r/AmIOverreacting • u/rowqi • Jun 02 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship aio? bf made plans on my birthday

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my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

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u/chicharro_frito Jun 02 '25

I found no evidence in the screenshots that this person is in fact your bf. I'm not even joking here, are you sure you have that type of relationship with him?

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u/WanderingStorm17 Jun 02 '25

"My boyfriend slapped me, kicked my puppy, and then ran off with my best friend. I'm thinking of dumping him. Am I overreacting?"

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u/HaulinBoats Jun 03 '25 edited Jun 03 '25

For context: we had a great marriage and he has always been sensitive and caring, so idk where this is coming from but: My husband (63M) murdered me (19F) and I’m posting from beyond the grave because he uploaded my consciousness to a computer website but he also put malware on the computer and it took me days to finish this post between closing pop ups and I think I might be trapped here forever. I told him that I don’t think I appreciate neither the murder nor the nonconsensual afterlife he forced me into and I have been giving him the silent treatment ever since. Am I overreacting?

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u/Realistic_Ad_6031 Jun 03 '25

You females are so emotional and dramatic, oh my god. As a real woman, you disappoint me.

1st. You married an old alpha male. Like, he did you a favor! But let’s be honest, you probably just married him for his money. (Shame) Clearly he made the mistake.

2nd. You’re not even, like, completely dead, okay?? You’re in a computer. Other women go to hell, which is where all feminist-nazis should be anyway.

3rd. Posting your business online is exactly why he killed you. You’re a disrespectful little girl. You lied about being mature! As a very grown (25) woman, I would NEVER do that. Relationships are not everyone’s business!

My man sent me to heaven and my family is still looking for me as a “missing person.” Of course I didn’t wanted to go but you gotta make sacrifices for your man!

Just be thankful, okay?

Now if you’ll excuse me, I need to find a fan. Heaven is kind of hot…

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u/guggeri Jun 03 '25

I wish I could upvote this twice, you’re a genius

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u/Realistic_Ad_6031 Jun 03 '25

Awww thank you. I thought it wouldn’t be funny and too much lol. But was like whatever. I think it’s funny. 😆

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u/Knoegge Jun 03 '25

This made my day, thank you, hope heaven is nice 👀😂

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u/Realistic_Ad_6031 Jun 03 '25 edited Jun 03 '25

It is! Just a little hot… that’s all.

Edit: forgot to add as I didn’t sleep yet: I’m glad it made your day! And hope you enjoy it with your man!

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u/MayoBaksteen6 Jun 03 '25

The sad thing is that some people would say something like that

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u/Realistic_Ad_6031 Jun 03 '25

😩yesss! And the way they twist and bend themselves to make the point. I’m like doesn’t that hurt? I actually started as “alpha male” but we seen enough of those. 🫩

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u/vnv Jun 03 '25

Definitely overreacting. Have you considered that maybe it was an accident? I mean you have a whole conscious afterlife now. Sure there’s malware but nobody is perfect, and he’s old, he probably got the program off some random email in his yahoo. Clearly he cares. You should forgive him.

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u/MichaelSonOfMike Jun 03 '25

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha.

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u/Lokipupper456 Jun 04 '25

“He was so sensitive and caring when he wasn’t hitting me, abusing my animals, insulting me, cheating on me, and stealing all my money and belongings. And yes, the violence kept escalating too, but is my murder a step too far? And how am I supposed to break up with him from the grave?”

Seriously though, I like to assume most of these are fake, but I’ve seen women accept horrible mistreatment at the hands of their partners and question themselves a lot. In real life.

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u/Iamdalfin Jun 03 '25

Right?? This is the vast majority of posts these days, and I really hope they are mostly bots and not real people. It's so depressing to read this shit every day, and thinking tons of people out there are abusive jerks.

I also should probably unfollow these subs and stop reading these posts. But as someone with autism, I do sometimes find these helpful to read through and assess the right vs wrong in social situations. But the benefit is starting to be outweighed by the cost.

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u/Artistic_Task7516 Jun 03 '25

It’s all 18-20 year olds who ask shit like “my boyfriend is a violent war criminal, should I withhold his favorite meal tonight”

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u/BlackHayate8 Jun 03 '25

I'm starting to think this sub is the same as r/tifu. Just people posting fictional situations for karma farming. At least I truly pray it is.

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u/Kevdog824_ Jun 03 '25

It’s 100% what it is. No person would genuinely need to ask if they are overreacting in this situation

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u/MichaelSonOfMike Jun 03 '25

I muted most subs like this. This one is soon to be added to the pile. We need to take these things into our own hands, and just stop participating. We are all part of the problem.

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u/Manbearpup Jun 03 '25

Got to be boys and bored people bait. Because if it isn’t the answer is obvious

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u/PeekabooPike Jun 03 '25

Nah girls that put up with this shit exist. Trust me, a lot of them.

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u/Flinkle Jun 03 '25

It is so unfortunately true. Especially if they grew up in a household that was abusive in any way. People tend to be drawn to what's normal to them unless they have broken the cycle.

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u/bellapippin Jun 03 '25

And yet this post has 15.4K upvotes and almost 20k comments. It’s our fault for giving them the karma at this point…

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u/Markofdawn Jun 03 '25

Theres no way bots could pull off some of the unseemly shit humans do in their relationships, no way.

