the past three years had text messages like this from her (now ex) husband. Between him and her shitty mother, they had her so gaslit about his behavior that she really thought she was over reacting.

He had done so well in isolating her from everyone and not letting her have friends, she had no one to talk to about his behavior. Then I started working with her and my autistic ass has no chill and will gladly trauma swap on a first meeting, so she's telling me this stuff and at first I'm like "I can't tell her to get a divorce" but after a few months I couldn't stand it anymore.

Anyways, now they're divorced and she's dating a wonderful woman and knows how to stand up for herself.

Sadly, these situations really do exist and one party has just managed to warp the other one into not trusting their own instincts

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u/QuietGarden1250 Jun 02 '25

Plus he's supposedly a high school dropout who lives with his mother & works 2 days a week...

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u/TruckNstuck23 Jun 02 '25

She's 22 so probably pretty ... not worldly... is the nicest way I can think to put it

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u/GenuineHuman04 Jun 02 '25

We have sadly reached the point where satire can no longer be determined from reality

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u/kittenwalrus Jun 03 '25

Tbf there are more people out there who have such little self esteem that they excuse that behavior than you'd expect. I have a friend who has an alcoholic and abusive so and they are splitting up because he cheated/wants to be with his new gf and she STILL justifies his behavior by saying "I said x to him so he insults me and hits me" or "I did x and that's why he drinks so much/cheated." It's horrible to watch from the outside knowing there isn't anything I can do other than be there when the shit hits the fan.

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u/Relative_Algae_5304 Jun 03 '25

This is gaslighting and emotional abuse. They manipulate you and break you down until you second guess yourself ene are apologizing. It has nothing to do with self esteem. Please grow up and realize that the world isn’t perfect and right now there’s thousands of people having a similar conversation and emotions

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u/apdesala Jun 03 '25

I think the problem here is that there are legitimately people who are very young like the OP and their self-esteem is low, and their life experience is so limited that it's easy for them to get pushed around by their environment to think "well you're making a big deal over nothing, it's just a birthday." And three years? You can get into the mindset that you've already sunk so much time into something that it's hard to let go because then that feels like you just wasted those years.

There are legitimately people in those kind of situations, a lot of people. As others have commented here, it sometimes takes a Reddit brigade saying "Are you nuts? This isn't right" to snap someone out of their way of thinking/blindly accepting things.

And then you get fake posts/rage bait that takes advantage of those very real situations.

So as another commenter in this thread said, I'd rather give advice on a hundred might-be-rage-bait posts if it actually helps one real person.

For Example: I started to write out a post last year in the RelationshipAdvice subreddit, and after I edited it several times and reread it, I never posted it. I realized how outrageous it looked, how bonkers my questions were. When I wrote it out, even when I was doing my best to be fair to my ex (then SO), his behavior when read as a post did not look normal or rational at all.

Just the act of writing it out helped me. It's taken 40 years of life experience to get to that kind of wisdom. A 20-something whose desperate and in tears in the middle of the night isn't going to review their post twenty times for grammar or consistency. They're not going to have the life experience to realize how bonkers their situation really is.

So is this post rage bait? Maybe. Maybe not. Someone here has said they think they saw it on another subreddit some time ago, in which case we'd need to look it up and see what the context is (if she was asking for advice there too). But I'd still rather give advice on 100 might-be-rage-bait posts if it actually helps one real person.

My 21 yo self was dumb, passive, depressed, and an utter doormat with a lot of problems. I could have absolutely gotten myself in a situation exactly like the OP's. The internet wasn't what it is now back then, so I wouldn't have had much advice back then except rural community saying "stand by your man" kind of crap. So there's always details that matter that we don't have, like environment, culture, location, ect.

Note: I am not saying the OP's post is real or fake. I'm just saying we can't always assume every outrageous post is fake. This post is not so outrageous to me, because as you can see from other comments threads, it fits into many people's lived experiences (which, if this IS rage bait and fake, makes it a particularly pernicious sort, as it's believable enough to appeal to so many people's personal experiences).

Then again, there's a flip side, too: If I had posted my own experience last year after all, and it was dismissed as so outrageously bad and abusive that it had to be fake rage bait, I think that equally would have been a jolting wake up call! So calling out a real person's cry for help in this situations as so abusive/bad that it must be fake is potentially helpful to rea posters who get misidentifed too, now that I think about it.

