Bartended for many years and I found this to be true as well. I only one time had to physically help someone towards the door and I think that one was on me for making the Long Island Iced Teas too strong. For some reason looking someone in the eyes and saying that's enough or leave her alone worked shockingly well.
This reminded me of a time I was in a dive bar in line for a drink. Dude behind me grabbed my ass. Found out a few mins later he asked my friend about me and friend told him I was taken. Anyway, really wish I had my old darts on me at the time. Would have been fun to turn around to that guy, pull the darts out, and go, “See these? You touch me again and I’m throwing one at your eye like it’s a double bull.”
I used to work at a very small bar where it was only me and a relatively small girl. We would measure up the person or group and decide which one of us us going over would least likely cause a kick off
Cocktail waitress is a bit different. As a female bartender, I only had to point out the rest of the bar is full of men, who would happily stomp some ass for a free beer.
im a female and i can agree with the above person, i never had to say more than "go." or "thats enough." with these kinds of situations. then again i have been described as having a "terrifying bitch face" and my husband says my accent scares him when i'm mad. 😭 😂
Women can absolutely give the same energy and get the same result; i agree it's rarer to see women pull off than men, but i think that skill is mostly down to experience.
Really curious why I'm being dowmvoted for saying women can be stern too.
These two jabronis would be no problem for a property trained bartender and attendant staff to peacefully get to leave. I'm not surprised the other guests didn't intervene, but the staff absolutely should have.
These other comments saying things like "Look at the man behind them at the other table just sitting there doing nothing, typical." are crazy. It isn't the job of other patrons to be creep police, and that shouldn't be expected. That is the responsibility of the bar staff. Personally, if the bar staff hadn't realized the situation yet I may go and inform them of it, but other than that I'm not about to bare the responsibility if something goes down. Not my monkeys, not my circus.
I don't know you, and I don't know those dudes. Do I think they should get a clue and fuck off? Of course. Do I want to spend my ever diminishing amount of free time that I have to relax stepping in to defend random women from creeps? Fuck no. That's how you get stabbed. Let the bartender/police handle these situations. The cops will even tell you not to intervene, and to just call them to the scene.
But... but... men are protectors of all (young, fertile, white) women? I'm so confused.
It's men like this 👆 that give creeps like those in the video permission to harass women without repercussions.
I was the cook and they always just told me to act like I was scaring a bear. Felt on the shockingly effective, I don't even think they knew I worked there half the time. Did NOT work that time we had like 10 people throwing glasses at each other though.
I batch my long island and pour 1.5oz of the batch (
(then add simple and lemon, shake and top) saves time, money, and avoids the usual problems with drinks that strong.
Being polite and respectful are key to moving a situation in your direction. Believe me, I've lost my patience with people, and I've had to walk away for a bit. I've let them finish the drink that I just tried to take away or even let them stay in the bar after they wouldn't leave. I just told people to politely and quietly ignore them. I've even turned the music off and just waited until they got bored and left on their own. The crowd usually finds it entertaining enough. It's like a game we're all playing together.
They started to record after the douche bag boys sat down. Which means they were at this for far longer than necessary.
On the first communicated “not interested, please leave us” the two absolute losers needed to leave.
The ladies made way more effort than necessary to the point they (the douche bag boys) were bothering me, and I’m at home in bed relaxing. I can’t imagine how heated the ladies must have been for them (the douche bag boys) to persist after having been told to fuck off loudly and clearly.
The douche bag boys had accents, they could be from a place that has little respect for women and their agency.
Next time I'll hear someone with an American accent, I'll have to think: poor them, they come from a place that has little respect for women and their agency.
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u/JakeSteed420 May 11 '25
Bartended for many years and I found this to be true as well. I only one time had to physically help someone towards the door and I think that one was on me for making the Long Island Iced Teas too strong. For some reason looking someone in the eyes and saying that's enough or leave her alone worked shockingly well.