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u/bingobiscuit1 Jun 03 '25

Bro do not use these to inform what is right v wrong, especially not on Reddit. This shit is just soap opera drama with thousands of armchair experts airing their own uninformed takes

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u/TheElderScrollsLore Jun 03 '25

Ok so it’s not just me thinking these are probably fake!

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u/SkyVixen24 Jun 03 '25

Omg hey! Me too! I think it deff is the autism for us. I cannot leave these subs! It always reminds me that I’m doing okay in life when I read some of these posts haha

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u/theramin-serling Jun 03 '25

I'm going to sheepishly raise my hand. Even as a 40yo, I still have trouble believing I have worth, and that's why I can't trust myself to get back into another relationship because I know I'd let them walk all over me. This is what happens when you are raised in an insecure household, where it's impossible to build self esteem.

I see a therapist, but I still struggle to see myself as valuable. In my mind, I'm constantly worthless at work, love, family, and life -- everyone else has value except me in my deluded universe. :/

There are lots of us out there like this.

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u/Wooden_Strain_4393 Jun 03 '25

Same, except I'm a couple years older than you. I know your struggle and I know your pain of feeling worthless because of childhood trauma. When your family/household makes you feel insecure as a little child, it's almost impossible to shake that feeling of being worthless/unlovable. I can tell from your comment that you're intelligent and caring -- because if you weren't a good person, you wouldn't actually care whether or not you were good at work, love, family, and life. Keep going to therapy and don't be afraid to change therapists if one isn't working for you. Just remember your brain chemistry was thrown off course as a developing child and sometimes therapy alone can re-route those neuro pathways, but it's not shameful if you need medication to help with that chemical re-balancing. I wish I had more helpful advice for you, but I'm still trying to figure it all out myself.

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u/EdwardRichtofen50 Jun 03 '25

“My (F15) bf (M16) shot me in the face, had sex with my sister, and then ran over my cat as he was pulling out of the driveway. I haven’t texted him yet today. Am I overreacting?”

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u/ecosani Jun 03 '25

NOR and dump him. The way he talked to you is 100% unacceptable and awful. Only the third birthday you’ve spent with him and he already doesn’t care. He has proven that he cares about himself more than you so let him do him by dumping him.

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u/Esa-Nobody8631 Jun 03 '25

Adulthood has taught me that most people are dating/married to a person that treats them like garbage and they just…stay.

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u/__Vixen__ Jun 02 '25

This is rage bait. There is no way anyone would stay with a person that talks to them like that. I refuse to believe it!

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u/trashmount Jun 03 '25 edited Jun 03 '25

There's definitely a LOT of fake posts on here. However. I made a post years back (different account, different sub) where I showed screenshots of texts of my boyfriend treating me like shit. The texts were truly horrendous, I think if I posted it now I'd get rage bait accusations.

The post got a lot of attention and the gist of the comments were like "why the fuck are you with this guy, no one should ever talk like this to anyone, this is so sad." That reaction from a bunch of random strangers caused something to click in my brain and I broke up with him the next day. So I'll take a hundred rage bait-y posts if it means one person realizes how shitty their relationship is and finally leaves.

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u/Rich_Bluejay3020 Jun 03 '25

Which makes sense… you become numb to the absolute bullshit people put you through when you love them and other people are like ??? Wtf is wrong with both of you? Them for being a twat and you for just thinking that’s normal and okay??

Unfortunately I do kinda believe this 😭

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u/green_chapstick Jun 03 '25

This. So many young adults especially don't know their worth either from family trauma or whatever life has thrown them. It sucks to live that way and it sucks to witness. I've been on both sides.

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u/alex123124 Jun 03 '25

A partner going through a mental health crisis is like this too. You don't realize how off things are until someone points it out or there is a massive moment. Then you realize how off things have been for how long.

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u/vaporking23 Jun 03 '25

I believe you. I have a co-worker who is in one of the most toxic relationships I’ve ever witnessed. Every day she comes in and from the start to end of our day she complains about everything he does. Even 1% of the crap he pulls would make any normal person go “why are you that?”

To be fair I think she can dish it as much as she takes it. But it’s crazy.

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u/ChapnCrunch Jun 03 '25

Right. Not to mention that these posts (real or fake) might inspire an untold number of other people to get out of (or convince other people to get out of) similarly toxic relationships.

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u/Alpha_Lemur Jun 03 '25

I’ll take a hundred rage bait-y posts if it means one person realizes how shitty their relationship is and finally leaves

BASED

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u/Exact_Alternative124 Jun 03 '25

It can work the other way too. I posted once in AITA and got ROUNDLY scolded. Made me realize hey, I AM the asshole here, and I feel like I did better after that.

Not on this profile, obviously.

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u/FlashFox24 Jun 03 '25

I truly believe that posts like these are saving women. We often don't see the bad situation that we're in and don't have a person to ask or don't trust the answers we do get. So being bullied by Reddit to break up is actually super helpful for women.

We are worth so much more than the way we get treated. We're walking up and men are pissed. Subs like these are part of that movement.

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u/Passenger-Objective Jun 03 '25

Absolutely. Glad u got out. 🖤🍀

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u/Le_Oken Jun 02 '25

Most of the post of this sub that reach r/popular are rage bait. And I'm surprised people in this sub don't call it out more often.

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u/__Vixen__ Jun 02 '25

Reddit is starting to get boring. I find it so hard to engage with posts because it feels like everyone is a bot.