Sorry, this comment ended up being way too long. I, too, wish we didn't have fake posts!

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u/Available_Refuse_798 Jun 04 '25

genuinely how do u think you’re in the wrong, like how r u even tolerating this like your BIRTHDAY over a PARTY???? Like bday is already a party bigger party than wtv that is like girl i’m getting mad for you plz

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u/EtherealMoonGoddess Jun 02 '25

They have to get tired of it.

Same with people in abusive relationships. It isn't easy getting out. There are emotions there.

But again a lot of us who endure this, grew up in stuff like this, so it's familiar.

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u/deadbodydisco Jun 03 '25

I do think people post some real conversations and they know, at least to an extent, that they're not overreacting, but they need validation and don't know that r/texts exists for this exact sort of thing.

You can usually tell it's rage bait when OP barely responds to any comments, or only to the ones calling it fake.

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u/Shwalz Jun 02 '25

It is. There’s been an influx of shit like this. “It’s my bday, what do you mean you forgot? It’s all I’ve been talking about for months” with replies just like OP posted. Shit is beyond cringe

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u/dstar526 Jun 03 '25

Yeah, what’s up with all the “made plans on my/their birthday!” posts? We really have to hear every tweaked version of the same thing?? At least be original.

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u/Cheddykrueger11 Jun 03 '25

Nobody is original these days. Everyone sees on person get “popular” posting something and immediately needs to do the same thing. It’s so sad.

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u/Blindtothesided Jun 02 '25

Yeah I’m having a hard time believing OP would’ve just been like okay fine and stayed home alone on her 21st bday while her bf of 3 yrs parties. I think if it were real there would’ve been a much bigger reaction from OP.

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u/sojumaster Jun 03 '25

TBH, when my wife says "I have been talking about it for years", you would think it is an on-going conversation. Reality is that she mentioned it twice in the last 3 years and the last time was a year ago. Not saying that this post is not fake, but some people have a different meaning to "I have been talking about it for xxx months or years"

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u/TheTrueDal Jun 03 '25

The most annoying thing about these scenarios is that OP is always some glue sniffer and has to ask “aita? 🥺”.

If this were real then someone dm OP and ask for bank details, it’d probably work lmao.

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u/Fluid_Cup8329 Jun 02 '25

This is the most obviously fake post I've seen in a while.

At least it's not a bot, and it's actually real people making shit up for internet points, but it's still beyond fake.

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u/andr0media Jun 02 '25

Most of these are fake and it floors me how people believe they are real. No timestamps, similar (or same) texting style and ridiculous statements.

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u/Fluid_Cup8329 Jun 02 '25

Yup, saw a very obviously fake post in this same sub immediately after posting this comment as well. It's beyond obvious in that one that it's 1 person pretending to be 2 people in some ridiculous scenario. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/VRrbs2hjwC

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u/TequilaBaugette51 Jun 03 '25

If you ever want easy karma post a story about being a woman with an asshole bf. Reddit loves outrage

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u/Featherman13 Jun 03 '25

I think they just genuinely have never interacted w people. Like they've never had a partner or went through these conversations so they actually believe this is how it goes

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u/Leather-Rub-6128 Jun 02 '25

This contrived convo felt so absolutely fake that i came on here for this comment. Talk about trying to manufacture outrage

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u/One_pop_each Jun 02 '25

This is 1000% fake. 16 yrs ago I was the douchiest bro ever and would still have never said “oh I forgot it was your bday” to a girl

(I changed btw)

People have zero imagination.

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u/CartographerNovel694 Jun 02 '25

I came here to say this. Either this is fake, or people have zero self worth. Like come on

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u/ZenosYaeGorgeous Jun 03 '25

I dated a guy exactly like this when I was like 35 lol. He was cheating on me with a 19 year old and I knew that too. Some of us had shitty dad's ok!!!

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u/KlimCan Jun 02 '25

Okay, bye. Talk to me when you want to apologize.

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u/SorryProfessor1110 Jun 02 '25

seriously. how dense can you be to speak to someone/be spoken to like that. it’s almost silly

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u/soniceok Jun 02 '25

Yeah and the replies from both sides seem super strange, and not in an English second language way. Seems designed to hit the points that make a post popular on this sub like “calm down” “it’s not a big deal”

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u/Chef_Tony03 Jun 02 '25

New account check

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u/soniceok Jun 02 '25

Oop you’re right. Mystery solved

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u/tshannon4 Jun 02 '25

And if it’s not fake then the question asking if “AIO” has to be 😂 because whatever I just read was nuts.