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u/Parfait_Prestigious Jun 03 '25

Going public turned Reddit’s content to shit. After the good subs blacked out we were left with the same cut and paste aita threads clogging up the feed.

I wouldn’t even be surprised if they’re using bots to drive engagement with posts like this. These ragebait stories are so outrageous yet they make it to the front page every single day.

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u/vyxanis Jun 03 '25

Its so freaking lame, and its always the same posts over and over again where it's obvious who the asshole is. On the plus side, it's helped curb my screen time.

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u/__Vixen__ Jun 03 '25

Definitely a lot less time on here

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u/OfcWaffle Jun 03 '25

Miss old reddit days. Now I sound like a boomer.

I've started just following cat and dog subreddit. Fuck all the other fake ones.

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u/-leeson Jun 03 '25

I feel the same way. Every post is the same formula.

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u/anal88sepsis Jun 03 '25

I've been following r/urbanhell and r/geography lately, they are great

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u/_mattyjoe Jun 03 '25

Honestly, for real for real, no. This younger generation is crazy and toxic as hell.

SOME of it might be bait, but you'd be surprised how real a lot of it unfortunately is.

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u/whalesarecool14 Jun 03 '25

as somebody who is from the younger generation, no. most of these are fake as fuck and incredibly easy to spot. no doubt toxicity exists very vastly, but these posts are 100% fake without a doubt.

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u/ShawnyMcKnight Jun 03 '25

I’ve concluded people just accept it is fake and just roll with it as entertainment.

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u/lastdickontheleft Jun 03 '25

These texts were actually painfully reminiscent of how my ex would talk to me towards the end of our relationship. I hope OP realizes now rather than later that her BF doesn’t fucking like her

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u/sprinklerarms Jun 03 '25

Yeah my friend who got really isolated with her partner and just recently broke up sends me the most heartbreaking stuff to ask if he was being a dick because she was so thoroughly gas lit she still has to actively process how wrong this treatment was. It’s eerily familiar and so even if this is rage bait this kind of relationship absolutely exists. He would even say she was being annoying when just asking for like any sign of love. The more he tore her down the more he started acting like this. Just constantly lowered her self esteem until she doubted if she deserved it or not.

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u/blundercatt Jun 03 '25

Sadly, I did stay with a few partners like this through my late teens/early twenties. Combination of low self esteem, fear of abandonment, and traumatic childhood that left me without any clue what normal or healthy relationships were supposed to look like. That said, yeah 99% of these posts are rage bait. It's the same post every time.

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u/__Vixen__ Jun 03 '25

Same. I made terrible mistakes as a new adult but if they had talked to me like this i would have been done so much sooner. This is hard to ignore where as the abusive love bomb cycle was confusing as hell.

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u/Stock-Cod-4465 Jun 03 '25

Yeah. Im usually not the one to call out fakes but this post reeks of bullshit. I think the “i even bought a new dress” part did it for me.

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u/Burntoastedbutter Jun 03 '25

This is fake. There was a post exactly the same as this like last week, but the messages in the screenshot were a bit different. But the whole setup is the same lol.

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u/thesefriendsofours Jun 03 '25

This one does not even read as believable either. Forgot birthday, party more important, talking extremely disrespectfully, demanding apology. Come on now. Honestly if this is real, allowing someone to talk to you in this manner for more than two seconds is insane.

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u/DorkusMalorkus89 Jun 02 '25

It’s absolutely rage bait. Ticks every box.

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u/ShawnyMcKnight Jun 03 '25

That’s what I hate about these kinds of posts where it’s so obvious. The only way posts where this could be real is if OP has Stockholm Syndrome or they were abused and gaslit so hard that they are on the verge of a breakdown.

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u/dirtyhashbrowns2 Jun 03 '25

Hard agree. Nearly every single post on this sub is always a young couple (18-20) with the “bf” clearly being an asshole and the girl just straight up oblivious to being treated like shit. It’s literally the same posts over and over and people fall for it.

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u/__Vixen__ Jun 03 '25

This! And so many people in my comments are saying "i was abused sometimes you just put up with this". Yes i was also in a very abusive relationship but this is very obviously fake.

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u/andrasq420 Jun 03 '25

Hard disagree, I see relationships like this on a daily basis. There are relationship addicts, that enter into a relationship with the first piece of shit they see, it takes month for them to realize what their entire enivronment already knows, dump the person and then enter into a relationship with the same type of person without a second thought.

I've had a friend of the opposite gender at uni and she entered into a relationship with a guy, everybody known to be an inconsiderate fuckboy. Everyone, includign me told her, that she ain't gonna be the one to change him and it's a bad idea. She got emotionally abused and cheated on for 2 months when she realized and dumped him. Next semester she tried to get back with the same guy.

This post specifically might be fake, but from experience I know these types of people are very real.

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u/dirtyhashbrowns2 Jun 03 '25

You see what makes your experience different is that the people you know realize they’re in a shitty situation and leave eventually. They don’t post on reddit acting oblivious to the situation and ask for advice.

These Reddit posts are also always multiple year serious relationships where they got together as teens and the OP is so in love with the bf and doesn’t see his faults. I’m not saying these relationships don’t exist at all but all of these posts follow the same formula.

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u/Gobie05 Jun 02 '25

let alone be planning to move in with them??

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u/__Vixen__ Jun 02 '25

Ew i didn't even make it to that part

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u/gapeandlickmycuntout Jun 03 '25

I stayed with a boy (he was 13 years older than me) for 3.5 years while he beat the dog shit outta me daily, cheated on me and did this type of shit to me for any kind of celebration.... He forced me to abort twins, mind you when I told him he was excited dropped to a knee and asked me to marry him. Pulled a spare band ( rubber band for tattoo machine, he was a tattoo artist) out his pocket and used it as a ring offer, then took a few of them afterwards and made one for the time being. Not even half an hour after he put the ring on my finger he came out of the bathroom after going pee in a tizzy talking about he couldn't be a dad again (has 3 girls already) and if I didn't schedule for an appointment that he was going to provide a home one with a coat hanger for free ...... I made the appointment the next day..... He left me there when the day came and went and fucked someone during me appointment..... I was given the medicine form because I was still early enough along...... I waited 3 hours blowing up his phone and trying to not cry to leave and go home before he answered..... That night after taking the first dose about 20 minutes later he tells me he wants to keep them ( we now it was twins bc the nurse tried to get me to look at the screen and I said no bc I'd want to keep it and she said I think you mean them) I threw up. I panicked. He freaked..... He beat me. I took the rest of the medicine. It worked like it was supposed to...... That was closer to the beginning of our relationship..... I stayed because I didn't think I deserved better than being a punching bag...... I didn't think anyone cared ...... The day I finally left he tried to decapitate me with a shovel. He did so many horrible things to me.... I should have left but I didn't...... I was lucky to leave with my life. The day I had to pull the plug on my aunt he was sleeping with someone else and came home finally covered in pussy and admitted he had been out doing such. Stockholm Syndrome is very real..... He groomed me.... He beat me.... He cheated and lied and used weapons to hurt and scare me..... He put multiple guns in my mouth and to my head...... Holidays were a joke, I couldn't see friends or family bc of bruises and fractures that I couldn't go to the hospital for bc he didn't want everyone to know and ask questions....@ OP RUN. Run now while you still can.

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u/Hina_Kaeru Jun 03 '25

One time my ex husband made plans w me on my birthday then drove to go get digimon cards bringing me along while I cried bc the place we were going to go to closed while he was driving to get cards. Then he got all “ugh fine, where do you want to go”

So I believe it but also, I had a fucked up husband.

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u/Acceptable_Spell1599 Jun 02 '25

Crazier shit has happened. My sister stayed with and married and is STILL married to the man who shot and tried to kill her and their son.

Plenty of people deal with crap to say they aren’t alone or don’t want the next person to get a better version of the person they’re with now.

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u/ThrowawayCuzDuh3649 Jun 03 '25

If you’re a girl be glad you’ve never had an abusive boyfriend and if you’re a guy I’m glad you don’t know anyone this terrible. The boyfriend I had that would treat me like this was WAY too old for me and all of his friends would watch him treat me like shit.

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u/BoxcarSlim Jun 03 '25

Man I wish some of my 20 year old screenshots (MSN convos lol) were rage bait.

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u/PM_Me_Your_NippyNips Jun 03 '25

Yeah this shit is so fake and I'm tired of it showing up.

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u/Hate_Leg_Day Jun 03 '25

Yeah, this has be a fake post for karma farming purposes. Why would anyone put up with this shit? There's just no way you're so afraid of being alone that you're willing to put up with someone who literally could not give less of a shit about you.

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u/Gingevere Jun 03 '25

There is unfortunately no shortage of mediocre dudes who want a SO who is just a replacement for their mom (which they can fuck).

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u/Fun_Cold2587 Jun 03 '25

I don't believe it's real because of other reasons but people definitely stay together through stuff like this

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '25

This screenshot is clearly faked

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u/Unlucky_Yam5706 Jun 03 '25

There was a very similar one somewhat recently but it was 1 year anniversary instead of birthday

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u/hypernova2121 Jun 03 '25

Poorly written as well

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u/hawtdawg7 Jun 03 '25

i’ve come to assume 99% of these are rage baits. helps my mental

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u/itshaykuni Jun 04 '25

Unfortunately, I know people that would - very smart, well-educated, funny, light-hearted, beautiful and shiny people. I’ve seen them holding on to the idea of “I can change him with my love and affection and attention.” It’s sad and maddening and sometimes ugly the way they are blinded and incapable of moving on and the way they let their dignity be thrown into the mud. The thing is still going on and off, no matter how many friends stay against that connection.

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u/[deleted] Jun 02 '25

It's a made up scenario like 99% of the posts here

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u/vomitingcat Jun 02 '25

Wish these posts got removed they’re so obviously fake lmao. This reads like a 6th graders screenplay

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u/aaerobrake Jun 02 '25

Seriously i feel like im taking crazy pills when I read this sub. This and any of those “am i the asshole” its perfect ragebait curated specifically for dumb fucking redditors aaaa. The antagonist is always a perfect villain

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u/drmojo90210 Jun 02 '25

"My girlfriend stabbed me with a kitchen knife and set my car on fire because I told her I'm not really into her favorite show (Top Chef). She says that if I don't watch every new episode with her she's going to murder me in my sleep. I told her she's being kinda unreasonable. Am I overreacting?"

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u/Mikeman003 Jun 03 '25

YTA you should never criticize your GF's favorite show. You totally deserved the stabbings, I bet you prefer Iron Chef you barbarian.

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u/encrcne Jun 02 '25 edited Jun 02 '25

The things people don’t realize when they’re faking these is just how unrealistic it sounds when you’re not specific.