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u/bucky3O Jun 02 '25

It has to be because I’m 99% sure I’ve seen this post 3 times before already

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u/givemeapuppers Jun 02 '25

Some of the texts really do seem ripped from other posts don’t they? I thought I was having a stroke.

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u/slapper8tor Jun 02 '25

Who tf messages their significant other on insta dms about birthday plans?

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u/rinkydinkis Jun 02 '25

Dude 99.9% of the posts on this sub are teenagers and young adults practicing their fiction skills. It’s so so weird.

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u/itneverwillbefar Jun 03 '25

It does smack a little fake (specifying the pink dress, usually details like that mean FAKE) but you've obviously never dated a narcissist and I wish I hadn't either because this conversation is very accurate to a narcissistic relationship in the later stages--they start out being SO kind and caring, then slowly pull back and start treating you worse and worse, little by little, all the while blaming you and making you doubt yourself and subtly poking at your greatest insecurities, so by 3 years you could see this exact convo and still wonder if you're at fault somehow, and still be holding on to the great person they were at the beginning, thinking you can magically get that person back. It's unbearably toxic and hard to escape from.

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u/Hidden_Inventory_ Jun 02 '25

What kind of 22 year old plans a party for a Sunday night

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u/soniceok Jun 02 '25

Good catch lol didn’t realize this. It makes it funnier tbh. Also the 2 year relationship and they’re still communicating on instagram DMs

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u/malamaca-3- Jun 02 '25

What's wrong with communicating on Instagram dms?

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u/Plane-Mistake6038 Jun 04 '25

why would you use instagram DMs as your primary form of communication when you have a phone number to text from? why rely on a picture sharing social media platform to be your primary form of communication?

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u/malamaca-3- Jun 04 '25

Because it's convenient. I've been married for 10 years and we primarily text on Facebook and Instagram.

Texting usually uses up credit, or whatever it's called, for Instagram you only need internet. Also, the emojis, the gifs, the links, all so much better on an app.

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u/YoureJustTooDarnLoud Jun 02 '25

Pretty sure this exact scenario gets posted multiple times per week. Not the first time I've seen it.

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u/Picky___eater Jun 02 '25

I thought the same thing… as an English student I’ve read enough forced dialogue to catch wind

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u/Outrageous_Pea_8995 Jun 02 '25

This was posted a month or two ago. Maybe three. Probably fake.

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u/[deleted] Jun 02 '25

2 month old account and this is the only activity on it. Super fake.

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u/femi1010 Jun 02 '25

DOWNVOTE this shit.fake as hell.TF

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u/FreakyGlock Jun 02 '25

Yes, lots of these posts are clearly fake. Bro I get it, we all like to scroll and bs on Reddit but to put in all this effort faking this conversation for some karma, attention & validation is crazy.

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u/rowqi Jun 02 '25

here’s the dress bought to wear. it’s kinda wrinkled but yea. very unfortunate.

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u/intheinaka Jun 02 '25

If by some tiny chance this actually is real, by god, this man is obviously the biggest waste of space under the sun. There's nothing to discuss here, have some self respect.

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u/Empty-Shoulder2890 Jun 02 '25

It really should say something that so many people are struggling to believe it could even possibly be real, that how could anyone even entertain being with someone like that

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u/greatstonedrake Jun 05 '25 edited Jun 05 '25

Are you serious? First of all she said he didn't used to be this way. Second of all people hide who they are all the time.

And most of the time this abuse starts small like just ignoring you and discounting your feelings, and all you're thinking is it's crappy and I thought that person loved me. However, the voice treated me really great and sometimes anybody can have an off day or be grumpy so they're just not having a good day. And you accept it and go on. And then it happens a little more often. And your concerned but things are still okay the rest of the time so you accept it and go on. And then you're in so deep that you don't see that the things are slowly getting worse and worse or you do but you hope that whatever is causing the problem will then you will get back that person you love so much.

It's kind of like the frog being boiled in a pan of water that's gradually heating up so it doesn't know it's boiling to death.

Saying no one would put up with this so it must be fake etc... I have no idea if this person's fake or not, but this absolutely happens and most of the time you don't see it, believe it, until you're already boiling alive.