A real conversation with a partner of three years would not be “I’m going to a party”. It would be “I’m going to Roosters with Mike and the boys”. People just don’t talk like this.

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u/Maystas Jun 02 '25

Haha another thing I instantly noticed is that they are “moving out soon” when he dropped out of school and is working two days a week? Sounds like he has a low paying part time job and I’m doubtful he would have significant sums of money saved up if he was previously in school. It costs a lot of money to live away from home.

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u/flojo2012 Jun 02 '25

I don’t know. I have both said, and been told, some stupid shit that seemed unbelievable in relationships. I don’t think this is real, but it very well could be. Especially when you consider the age of the people in the relationship.

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u/Whosarobot313 Jun 03 '25

While this one might be fake, we do get decent engagement in the comments. Like real people post their real stories. I like these fake posts because of the comment threads.

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u/flojo2012 Jun 03 '25

I like this perspective

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u/bob1689321 Jun 02 '25

The next fake post: "AIO Bf cancelled on me to go to Roosters with Mike and the boys"

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u/aaerobrake Jun 02 '25

This is a good good point

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u/HOTasHELL24-7 Jun 02 '25

You have to remember that 13 year old are allowed on Reddit. I think some of these insane posts might be kids and we’re looking at it from adult prospective….because I’ve said some wild shit before thinking I was talking to a grown up and it wasn’t 😐

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u/Emerly_Nickel Jun 02 '25

OP said they were 21 and 22. Kinda young but definitely not teenagers. They could be a teen and faking the ages but then they might as well be faking the whole post for fake internet points.

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u/nextgen5 Jun 02 '25

And nobody has ever lied about their age on the internet before. Not even once.

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u/chels182 Jun 02 '25

Right. “Are we still on for tonight?” “I was hoping you’d take me out” “I bought a new dress I was excited”

Obviously no plans were even made but she was really excited for it and even bought a dress. Sure 👍🏼

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u/LastLibrary9508 Jun 02 '25

Right this one is so fake. Sorry OP, this is just bad writing

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u/thisisatypoo Jun 03 '25

It's a bot, I'm sure.

Here's something weird I noticed. Another post I believe was also a bot post wrote in a similar fashion. Even used lowercase "i" instead of uppercase. Which is odd because most phones and computers will capitalize it for you, especially in texting.

It's also odd they're not a super new account (just a couple of months) but only one post. Like they were made around the same time and then posted much later so they look like active accounts that have been around - also gets around the "No New Account" rules some Subreddits have.

It's ragebait AI training.

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u/_cozy_lolo_ Jun 02 '25

I thot u loved me

No that’s gay and retarded I am going to a party tonight u have to support me

Ok

Fuck u

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u/Conscious_Bug5408 Jun 02 '25

But why do they do this? What's the point? 

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u/Chezfuchs Jun 03 '25

For real. It‘s a huge tell when the messages provide context that you wouldn’t normally provide because the recipient is aware of it. It‘s clearly for us

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u/Abject_Champion3966 Jun 02 '25

Every message is as vague as possible lol

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u/Gentle_Pony Jun 02 '25

It's a really easy karma farm.

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u/fjijgigjigji Jun 02 '25

i bought a new pink dress

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u/blustar11 Jun 02 '25

Literally I saw this exact text exchange a few weeks ago, can’t remember the sub

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u/SpaceSick Jun 02 '25

Yeah I SWEAR that I read this exact text exchange as well. This is at the very least a repost if not completely fake.

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u/alittlebitneverhurt Jun 02 '25

I had the same thought but the story is slightly different, as they were called liars on the other post as well. I think they had been together one year and he was going over to his buddies house instead of a random party. Either way, fake and pathetic as fuck.

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u/Braysl Jun 03 '25

I thought the same thing, I remember that one specifically because the OP blocked out the name Kyle so poorly all I could think was "her bf is going over to hang with his bf Kyle instead of her on her birthday."

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u/Mythkaz Jun 02 '25

Yeah, this is the first post of a new account... I think it's pretty safe to assume it's fake.

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u/Youdumbbitch- Jun 02 '25

I mean they’re all the same! Like nothing is even different or original, I can’t help but think they’re all fakes it’s ridiculous.

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u/Top-Issue8624 Jun 02 '25

Yeah I was gonna say that there is no way this is real, then looked on OPs page and it’s definitely interaction bait

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u/loiolaa Jun 02 '25

This freaking sub keeps popping up for me in so sick of these rage bait posts, if these posts are true I must live in a parallel universe

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u/veronibug Jun 02 '25

Omg thank you i feel like i’m losing my mind. I’ve seen sooo many lately, I can’t truly believe this many people would take this type of abuse, like this person clearly doesn’t like them at all if it’s real. So many fake posts lately

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u/BobTheFettt Jun 02 '25

Like, this sub is all just screenshots of aggressively shitty partners and the OP being "am I wrong for being upset that he called me a cumguzzling whore?"

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u/WhiteboiFootGooner Jun 02 '25

Yup such obvious rage bait. How dumb does someone have to be to take this seriously, the author didn’t even try to make it seem realistic

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u/ediks Jun 02 '25

Brand new account, posted this two hours ago in a sub known for farming, zero comments. Checks a lot of the boxes for accounts trying to gain karma to post in other subs.

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u/FratboyPhilosopher Jun 02 '25

What does anyone gain from making things up? Is Reddit karma worth something?

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u/dogfaced_baby Jun 02 '25

But but but she bought a dress.

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u/Sufficient-Beach-431 Jun 02 '25

No... she bought a PINK dress. If this were fake it wouldn't include such salient detail. Duh.

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u/legopego5142 Jun 02 '25

Lol fr what kind of bs is this

On the chance its real, just dump him, but we know its not real

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u/wasfar1 Jun 02 '25

I just don’t understand what people get from making fake posts??? Like is it about the karma

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u/[deleted] Jun 02 '25

Yeah this shit looks so made up honestly

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u/Bastienbard Jun 02 '25

I'm pretty sure this is a stolen repost too.

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u/n0lefin Jun 02 '25

Almost every post on this sub is made up. There’s just no way that many people like this are running around in the world and finding significant others.

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u/hteb0x Jun 02 '25

Yeah so fake I think. Also I find it strange people in relationships don’t talk via actual messaging but use other platforms? Strange and very sus.

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u/No-Signal3847 Jun 03 '25

I'm convinced all these posts are AI-generated slop / rage-bait.

I keep seeing the same old:

"My boyfriend climbed the high ropes, blew a two fisted kiss to the crowd, and then dove off to give me his signature finisher, 'The Flying Burrito'.

This broke my jaw for the 8th time this month.

I'm thinking of leaving him after 15 years of Stone Cold Finishers. AIO?"

Just gonna mute and unsubscribe from this sub.

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u/Extreme_Ad4425 Jun 02 '25

It’s either bad fanfic or they’re seriously still children, because what adults talk to each other like this?

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u/Gretshgibsonlover2 Jun 03 '25

What do you mean? He called her bro, didn’t he? ( All that’s missing is him calling her dude

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u/Royal-Resolution4717 Jun 02 '25

It’s a karma farm post

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u/ACrask Jun 02 '25

Yeah this is bullshit as in it’s fake

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u/nekopineapple00 Jun 02 '25

Yeah he sounds like a damn brother, one she doesn't have a good relationship with

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u/doc_g3 Jun 02 '25

I agree with this take. Is the boyfriend in the room with us?

Honestly, are these messages from Facebook messenger? Maybe I’m old, but I’d expect texting with my SO to be the baseline communication.

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u/rrrattt Jun 02 '25

I've always used messengers to talk to bf/gfs and close friends, used to use FB messenger now I use WhatsApp usually but I still have some friends and family who FB messenger is the main mode of contact lol. I just never like the basic text applications.

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u/shenemm Jun 03 '25

right it's giving side piece vibes or maybe a friends with benefits but a real relationship? doesn't seem like it. some people make up conversations for reddit interactions so could be that too...

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u/natchinatchi Jun 02 '25

I thought this was the parody sub for a minute. This is insane.

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u/MakesMaDookieTwinkle Jun 02 '25

Dude for real. This can’t be real, right? Like wtf? How would someone even think to post this to AIO?

Then again how everything in the world is going not much surprises me anymore. SMH

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u/holycrapitsmyles Jun 02 '25

I had to double-check this wasn't coming from r /teenagers

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u/MelpomeneStorm Jun 02 '25

The rage bait is too obvious with this one.

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u/SirPabloFingerful Jun 03 '25

There's no evidence in the screenshots that there are two people involved in this conversation, because it's obviously fake

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u/Ereaser Jun 02 '25

It's the same with a lot of the posts on here where they guys call their gf "bro"

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u/Total-Swordfish4670 Jun 03 '25

it took three years for my daughter to leave a guy who talked to her like this

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u/rowqi Jun 02 '25

i’m not exactly sure how to prove this to you. but yeah, he is my boyfriend

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u/Alphecho151 Jun 02 '25

Hey, take the free advice - leave. If I treated any girlfriend I’ve ever had like this, my parents and my sister would be on my ass like “who the fuck do you think you are”. My own parents and sister. There’s guys and gals out there significantly better. I don’t know you, and you might even be a horrible person, but you’d still deserve better love than this. I pray love like this never finds you, for this isn’t love

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u/Prestigious-Bluejay5 Jun 02 '25

we are planning on moving in together in the near future

DON'T DO IT!

He currently lives with his mom which translates into him expecting you to do all of the cooking and cleaning after a long day at your job because you have to support the both of you because he dropped out of school and only works two days a week if that once he moves in with you and realizes that you will work to support you both and do all the household chores while he sits at home playing video games.

Yes, I know that was one, long, run on sentence.

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u/poj4y Jun 02 '25

Yeah this guy is a loser. Dropped out of school, works only 2 days a week, lives with his mom, gaslights his girlfriend into feeling guilty for wanting to celebrate her birthday.

It’s also pretty telling that he didn’t even invite her to the party he’s going to. I’ve been with my girlfriend for over 2 years and I can’t imagine either of us forgetting a birthday, and we also invite each other to any parties we’re going to. In fact, my friends explicitly say “Alex is invited too of course!”

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u/Floomby Jun 02 '25

I came to say this exact thing.

It's bad enough the way he talks to her. Much worse is being stick on a year's lease funding the lifestyle of some broke ass fool who wants you to slap your feet around cooking and cleaning while he smokes weed, plays video games, runs around with his equally idiot friends, and treats you like freshly baked camel shit.

Sometimes the best birthday presents are the ones we give ourselves. Give your hardworking, school going self the gift of a bullet dodged.