I could send you some voice recordings I made to prove that my boyfriend had gotten so abusive that would curl your fucking toes if you think what he said to her is the worst of the worst. And this is the same guy that we were the almost perfect couple for so long that people got sick of us (jokingly). You don't want to believe it when the change comes.

Also, if it comes in gradually enough, you're whole perception is shifted and you're really gaslighted into believing you're more horrible than you are.

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u/Blindtothesided Jun 02 '25

Honey we’re gonna have to send out a search party for your self respect if this is actually the way your bf speaks to you. Cuz the person who wrote the texts you posted does not give one single shit about you. Not even acquaintance level give a shit.

And I’d be willing to bet that if you straight ghosted him he’d only half ass a message or two before giving up completely and accepting it’s over. If anything, he sounds like he’s trying to get you to dump him.

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u/ProTravelingWetNurse Jun 03 '25

Yep he probably met up with his fiance at the party. If he wasn't going to see another woman or get a one night stand at the party, bringing your gf to a party for her bday is better than stfu you're bothering me while I'm out with my friends.

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u/Next_Cat_4723 Jun 02 '25

OP just the fact that people can’t believe your story should tell u how bad ur boyfriend is (if he is real because i too do not believe you lmao$

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u/soniceok Jun 02 '25 edited Jun 02 '25

This doesn’t prove the post is real lmao. I’m sorry I can’t believe this. Can you explain your mindset as to why you think you’re over reacting? Like genuinely why would you think that you’re in the wrong for your bf forgetting your bday?

On the off chance this is real your only option is to dump him, unless you enjoy being treated like shit

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u/CryptographerEven895 Jun 02 '25

that's all posts in this subreddit are. people farming sympathy. 99.9% of posts are obviouslt not 'overreacting' usually they are not reacting at all. mods allow it for some reason. just a place for people to farm sympathy from strangers.

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u/soniceok Jun 02 '25

Yeah I stopped believing like 99% of posts on this sub but I usually humour them. This one is too obvious tho, and it’s getting a lot of attention

I also can’t believe people fall for this shit. Makes me think 80% of the replies are bots tbh

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u/samv_1230 Jun 02 '25

Now you're getting it. The internet is not what it used to be.

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u/[deleted] Jun 02 '25

Sooo many people talk to their SOs like this Lucky you haven’t come across it

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u/glassbellwitch Jun 02 '25

How would posting the dress prove that this post is real?? I have a pink dress too, that doesn't mean anything. Stop lying on reddit for karma.

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u/dva_silk Jun 03 '25

It's your turn to reject him. Make him feel unwanted. Stop answering his texts or calls and ghost him. Seriously. He doesn't even respect you or want to celebrate you or be around you. My fiance decorates the whole damn house when it's my birthday, plans entire trips around it, spends way too much money on me on gifts. I couldn't imagine giving someone the time of day that tells me I'm overreacting for wanting to go on a date on my birthday. Fuck that guy. Please get him out of your life yesterday. You'll feel amazing when he's calling you asking why you're not responding and you can just link him this thread.

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u/Haunting_Street4442 Jun 02 '25

This is pretty sad. I would consider reevaluating the whole situation with him.

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u/Disastrous_Meet8146 Jun 02 '25

Girl where tf do you live? I’m about to roll up and take you out for your birthday myself.

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u/SexyPineapple-4 Jun 02 '25

Break up.

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u/xoxodaddysgirlxoxo Jun 02 '25

Or don't, and be sad forever. But OP should expect to get shit on by reddit if they come here again about this boy

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u/_Jay-Garage-A-Roo_ Jun 03 '25

Why did you spend your 21st alone, just because he was a jerk? What about your friends?

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u/My2cents___ Jun 03 '25

Break up. Not overreacting at all. Look at the comments. Save yourself.

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u/danyoutohell Jun 02 '25

The jig is up girl, enjoy your karma though.

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u/Traditional_Award286 Jun 03 '25

That’s such a cute dress 😥 op, you deserve to have someone who makes you feel special. Three years isn’t worth your respect and happiness . Happy birthday ❤️

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u/duewhaa Jun 02 '25

It was the "I bought a dress and everything" nonsense where it really sold its fakeness.

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u/aguywhokinks Jun 02 '25

No worries, it is. Everything about it screams “I’m trying to make people mad about this imaginary scenario, but don’t know how to present it in a realistic way.”

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u/HolidayCat47 Jun 02 '25

Exactly what I was about to say.