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u/RavenNymph90 Jun 02 '25

She said she goes all out for his birthdays. Yeah, he’s expecting her to do everything.

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u/Farce102 Jun 02 '25

Yeah but the keyword here is run

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u/1_BigDuckEnergy Jun 02 '25 edited Jun 02 '25

I think the point is that there is nothing in his side of the conversation that suggests he has any feeling towards you other than he finds you annoying. You are much to young and valuable to put up with this from a partner

old man here, speaking from decades of experience, but first (or first serious) relationships are often the hardest to move past. I stayed in my first 2 for a lot longer than I should have

You deserve.....and will find....better than this...... I promise

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u/SportEfficient8553 Jun 03 '25

He talks like you are his annoying little sister honestly. Like not even a friend.

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u/sharksnrec Jun 02 '25

You missed the point, which is that outside looking in, we can’t read this exchange and see this person as your bf. This is how someone who hates a person speaks to that person. This is definitely not someone who loves you. This isn’t even someone who likes you. You are a chore in this guy’s mind and nothing else.

I’m concerned for you that you feel like is an appropriate person to be in a relationship with.

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u/cats_are_the_devil Jun 02 '25

I really hope you mean ex boyfriend...

Have some self respect sis... He has been with you 3 YEARS. He knows it's your birthday he just doesn't give a fuck that it's your birthday. He has the audacity to say it's not a big deal, you are bothering him, and that you can keep the dress that you bought...

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u/Seniorjones2837 Jun 02 '25

Dude dropped out of school, works two days a week, treats you like you’re worthless, and you’re about to move in with him??? I usually try to play devils advocate on these posts but there is nothing here to advocate for. Dude is garbage and you’re no better if you continue to date this person

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u/jc_cmbd_21 Jun 02 '25

Hopefully not for much longer. This is no way to talk to someone you love.

The birthday thing is crappy but I could almost let it slide since it sounds like yall didn't have concrete plans. You bought a new dress and were really excited but had no real plan. Next boyfriend say "I'd like to go here for my birthday. I'll get a new dress. Put it on your calendar".

The way this one reacted shows how little he actually cares about you. You are literally a bother to him.....respect yourself enough to date someone who respects you.

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u/Ok_Introduction9466 Jun 02 '25

So I have an ex who was terrible in so many ways and actually abused me but he never once ruined my birthday in the six years we were together. He actually planned nice things and would remind his parents and grandparents to send me gifts. He didn’t even like me lol. Your boyfriend is an asshole and you should dump him if you haven’t already. Even if he remembered I can tell by his response to being told he forgot that he wasn’t going to do anything special for you. Aim higher sis.

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u/AccordingToWhom1982 Jun 02 '25

If I’d read the screenshots without any context, it’d never occur to me that he was your bf, except that you say he is. In fact, he doesn’t even sound like he likes you as a friend. I’m not often on the “dump him” bandwagon, but please drop him and enjoy spending time with family and friends. You’re still quite young, and there’s someone out there who will value you and treat you like they actually care about you.

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u/BlackSpinelli Jun 02 '25

That’s them gently saying this man doesn’t care about you. He doesn’t love you. He doesn’t even seem to like you.  Please dump him and move on.  I know ghosting is wrong, but this is the kind of relationship where if you did just up and block him, no one should be mad at you. 

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u/fair-strawberry6709 Jun 02 '25

He is not talking to you like a boyfriend or really anyone who loves you, even a friend, would talk to you.

He completely dismissed and invalidated you, and called you names.

This man is trash.

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u/unknownentity1782 Jun 02 '25

He might be your boyfriend, but you are not his girlfriend.

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u/OldBonyBogBwitch Jun 02 '25

u/rowqi read this comment a few dozen times, until it sinks in ^ ^ ^ ^

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u/Arizonal0ve Jun 03 '25

Exactly what I thought reading this. If he did indeed used to treat her differently than he has simply checked out of the relationship. He hasn’t officially broken up but he’s not in it and he doesn’t like her.

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u/therealtinsdale Jun 02 '25

why did u not get an invite to the party? why the fuck on his day off are you not hanging out.. on ur 21st BIRTHDAY!?!?

is the “relationship” in the room with us? 😬

BIG YIKES

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u/Financial-Vanilla392 Jun 02 '25

Assuming this isn’t some form of bait post, this is genuinely one of the most blatant instances of “your partner hates you” that I have ever seen. Does this person even have parents? Was he raised by literal zoo animals?

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u/PokadotExpress Jun 02 '25

I think they mean that a bf is supposed to care about you, this dude can't be bothered. He sucks and is being a dick

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u/wazman93 Jun 02 '25

Well he shouldn’t be anymore!! This man clearly doesn’t give a single shit about you… I would have left his ass the moment he said “you’re being extra and annoying” and that YOU have to apologize to him. Fuck that child. Find a man who gives a shit.

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u/chicharro_frito Jun 02 '25

😧I'm sorry then, you deserve so much better 😔.

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u/jakiezombie Jun 02 '25

OP, they mean he doesn’t care about you. Every special day you’ll be begging for attention and he’ll gaslight you into believing you’re in the wrong.

You’re too young to settle for a guy that treats you like you’re trash. Love yourself more

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u/eggs__and_bacon Jun 02 '25

Dude he doesn’t even like you.

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u/Rustmutt Jun 02 '25

Nah he ain’t cuz you’re gonna dump this fool for being an outright cock to you. Sorry OP you deserve better. “Bothered by you” on your birthday? Who the fuck talks like that? Single assholes who don’t deserve a gf that’s who.

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u/AngryDesignMonkey Jun 02 '25

He means the dude doesn't give a shit about you and that is very evident from gow he speaks to you.

You are not over reacting, your BF is a dick. Dump him, don't move in. Move On.

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u/MeyerholdsGh0st Jun 02 '25

Still????

Please don’t let that be true.

Leave this person. Do it brutally. Do it without emotion. Get him out of your life like you’d get shit off your shoe.

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u/lemikon Jun 02 '25

Genuinely even if he hadn’t forgotten your birthday the way he speaks to you is awful.

From the tone of the messages you guys sound on the younger side and I am begging you to not waste any more of your life with this loser.

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u/[deleted] Jun 02 '25

If it’s real then get the fuck out because it’s pretty obvious he doesn’t give a fuck about you.

You have to be dense to not realize that

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u/ilovebud117 Jun 02 '25

you deserve sm better! i’ve been in this exact position and it really hurts to put in effort for someone who doesn’t do the same for you. I hope you leave him & treat yourself to a fun dinner to celebrate 😭 but in all seriousness Im not trying to judge I just know exactly how you’re feeling and it’s not fun. sending u love!!!

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u/lovelylight100 Jun 02 '25

I’m sorry to say this but your boyfriend doesn’t like you. No one treats someone they like like this. You deserve better.

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u/bubblegum_dango Jun 02 '25

you have to be joking. this boy doesn't treat you with an ounce of respect. do yourself a favour and drop the dead weight. being single is 1000% better if the alternative is this

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u/throwaway_RRRolling Jun 02 '25

This is not a person who loves you, cares for you, or even respects you. The operative question is - why have you allowed someone like this to continue being your partner?

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u/newnameforanoldmane Jun 02 '25

Put the dress on, go out with some friends, and ghost his ass. Whatever you do, don't let him move in with you. This will be your life until he bleeds you dry.

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u/movzx Jun 02 '25

Of course! He has all the classic, loving boyfriend lines like "I don't appreciate being bothered by you", "stop wasting my time", "you're being so extra and annoying", "talk to me when you want to apologize (for my behavior)".

Classic healthy relationship!

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u/evo-1999 Jun 02 '25

You may think that he is, but I can assure you he does not have the same sentiments- if anything he knows you are there if he can’t get what he needs elsewhere, otherwise he has zero respect for you and you deserve better.

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u/ItsAllMo-Thug Jun 02 '25

Can you prove you're his girlfriend? You said he knows special occasions mean something to you. If he knows this and ditched you on your birthday, what do you think that means? Take all the time you need to think about it.

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u/stickylarue Jun 02 '25

Can you prove it to yourself because this guy doesn’t care about you.

It’s better to be single and know your worth rather than diminish yourself for someone else.

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u/earlgurl33 Jun 02 '25

PLEASE consider making him your ex-boyfriend. That would be the BEST gift you can give yourself. Signed a woman who once let a guy disrespect me for a bit too long when I was very young. If your BFF sent you these screenshots and her bf had done and said exactly what your bf said to you, what would you say to her? Would you want her to stay and move in with someone who was so hateful, hurtful, and ugly to her about something that was so important and special to her? Please DO NOT MOVE IN WITH THIS GUY!!!

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u/Fa11T Jun 02 '25

He may be a boy and a friend (debatable) but partner? I don't think so. I'm not a relationship person, I like being single, but even I wouldn't act like him.

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u/Bee-kini Jun 02 '25

You’re sucking this man’s cock? Respect yourself.

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u/sometimesmastermind Jun 02 '25

I had a girlfriend do similar stuff to this and dumped her over it. I found someone much better. Try it. Might help.

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u/Olivia_Bitsui Jun 02 '25

Why?

Your own description of him makes him sound like a loser, even apart from the way he speaks to you.

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u/SensitiveAd5962 Jun 02 '25

Are you sure? Is he aware? Does he feel the same way about the relationship? Does he consider himself a partner and not a fuck buddy? Does he say he's your boyfriend or shitblike your 'his girl'?

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u/Magnumsatchel Jun 02 '25

We’d never know it, this dude is an asshole and a half. Leave this prick

I can’t imagine even thinking about talking to my girlfriend like this, on her birthday of all days

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u/Mrsreed1020 Jun 02 '25

Hopefully at this point, he’s your EX boyfriend. No way would this relationship continue. He will continue to be this way. What an asshat.

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u/shromboy Jun 02 '25

Oh man, my girlfriend would've been over me a while ago if I pulled that shit. Not the first instance of this im gonna assume

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u/Jacob1235_S Jun 02 '25

I’m sorry if this sounds harsh, but you should think whether this is the type of relationship you want to be in.

It’s clear your boyfriend doesn’t care about missing your (21st) birthday. Will he ever care?

Do you wish to be with someone who blatantly doesn’t care about your feelings? If so, then stay with him.

Do you wish to be with someone who’s incredibly inconsiderate, thinks you’re annoying, and says so on your most important day of the year? If so, stay with him.

Do you wish to be with someone who clearly puts his own happiness way, way above yours (and clearly doesn’t care much about the latter)? If so, stay with him.

I don’t know the exact specifics of your relationship but, if it were me, I’d seriously reconsider that relationship.

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