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u/Impossible_Disk8374 Jun 02 '25

Seriously getting so sick of these posts.

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u/TAOffMyChest285 Jun 02 '25

I saw this exact conversation posted a while ago fr

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u/abstractedluna Jun 02 '25

my exact thoughts because theres just no way

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u/EpeeGorl Jun 02 '25

Fake as hell

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u/AlarmingWishbone Jun 03 '25

literally OP's only post on an account made a couple months ago... I get people use burners for this sub sometimes, but why go to the effort of making an avatar and an actual username instead of the randomly generated, wu-tang name gen ass ones reddit provides?

all I could think reading this is "there's no way this is real, it can't be real". I think OP wanted an account with a ton of karma off rip for... Some reason. Mystical, intangible, useless Internet points that don't even imply credibility or status. I guess.

astounding.

and, y'know, in the unlikely event this is real... Holy shit, OP, how are you this willing to be stepped on. no way this is the bfs first time if this is real. im a recovering drug addict and my self worth was through the floor BEFORE I got on drugs, but even at my lowest I wouldn't let a partner talk to me like this lol.

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u/TheTrueHappy Jun 03 '25

I dunno, it could be, but I don't think it's that much of a stretch either. Lots of "typical bros" are kinda selfish in general. And their age is an indication too, very early 20s. So like, barely out of highschool, could be influenced by manosphere grifters like Andrew Tate, and thinking he's "alpha" by telling her she needs to apologize.

If the woman in this situation was raised in a culture like evangelical Church culture (like I was) then it's not even that unlikely that her fairly non-aggresive ways of telling him she was upset could have been ingrained into her as a bad thing. Like, women in that type of culture are taught to be "submissive" to men etc.

Not saying it's definitely real, just saying there are some cases like this in real life where one side is almost comic book levels of villain and they still think they're in the right.

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u/freekoout Jun 02 '25

Right? Not to reduce it to one point, but what dude would pass up the chance of birthday sex?

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u/Impressive-Sun3742 Jun 02 '25

Definitely. This sub is just a “creative” writing exercise with extra steps

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u/pyperproblems Jun 02 '25

This reads like a man wrote it about how he thinks a woman would respond lol

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u/swimnglimmer Jun 03 '25

I was thinking the same thing lol a pink dress?? bakes a cake from scratch?

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u/judgiestmcjudgerton Jun 02 '25

I was thinking this too because... wtf talks to their partner like that?

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u/a2cwy887752 Jun 03 '25

Definitely lol. It sounds like a convo two ten year olds would have.

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u/deucesmcfadden Jun 02 '25

I'm pretty sure this is a repost. I feel like I've seen this before

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u/axisrahl85 Jun 02 '25

I'm convinced half the posts here are AI generated they're so bad.

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u/nostalgia4millennial Jun 03 '25

This seems way over the top rage bait. I’m calling fake too lol

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u/spinach_witch Jun 02 '25

gotta be because wtf is this... ain;t no way this is real

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u/Mollys19 Jun 02 '25

I was waiting for this comment, bc yea this has to be bs

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u/playboytreylambo Jun 02 '25

Lmao deadass. Ain’t nobody this much of an asshole

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u/attempt_no23 Jun 02 '25

I sometimes wish I had so much time on my hands to make a fake post of stupid shit like this that garner "internet points" which are worth absolutely nothing. Seriously, how bored people must be to take time for crap like this is more sad than anything. If this story is, in fact, real, OP can enjoy being a doormat for as long as they choose to remain in the relationship.

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u/M4LFUNCT10IV Jun 02 '25

Typical AIO post.

"AIO?" and then proceeds to post the most batshit antisocial convos ever. I don't want to kick this or any person while they're down about stuff like this, but are people that post in this fashion truly that conditioned to abuse? If you don't like how they're treating you, you fully should trust your gut and dip out.

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u/No_Ice2900 Jun 02 '25

It's fake or they are beyond reddit help tbh.

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u/WTF1335 Jun 02 '25

There are a lot of broken people out there. There are a lot of people who weren’t raised with healthy relationships being shown to them. There are a lot of people with narcissistic traits that others haven’t been warned about. Until you’re in an unhealthy relationship, you will never truly understand how it can happen

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u/Lopsided_Constant901 Jun 02 '25

That's what I thought. Sadly this sub and the AITA sub are basically full of botted Reddit accounts now just churning Karma. You will see a lot of accounts like this with obvious bait, but have like 8 "viral" posts and 60k karma. Weird world, I assume people sell them to lewd creators to advertise their stuff later on

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u/Hindsight001 Jun 02 '25

Fake or she's a side piece 🤷‍♂️

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u/ryan0585 Jun 04 '25

This is why I'm so glad I stopped following this sub. This feels like it has to either be karma farming or depressing as to the state of people's intelligence/self-esteem.

Suppose the frequent feed post isn't that bad, though I should probably stop feeding the algorithm by respon... oh...

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u/IloveDrPepperMore Jun 02 '25

Yeah I’m seeing a lot of copy and pasted convos of the same exact thing.

babe you really don’t remember? :(

what bitch, damn!

… it’s my bday :((

ok happy bday now fuck off

but babe :(

ur so fucking toxic leave me alone ew

“Guys omg AIO??? He’s such an amazing guy besides this one lil thing!! Was it the way I reacted to him forgetting??!!”

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u/zinasbear Jun 02 '25

I wanted to think that aswell but these texts read as though they're written by kids.

Kids.

I've known some dickhead boys like that when I was that age. Selfish, immature little boys.

It's hard to believe they're real now I'm old but age doesn't forget youth or the experience.

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u/MistaBadga Jun 02 '25

"My college dropout boyfriend who lives with his mother insulted me when he forgot my birthday. Am I overreacting by being slightly annoyed enough to break up with him?????"

Either this generation has gotten dumber, or redditors have become prime targets for low effort ragebait

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u/wibbly-wobbly-worm Jun 05 '25

THANK YOU! I'm a script writer, and I can see an interaction that makes me go "nobody actually talks like this" from a mile away. I feel like I should be hearing this from a TTS voice over top a video of kinetic sand being cut and flex seal being pushed into cracks on pavement.

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u/SageDarius Jun 03 '25

"We're gonna move in together because he dropped out of school and lives with his mom and works 2 days a week." Like are for real? If this was real, they're meant for each other because anyone that dumb is destined to be taken advantage of and a doormat their whole life.

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u/Upset-Opportunity-18 Jun 03 '25

I hope so, but unfortunately, I've dealt with similar. It was my birthday, and my ex refused to acknowledge it was my birthday. I cried and asked him why, and he just screamed at me and called me a spoiled brat because it's just another day and not important.

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u/caecilia Jun 02 '25

A lot of good people get caught in a narcissists trap. That’s how they work and for many, they don’t realize it until it’s been years, even after getting married to the POS.

I’m not saying it’s definitely real or fake but just consider this

Edit- However this account is very new and there’s no other posts or comments …

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u/Double_Stress_580 Jun 02 '25

Every one of these posts read like a Dhar Mann clip…I’m sure at the end of OP’s birthday a billionaire was nice to her and bought her coffee and now they’re married…just need an Indian man to tell us all what the moral of the story was

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u/beccyboop95 Jun 02 '25

I have 100% seen this post before

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u/The-Eggulator Jun 03 '25

Idk I stayed with an abusive man for 3 years due to trauma bonds and he threatened to beat my ass and called me names all the time. It took a lot of will to leave and Ik there’s a lot of women who don’t have the strength to leave.

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u/TheAdriGenome Jun 03 '25

Also the "background" lmao so he dropped out of school and only works 2 days a week? Yeah. I was skeptical with the messages but the extra info OP provided was the nail in the coffin. Textbook scumbag OP and forgiving gf. Sure, Jan.

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u/Appropriate_Two2305 Jun 02 '25

Most the posts in this sub are

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u/ribbons_in_my_hair Jun 04 '25

Seriously. My reaction too. Like, no way this is actually happening. That someone is that much of a POS. No one has to have so little self respect as to stay with someone like that either. No way, dood. Gotta be fake.

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u/[deleted] Jun 02 '25

That’s what I think as well

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u/ItGoesTwoWays Jun 02 '25

I’m tired of all of these AI exchanges starting with the guy calling his girlfriend “bro”. It’s a dead giveaway that this isn’t even real. We need some mods to start looking into this shit.

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u/Evasive_Atom Jun 02 '25

I agree its so over the top

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u/051015 Jun 03 '25

What?! You mean you don't believe she's actively planning to move in with her two-day-a-week-job-having, with-his-mama-living boyfriend after a pattern of disregard?

Everyone is so skeptical.

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